I fell head over heals for this girl. I have done everything possible to get her attention, flowers , cards, etc. She accepted everything I gave her but was always reserved about talking about herself. We only talked about me. She is always pleasant and friendly but cuts me short when I start asking personal questions. I can sense she feels the same way but she can't seem to make up her mind. I finally corned her after 2 years of trying and asked her if she was ever going to give me a chance. She finally came forth and said she has a boyfriend whom I have never seen her with even after 2 years. How can I get her to come to me. Do date other girls to make her jealous? This is the one and I can't move on to other girls. Rejected and hurt. Please help
2006-09-25 07:55:08 · 30 answers · asked by rlld23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with what Jenn wrote... you need to move on. After two years with no positive response from this girl.. only to be kept at arm's length.. Actually I also feel sorry for the boyfriend.. I wonder if he knows that she's been excepting your gifts for the last two years? Sounds like she's playing both of you... I know how hard it is to move on with you think/know that you've found the "one". And it's going to hurt for a while.. it did for me. And twenty years later I still have a special place in my heart for him. Don't start playing games.. no one wins then. It may take you a time to find someone else that you'd like to date.. but she will come! You sound like a great guy... hang in there!
2006-09-25 08:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by thumpersheart1225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy will make her more disinterested. From my own experience, if a guy is taken I leave it at that...no matter how bad I want the guy. So don't go out with another chick to make her jealous. It will land you in a sticky situation too, especially if the other girl, the "extra", gets emotionally involved with you. Just be patient, and if need be, move on. You shouldn't dwell on her if she doesn't have feelings for you as well. And if you never have confronted her straight forward about having feelings for you and just asked her on a date, then you really don't know what she is thinking. My advice is to get over any shyness that you may have and just ask her on a date. Maybe you'll find out you don't like her like that after all...who knows.
2006-09-25 07:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by mandarin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had a simple answer for you, but I don't. She sounds like a very private person, and she seems to be a little afraid of being hurt. I don't think the boyfriend is real. If you have been around her for two years and she hasn't ever spoke of him, and you haven't ever seen him, chances are he doesn't exist. I think you should date, it might show her that you aren't going to sit a just wait for her to come around. It also will get your mind off her temporarily, and you may just meet someone else you can't live without. Either way, good luck
2006-09-25 08:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by hawkespatricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she does have a bf or worse, ...married. But two years is a long time not to know this.
Attempting to arouse jealousy is not a good idea in this case. If she really does have a bf, or lives with a bf (have you ever been to HER place in the 2 years you've been dating?), seeing you with another woman might have the opposite effect. She'll assume you've moved on with your life and she'll go back to hers.
Come right out and ask this woman if she is interested in continuing your relationship and taking it to the next level. That will give you the answer you are looking for.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-25 08:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by niteowl716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww baby!!!
i think u should sit her down where it is just u and her and NO distractions and talk tell her how u feel once again and look her in the eyes and make sure she is looking into urs. then ask if she really has a bf and ask why she is playin games with u. also ask if she likes u as more then a friend. tell her to be honest because if she is not it will hurt even more. sometimes a girl doesnt wanna be more then friends but doesnt kno how to tell u because she IS too nice.
good luck and move on if it is not right.
please email me off my page if ur still havin trouble. : )
2006-09-25 08:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by SHIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but it seems as though this girl may just want to be friends. Also, sad to say this too but it seems your niceness isn't exactly what she wants. Unfortunately, alot of girls want guys that aren't really nice but in the middle of being nice and being a bad boy. If I were you, I would back off a little. Keep in touch but not too often. I wouldn't date other girls to make her jealous. You end up dating someone you don't like and hurting that person just to possibly benefit your relationship with someone else. Set your mind that if someone else comes along, you are available. This girl you really like will come to her senses.
2006-09-25 08:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the one. The One will return your love and it won't take two years either. You are in love with your idea of her, not the reality of her. She has tried to be kind by not blowing you off, but wake up, she had no interest in you and wouldn't even if you dated Spears and J.Lo together at one time. The boyfriend thing may be her last polite attempt to show you that shes not interested. Unless you are happy mooning over some girl who isn't interested in you, you haven't any choice but to find someone else.
2006-09-25 08:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that my friend was trying to get with this girl for over a year. Then he met someone else. He said he was in love with her. He bought her everything- even diamond earrings- just to tell her he loved her. She knew and played with his feelings. She was my friend and I had to listen to him cry over her when he found out about her hooking up with one of her exes. He found someone else. He realized that he thought he was in love with her because he knew her but she didnt care about him. She wont get jealous of you dating. She wont because she does not want to hurt you or let you down. The boyfriend is a lie. She doesnt want to hurt you. She wants to be your friend. All girls will except gifts if you give them presents. I know this isnt what you want to hear but I know for a fact it is true. I wish it wasnt. I am sorry. Just go out there and make some friends and get to know them. I was engaged before and he left. I thought I wasnt going to move on. He was my first love. I am now married and very happy with a little boy. So hang in there. It will get better. I promise.
2006-09-25 08:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by flower_angel_goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing, found out she had a boyfriend, just after I took her to her senior prom. To be honest, I don't have a clue what to do. But I doubt she'd be jealous if you started dating, she'd probably take it as a sign your moving on. All I can think to tell you is just keep trying, eventually, she'll figure out she's got a great guy...
2006-09-25 08:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by godofwar1718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest Love does not play games, so if she is playing then she is not the real deal. I mean i hate to break it to you,but i was in the same situation and i lead myself to believe that person would fall for me. I then realize it does not take so long for a person to get with you. i must say that she is not that into you b/c if she was she would have been with you from the start. i Know this is going to hurt you,but take it easy and try to introduce yourself to new females. In all honesty it is time for you to move on. Good luck
2006-09-25 08:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋