I try to be faithful to my hubby coz I love him,& my coworker hasn't gone inside me. Why call me names?

Question

Nope, if you think I'm slutty, you are wrong. I'm not like that. In truth, I am a conservative young lady & much respected in my office. (& at my age & looks, people say i'm really hot.) It's just that sometimes, I give in to temptations. But i know the limits. My coworker seduces me in many ways whenever he sees a chance, but I told him firmly that I want to be a good wife to a good man. He sometimes steal passionate kisses & embraces on me when my husband is not around, or smells me all over (specially my armpits, OMG!), but that is only up to that. I admit he's getting me wet & my nipples hard, but I can still control it. I'm just really turned on by his carnal desire on me, i think. But please, don't call me bad names. I'm at the very early stage of my marriage, & maybe I'm just going through some tests or trials. It hurts me very much to hear some painful comments from you. Of course, thanks for the answers & advice... --- JENNY

Answer 1

So you're saying you have no control with what this co-worker does to you? He's not only disrespecting you, but also your husband and your marriage.

Nothing can happen from this co-worker that you don't want to happen. If you want it to stop, you would stop it.

I think the people just call it, as they see it...

Answer 2

You think because your coworker "hasn't gone inside" you, that you are being faithful? Does your husband know about the things you are doing with your coworker? How would you feel if you found out your husband was doing to another woman what your coworker is doing to you? If you still want to play around like that, you had no business getting married. And you say you are at the early stage of your marriage! What are you going to be doing after 5 or 10 years of marriage? I feel sorry for your husband. You obviously have no idea how to conduct yourself as a married woman. I'm very sorry to say this, but it's women who act like you that cause so many men to have such a low opinion of women and marriage. Do you want to be single or do you want to be married? That is the first thing you need to make up your mind about. If you want to play with other men and flirt and be admired then fine-GET A DIVORCE. If you DO love your husband and want to stay married then GROW UP AND ACT LIKE A WIFE. No more kissing and groping other men. It's time to be an adult, not a stupid child who doesn't know how to say no.

Answer 3

There is no reason for anyone to call you names. You are a young, naieve woman. Technically, your co-worker is sexually harrassing you. For some reason you let him cross some boundries and let him know it was alright to cross the boundries. Just tell him that you don't want him doing that to you anymore. He will probably threaten to tell your husband but you and threaten sexual harrassment. He will back off if you really want him to. Use some of your borderline encounters, while you are making love to your husband. Add a little spice. Talk more to your husband about your intimacy between you and your husband. Make sure you are being pleased so you are not tempted by this predator at work. Good luck lady and don't let men walk all over you. There are a lot that like to take advantage of innocent women.

Answer 4

You can't love your hubby much if you are kissing another man and flirting with the idea of messing around with him!!! The two do not go together!! How would you feel if you found out your hubby was doing the same thing at his work with another lady? That would be alright with you? As far as I'm concerned you have already been unfaithful regardless if you've slept with the guy or not!! You've broken the trust your husband had with you!! That's why some people would call you names!! I feel sorry for both you and your hubby.

Answer 5

Whether you want to admit it or not, you're cheating on your husband.
If you want to be a good wife to a good man as you put it, you're going about it the wrong way. How would you feel if your husband was receiving passionate kisses from another woman?
AND what would your husband do if he caught you and this other person in the act? How would he feel?
You need to figure out what & who you want in your life

Answer 6

So the only thing keeping you from complete the cheat is penetration?
He calls you names because you let him think he can call you names, because you have had intimacy in certain ways, because you had kissed, because he knows you get wet and your nipples get hard when he wants!!!!
And he doesit just because you let him do so!!!
He plays you like a piano.
He knows you're going down any minute, he is going to use you and move on!!
You're going to live with your treason alone, because when you tell your husband heis going to fly, and you'll be left there feeling dirty.
Rules of life for predators.

Answer 7

I admit he's getting me wet & my nipples hard, but I can still control it. I'm just really turned on by his carnal desire on me, i think. That says it all!! Then you say you are conservative and in a young marriage! My guess is by now you have given in totally to your temptations. LOL.. and then you say you are not slutty! Don´t fool yourself.. I can call you worse names!

Answer 8

Is your husband not giving you attention?Is that why you're accepting the co worker's attention?In any case,this coworker is a sicko,and later on he could rape you.So go to your boss,and tell him what his doing to you.As far as you being hot,that's what people say when they want to get in your pants,don't you know that by now?Are you gonna get hot everytime a guy says that to you?It sounds too easy to me.Good men always fall for the slutiest women and marry them and this is what they get,and bad men always marry the really good women and this is what they(good women) get.Lif is beautiful isn't it?

Answer 9

Jenny, would you be comfortable knowing your husband was participating in the same activities with his co-workers? I mean, really. He's just kissing her and hugging her and pressing his aroused body to hers. Get a life. If you want to cheat, let your hubby loose so he can find a worthy partner.

Answer 10

MMM- all but the act, how would husband take this? and how can you stay strong? sooner or later you are going to give into to the "total act" but I think you are already giving into some temptation, If your really love your hubby pull away from this guy, this is bad, bad news which will only hurt you besides if you play with fire your are going to get burnt.