if 2 people really love each other, how long should they wait to get married? Like say they have been datting for a year should they wait longer?
2006-09-25 08:36:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion, live together first, then get married after 5 years. I know that seems like a long time, but it's enough time to deal with life altering changes. My ex did a 180 on me when he lost his job... we were together over 3 years. One of my friend's exes started cheating on her after his father died... I don't know the connection to death and cheating, but life altering things make you act strangely... they were together 2 1/2 years.
If you want to be together forever, then you can wait a long time to get married. What's the rush?
2006-09-25 08:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really just depends on you, some people marrying very quickly. I personnel have made a pact with myself that when I do eventually marry that I would have to be with the guy for at least 2 or 3 y ears. I have an exfriend who was pretty much engaged after her second date with the guy, well they called it Pre-engaged but they’ve been married 3 years now. Grant it I will be shocked if their marriage actual lasts 10 to 15 years. They have very little concept of money they filed for bankruptcy right after they married, their always fighting , its really not a healthy relationship even her brother says this. Her husband was offered a real good paying job benefits but it was out of state and she refused to move away from "home"
2006-09-25 16:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time varies for everyone im sure. Some people marry after a year of knowing each other and others take years before they marry. It depends on if you have a place to live together and if you are ready for the commitment. Every couple is different.
2006-09-25 15:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by beautyspot7785 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a good time to get married is when you are about 22. But if you two are younger i would say wait a while till you are just a little older. This is like me and my boyfriend who i dated for a year or so. I am only 17 but he asked me to marry him. I am truly in love with this man. I told him to ask me when im a little older and he said he cant wait... I still think it's a little werid since im 17 and getting married i have to wait..
2006-09-25 15:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by Noelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really love each other, the right time will be NEVER!!!!
But, besides being in love, they think that can handle the compromise of making a family in a decent manner, like in a long term marriage, they should wait long enough time or savings to deserve a decent start.
2006-09-25 15:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you need to be ready to deal with whatever life throws at you. Marriage is a committment for life. As soon as you say the words "I do." everything changes. You now belong to your husband and he belongs to you. That is scriptural. While the man is the spiritual head of the household, you both need to share the same faith so that you can raise any children that you may create with the same morals as the both of you. There are many things that can go wrong if you marry too soon. I believe in order to be ready to marry you must have a few items. 1.Either one or the both of you must have the means to support yourselves. 2. You must be of legal age to marry. 3. You must know him almost as well as you know yourself. 4. You must be willing to commit your life to his happiness and be sure that he is willing to commit his life to yours. 5. And most importantly, you must love each other beyond anything else and be willing to weather any storm in your marriage.
2006-09-25 16:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Keith M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited nearly 3 years but some people only wait months if you know him really well and are sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him then go for it but make sure you are both happy and ready and in love cause divorce is not of God neither does it come free! : ) Godbless and Goodluck to you.
2006-09-25 15:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The amount of time you are together has nothing to do with when you are ready to get married. You just know that there will never be anyone else that you would want to spend your life with. And you would do anything for them. There is no straight forward answer, you just know he or she is the one.
2006-09-25 15:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kuiper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should wait at lest 3 years till you marrie from the day they start going out. At lest that's what I would do.
2006-09-25 16:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by wankawooney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When each feels that the other is the person they want to grow old with; raise children together(if they want children); share the hopes and dreams they have in common for their lifetime together.
When merely thinking of your SO or seeing your SO across the room makes your heart beat a little quicker, you will know. When you know that no one else "does it" for you, you will know.
Good luck
2006-09-25 15:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by niteowl716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋