So my BF really wants a sexy lap dance and his birthday is in november. Im way self concious about my body no matter how much he tells me im beautiful he loves my body etc I have been losing weight so i told him i would give him a special suprise for his birthday! I have NO idea where to start...what moves,what music,what to wear!! I just dont know what to do i want him to think its sexy not stupid and silly!! PLEASE HELP ME!! Serious answers PLEASE
2006-09-25 09:29:34 · 15 answers · asked by TEMPTRESS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im NOT TO YOUNG and im not going to buy him a lap dance he wouldnt go if i tried! He wants one from ME not some hoe in a club...and i want to do it for him i dance i have since i was 3 years old...i just have no idea where to start to do a sexy erotic lap dance...i dont want him to think its stupid or not sexy etc....
2006-09-25 09:35:51 · update #1
Try out this website,(below) order something, make a 'sexy song' cd, rent Showgirls, cause he wants a lap dance. Striptease doesnt really show any lap dance scenes. But if you watch Showgirls you will get some idea, except do it slowly! lol
Dont worry, you will be sexy!
Pointers:
First and foremost, STRETCH!
Before you begin, make sure he is in a comfortable chair, one that is able to support the both of you. Don't use a folding chair or else you wont be able to get the full effect! Have him sit in the chair and put on a blindfold.
1. First start the song, then walk into the middle of the room, have him take the blindfold off. Try not to laugh.:)
2. Begin dancing, using your hips, look him in the eyes. Look sexy-serious.
3.Moving in closer, as the song goes on, place both hands on his shoulder, give him a little massage to help him relax,.Move in with one knee rubbing up cautiously and slowly up one thigh. You dont want to accidentally knee him in the n***!
4.rest your knee there for a moment while you undo your top, let the top fall. Do not look self concious.
5. Stick your breasts in his face and slide down. Make sure he has no stubble! Rub them around for a bit!
6. Slide down his body. Resting infront of his ****, look down at it. Reach with both hands up his chest and carress him.
7. Slowly get up by sliding your head up his body until you reach his neck and give him a little peck, get up and, do a little more dancing.
8. Lift up one leg, rest your heel upon one of his shoulders, like the splits, slide the rest of your leg, to the back of the knee until your face to face and give him a kiss. Smile.
9.Rotate your leg so that you can slide your knee down his chest, then your hands down back to his ****
10. grab and carress his inner thighs, then back off.
11. Turn around let him check out your behind, back up and sit on his lap, girate a little on his groin area. Arch your back.
12. Lay back onto him, lie your head against his so that you are neck to neck and place his hands on your breasts. Cause you can let him touch!
13. Put your arms around him backwards, whle you are grinding on him.
Use your imagination, have fun with it. He's your man, make his birthday an unforgettable one!
Good luck. Hope the above helps!
2006-09-25 10:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by madamjenn40 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all RELAX!! If he didn't REALLY think you were sexy and had a great bod he wouldn't want the lap dance! Now as to what to do, just watch a video that has some good stripping in it, Striptease is a good one, you just dance and take your clothes off slowly and seductively. What to wear? Short skirt, hoes with a garter belt, g-string, sexy things you you'd see in Victoria Secret and other places like that. Music, Kiss's Strutter is always a good one. The main thing is to just RELAX, be confindent that you are sexy and have a good time with it! You're man will LOVE it! I promise ;-)
2006-09-25 16:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Tower of T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HEY WHOA....ok i understand that alot of women think strippers are hoes..but they are no diffrent from the secretary that is sleeping with her boss or some other co-worker to climb the corporate ladder. I waitress in a strip club and my sister is a very sexy and sucessful dancer.. but as for the lapdance part..if he wants one from you then do it up...get your hair done and start tanning and buy a sexy outfit and practice in a mirror..not only will he LOVE it you will feel SOOO much better about yourself too.. pick music YOU LIKE ..and use candles instead of lights or a lamp shade with a silk sheet draped over it ..and use the couch because that way you have more room than in a chair...blindfold him if you like and dance for him untill you feel you are ready to take the blindfold off of him.. few drinks would not hurt either(for yoursefl) good luck sista!
2006-09-25 16:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is totally honest with you, and you two have a good realtionship together...you shouldn't feel self conscious. When he tells you that he loves the way you look, and he thinks you are beautiful...well give the man what he wants! Seriously, It's all about feeling the music and the moment.... I can't actually give you a "song list" but just think in your mind about sexy things that you like to do together. I'm sure if it's something that he really wants from you, no matter what you decide to do, it will be fabulous! Good luck!
2006-09-25 16:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to get over is your fright. If he loves you and your body then don't worry about it. Just go for it. Have a stiff drink before if it helps. Put on some music that will get you into the mood close your eyes and just dance. You will see how excited he gets and you both can go from there. Your biggest hurdle is you getting over what your body looks like when he thinks its fine.
2006-09-25 17:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be a staged dance for him to become wild with desire. Sometimes something a little less rehearsed is better. Be a tease and a flirt... make suggestive comments... Of course he can't do anything because you'll be at a restaurant... you'll be touching his inner thigh, nibbling his neck and just getting him worked up... once in the car...just make out with him and tell him how much you want him.... then go home (stay close to him in the car though...don't let him cool off).
When you get home...have the music playing in the background...
walk up to him with that look in your eye.... touch him all over...slowly undress him little by little with brief kissing in between. For every article of clothing you take off him...tell him to take one off you... and continue till you are both naked and all worked up...and just do it right there.... don't bother with going to the bedroom...on the chair or the sofa or on the floor...doesn't matter where it is. The important thing here is that you drag it out as long as you both can take it...pausing long enough to kiss him and tease him.... tell him how excited you are and how much you want him.
This is truly seduction...and it doesn't need to be a dance technically. Although you can make some dance moves over him before you allow him to have you...It's all about creating desire... Go get him Girl...Drive him crazy for you...
2006-09-25 17:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by john s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Rent the move Players Club that may give you a general over view of what to do. Pay close attention to the part when Lisa Rae did her first dance on the stage to a slow jam by R-Kelly.
2006-09-25 16:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, don't worry. Watch that movie "striptease" for some ideas. If it's just you and him, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. He'll love it, (no matter what you think of your body) and it'll be fun for you too. How wonderfully sweet that he wants you to do that for him. Thank God that he's not going out to get one for his birthday. Get the movie and practice (when he's not home) in front of a mirror. I think you'll both be surprised!! Match your outfit with your music too, I used to use a school girl uniform with the ACDC song Squealer. It was a hit. Good luck!!
2006-09-25 16:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by andi b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but I get a couple beers in me I can be super sexy and seductive. Try it! If you can't drink then.. for your first time shut the lights off and only have a little light until you are comfy with it... it'll be hot.. just loosen up (beer)
2006-09-25 16:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Amy Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahah if u think u wouldnt be able to relax then dont do it! but if u think its just a bit of nervousness coz its sth new ur trying to do then go for it....i just did a stripteaze for my hubby last month after preparin for it (psychologically and physically) 2 weeks before it. and it was so worth it, i never saw him happier in his life and i had so much fun as well.
2006-09-25 16:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by mungosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋