I mean, I didn't ask for it, but when we recently met she volunteered the information. She acted as if and didn't want any sex until marriage and we have never had sex.
It feels as if all this time she really was a virgin and now she lost it to other man. It feels like cheating.
I would have had no problem if she had told me before or simply avoiding saying what she said.
2006-09-25 09:23:59 · 33 answers · asked by scherzo_for_motorcycle_orchestra 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
well that sucks for you.... she was just ashamed... can you blame her?
2006-09-25 09:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by ♥SUGAR♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 3 years, does it really matter? If such a small thing means so much to do, then I think you should really reevaluate the quality of your relationship. Like a lot of women, she probably regretted that she lost her virginity to another man. She probably wished she could turn back time, so that she could remain a virgin until marriage (possibly with you). I think that if such a tiny thing as this makes you not want to be with her or stop loving her, then you really didn't care that much for her in the first place. I feel really sorry for your girlfriend. It seemed she really tried hard to forget what happened in the past, and you're probably breaking her heart for making such a big deal about it.
2006-09-25 09:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be irritated by what she did. She LIED to you! And that wasnt a little white lie either. You should tell her how you feel.. but then move on. The past is exactally that: The past. She made some mistakes she isnt proud of. If you love her, move on. Live your life to the fullest and love her with all your heart just as you did before. Just make she she knows that you were hurt and that she doesnt have to be afraid to tell you her past. Dont judge.. just let her know.. and dont stress over the situation.
2006-09-25 09:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you still havent had sex with her? im a little torn here because I am unsure of her motives..I mean when she lost her virginity was it maybe an unpleasant experience and she chose to 'erase' it? if thats the case I would say have a little sympathy. However if she's had sex witha few men and told you she was a virgin I would feel hurt and betrayed as well.
2006-09-25 09:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is extremely interested in you and was afraid telling you might scare you away. How would I react? Ask her why she waited to tell you, and then go from there. She might have a very good reason for not telling you... maybe she was taken advantage of or something. Don't judge her actions until you know the entire story.
2006-09-25 09:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why after 3 years is she still only your girlfriend? Do you have commitment problems? Have you ever told a lie? Maybe she didn't think you could handle it (which she would've been right about) or maybe she is ashamed and wants to believe that with you it will be like a first time.
2006-09-25 09:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by L P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should ask yourself why she witheld this information. Do you think she felt as though you might judge her? After all, if it causes a problem at this point, it may prove your relationship was weak from the start. At least by delaying the information, she gave the relationship a fighting chance. I can understand why you'd feel betrayed, but if you love her, you can get over it.
2006-09-25 09:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by the_edsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on experience.... my husband told me he wasn't a virgin then on the night of the wedding told me that he was a virgin and only had been with me. WOW... I felt so betrayed and hurt. I just married this man and he lied. Never the less ... no one person is perfect. You have to decide what your boundaries are and if you can live with it... My husband and I are still together.
2006-09-25 09:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Just being myself! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She found someone she wanted to have sex with and did. She was honest and told you. Either accept and move on or break up.
Maybe she thought your were waiting for marriage. As long as she isn't dating him and committed to you stay with her but at least tell her sex should now be part of the relationship since she isn't waiting anymore.
2006-09-25 09:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend with a similar situation and I offer the advice I told him. Two things to remember. Frist is that she knows what another is like and she has chosen you. Second is that the nervousness is gone and it will be MUCH more enjoyable. Be glad. Not sad!!
2006-09-25 09:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Henry A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her *** if she will lie to you about that she will lie to you about any thing because now when she tells you something you will be wondering is she telling the trueth trust is very important in a relationshipty beleave me i know me and my husband have been married for 15 months and i made my mistakes but he loves me and it took me almost loseing him to relize what i have and now i am very honst with him no matter what or who it hurts because he is the single most important person in my life and i love him so maybe you can work it out just always teel thr truth i learned my leason i just hopr that your gf will do the same. good luck
2006-09-25 09:33:02 · answer #11 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋