2006-09-25 08:10:31 · 36 answers · asked by Cathy n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is a matter of opinion. if you dont mind, then let him. but if you dont like it, then talk to him about it. tell him how you feel about it. communication is very important. if your not sure how you feel about it, talk to him about it too. if he is a good husband you both would have a solution. if he is not a good husband and give crapy reasons, keep an eye on him.
2006-09-26 17:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by sapient45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I don't feel it's cheating. It is disrespectful if the wife is upset about it.
These are one of those times where don't ask, don't tell might fall into place.
He is a male, and you know what, we don't even have to say that because I know women who enjoy porn too. So lets say this.
The wife should ask him why he feels the need to go to these sites against her wishes, possibly he has an addiction. Possibly there are things on there he wishes his wife would do for him that he doesn't feel comfortable asking because A. he's afraid she'll say no or B. respects her too much to even ask. It's better he's at home looking at these sites than pushing bills up some strippers backside, or worse yet, taking these fantasies to another woman.
2006-09-25 08:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's perspective, I'm saying this isn't cheating. Keep in mind, if it were my wife looking at porn, I wouldn't consider that cheating either.
However, as many of the other answers say, there may be an underlying root cause that should be investigated on why such behavior occurs.
It's important that you let him know that looking at porn is unacceptable. If you lay down the rules and it's still a problem, you may want to look at what your next steps will be.
2006-09-25 08:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by L.A. Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way it is. It's a sign that there is a void in your husbands view of something in his life. Don't get me wrong, us guys like porn just because we like porn. We are visual. I am taking for granted that he is doing it more then most guys would when I say that.
Try this. Suggest that you and hubby do the porn thing together. Even if porn is not your bag, I'm sure turning on your hubby is your bag. It will be something you can do together and it may fill the possible need that hubby is showing. Make sense?
2006-09-25 08:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he's cheating you out of something. He is giving these images his affections which means he has less to give to you.
Men can recieve sexual pleasure by what we see. Viewing porn actually releases endorphines and gives a shot of pleasure. This is why men get addicted, not because they are not getting what they need from their wifes. His addiction is not a reflection of your sexual performance, but just a quick and easy way to get a pleasure high.
Your husband should seek counceling to break this addiction because he is stealing from you and your marriage.
2006-09-25 09:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Alfonsio Ledbetter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is NOT cheating! It is done by a lot of men, and why it bothers us women is beyond me ! I would much rather know my hubby was looking at porn and even taking matters in hand, than going out and finding another woman to cheat with!
There is nothing wrong with "eye-candy".
2006-09-25 08:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. as with almost everything, it starts out with something small then it takes on a life of its own. First it will be porn behind your back, then it will be chat-room talk, then an impromptu meeting somewhere, then an affair.
2006-09-25 08:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by stever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No traveling porn web pages is not any vast deal yet he shouldn't consistently could bypass to them consistent with probability you may %. up the paste slightly as a bigger half. perhaps watch them with him sometime and then have interaction on your very own intercourse. Down play do no longer make a brilliant deal of it, relax.
2016-10-17 23:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-25 15:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behind your back....not sure cuz you say its continual. There's a problem cuz that's too much. Though, it's probably better than talking to and getting involved in a real person.
2006-09-25 08:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋