having an affair for the last 8 months to someone i have known for 5 years. I have never made any demand of him, to which he agrees. However, on a few occassions he has remarked that i will ask him to leave his wife.
2006-09-25 08:00:36 · 47 answers · asked by Elaine G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You must be really desperate..women like you cant get or keep a man so the easiest thing to go after is a married one.
He has his wife @ home..they have all these ties together and all married men know that low self-esteemed women that would flirt with or go with married men make great WHORES..
He said that so you could be even dumber and say"no I wont..I wont ask you to leave her"
so he doesnt have to have complications and he could have his
lady @ home the rest of his life and he could keep romping with you till YOU either wise -up OR HE GETS TIRED of you and moves on to another whore. And i am not trying to insult you but that is what a whore is.
You really should look at how much you value yourself. Married men always tell you the same thing and make the wife to be the BAD guy. When i was a teenager I was approached left and right by married men. they thought kuz i was young I was also dumb.
Heck nah!!ANYONE can see that game..make his life look sad..his wife the bad..and him the poor victim.
I never fell for that and cant fathom why alot of people do..but wait I guess i can understand it.
the core of adultery is SELFISHNESS
gurl..get ready..because YOU WILL ALWAYS REAP WHAT YOU SOW.
means that lil seed is gonna come back to you a huge tree of suffering. Y CAN'T YOU SEE YOU'RE WORTH SOMETHING..quit letting him use you..you might think you are winning something but your not.
if you were a "real" woman.you would be able to command respect from a man & get it.
GOD help you(if you let him)
LOOK up Galatians
2006-09-25 08:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by sHiNe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he projecting, hoping that you will ask him to leave his wife?
Maybe he's possibly scared and he's looking for a way out now before it gets to that point. I can't say I blame him. I would be scared too, especially if I had deep feelings for the person I was sleeping with as well as my spouse.
The only thing I can say is, I hope that this affair is worth him possibly loosing his wife over. I don't know any of the details regarding your situation but if his wife is smart, she will leave him if she ever finds out. I hope that he's aware of that.
2006-09-25 08:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because you're not the first woman with whom he's had an affair. He's been asked this question before and is afraid that it's coming down the pipeline from you. He won't leave his wife but is involved with you now and doesn't want to give that up.
Open your eyes.
2006-09-25 08:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by niteowl716 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
GameGiver is in the building! To answer your question, your inclandestine meeting partner is feeling f'd up. He wants you to play the "please leave your wife" role. In fact, he's waiting on it! Since he's pulling off this affair thing he thinks he's the hottest thing since the sun. He just wants you to confirm it. In all honesty, it doesn't sound like you'd keep him anyway. You're probably just doing this to have something to do. Wait until you tell him to kick rocks (leave) and see how much whining he does.
2006-09-25 08:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by GameGiver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this..... how would you feel if you was in a relationship and your husband/partner was shagging about behind your back.... i feel sorry for the wife who is being betrayed by both of you.... he is having his cake and eating it i just hope the wife never finds out.... and would you want him to leave his wife...... and if he did and set up home with you..... would you then worry that he would betray you..... i feel you have commitment issues and you should find yourself a single guy and have a healthier relationship....
2006-09-25 08:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Carlette D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him? relationships are about communication. If you are too afraid to ask him, then you are more involved than you like him to believe. I think you are secretly longing for him to leave his wife which is why you darent ask him. This is no basis for a relationship. You have to be open and honest, even if you are the mistress. Be true to yourself and stop worrying about what he wants. Figure out what you want, and what you deserve. I think you will find it is allot more than you are getting. Face up to it and stop pretending you like it this way
2006-09-25 10:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how it is to be wrapped up in something like this, but, you are going to end up never forgiving yourself and in therapy.
He's not going to leave his wife, if he wanted to, he would have started that before you guys ever became involved.
I feel for you, you have to break this off before alot of people, as well as yourself gets' hurt. I know easier said than done, maybe say a prayer and see if the answer comes to you.
Good luck
2006-09-25 08:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by tamilynn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Going out with a married man goes no where but heart ache for everyone. If children are involved then shame on both of you.
2006-09-25 08:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Syl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not find a man of your own,thats not married or taken,think about how his wife would feel,once she finds out,think about it from her point of view,& also how you would feel if you were married & your husband was having an affair behind your back,
2006-09-25 10:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just dumb. And if you do ask him to leave his wife, you are too. Cause if you two really hook up (not creeping) he'll turn around and do the same to you.
2006-09-25 08:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋