Which personality traits and attributes do you find most attractive within a man?

Question

Earlier, I posed a simple enough question relating to primary socialization in order to extract psychologically valid and intelligent comments pertaining to attachment and deprivation or whether, or not, a child needs a mother.

Expecting, perhaps, reflective and scientifically valid reply, I was however deeply moved, touched even, by such devotional and emotional response that exhibited genuine love, storgic love and sentiment.

How wonderfully inspiring it was to acquire this knowlege from such well-balance, rounded and healthy individuals that together make this world a better place.

I have asked many questions and have furnished just as many replies and therefore would welcome your feedback to the question I have asked above.

As always your replies are held in the strictest of confidence, answers on a postcard, please!!!

I find all your input informative and highly entertaining.

Fondest regards

James.

Answer 1

In terms of physical attributes, I look at eyes. Eyes tell you what you need to know about the man's personality, and that is of course the most important thing about a potential partner. One can find in a person's eyes, their level of interest, their love and affection, and their intentions, amongst other things. There is nothing more rewarding than seeing the dancing glimmer of love and affection in a loved one's eyes, and as such, it makes sense to judge the potential for such a thing prior to any kind of emotional dalliance.

In a man, I seek kindness,compassion, understanding, loyalty, affection, humour, intelligence, the desire for a family and the upholding of family traditions, generosity of spirit (ie, the offering of one's time to aid others), and patience.

I am not the easiest of people to cope with, insecure, perfectionistic, and all too anxious, frustratingly indecisive and submissive, and a man must accomodate this, or else lead me (gently) to correcting my flaws.

I adore children, and desire both to work with, and to raise children, biological and adopted, some with special needs.

I am traditional, and wish to maintain family traditions such as eating together at the table every night, Sunday lunches, tradional family naming patterns, etc.

I need a man who wants the same things as me, and loves me for all I want, all I am, and all I can be. These are the qualities I subsequently seek, and the qualities I deem most attractive in a man. Any man who meets all my requests must surely be perfect.

And thank fate, I have found him! xXx

Answer 2

Money can relieve certain pressures, but it doesn't buy love and the shine of the blingy trinkets dulls with age. Psychologists suggest that we look for positive qualities and attributes in potential partners that we recognise in ourselves and those around us. In some ways there's a lot of truth in it, however we try to deny or supress it.

I grew up in a family that were quite politically active and when I meet a guy that values the importance of social justice I do feel more of a connection with them. I also look for strong features - whether it's a strong jaw line, big hands...whatever. I don't know if that's down to the whole mirroring thing or what, but its definately a physical thing I go for. I need to be able to hold a conversation with a guy - he needs to be able to develop his own opinions. Honesty, respect, warmth, humour and trust are important. I need to be able to fly and not feel restrained, but to know I can come home to nest whenever I'm tired. And I need to feel that the guy wants the same. - Being stifled is not an option, but nor is being ignored!

Answer 3

A man that has vision and purpose. A man that has a plan for his life but is not selfish. One that lays a foundation before he builds, and knows what a foundation is. One that is humble and giving. He would be a leader even if just in his own home, and understands that to be a leader you must be a servant and also know where you are going. A good man is a fair and just man who ascribes to the laws of man and God and teaches them by example to his children. One who listens more than he talks and doesn't expect everyone else to use big words like him. ; )

Answer 4

Do you know what I find most attractive in a man?? Honesty is always good, genuinity, nothing is more of a turn on then when a man compliments you and you know he means it. Someone who has a sense of humor and doesn't dwell on things and someone who gives as much as he takes, I like a man to be interested in what I have to say aswel as me listening to him. Get these things happening and you'll be well away.

Answer 5

Only shallow women seek riches, physical attraction and things that wear off. Real women seek honesty, strength, a sense of responsibility and most of all love and respect from a real man.

Answer 6

I dont like machoism it is really off putting. I like humour in a man! That is what I really love about my husband he can always make me laugh and he is tuned in to my wacky sense of humour!!!! I like his thoughfulness, his sweet loving manner. I love his blue eyes and his appreciation of me. I like his brown hair, his lovely blue eyes and his hairy chest!!! I really love his glasses they really suit him and make him look even more handsome!! I like the way that he is kind of slim but not too skinny!! I like the fact that he enjoys my cooking and is himself a good chef who returns the favour!!

Answer 7

Extremely handsome, extremely rich, and excellent in the bedroom department. He doesn't exist though - so I'll just stay married!!

Answer 8

gotta be quite good looking, alright money wise, funny, caring, sensible, someone who respects you for who you are.