my cousin is preg. and im happy for her but the real question is what is she going to do with the rest of her life i mean she just turned 18 and shes going to merry the guy and hes really cool too but what is she gonna do about school and a baby sitter i mean i want to help her out but i cant because im currently living with a friend what do i do
2006-09-25 07:51:27 · 18 answers · asked by kill_me_not_realli_2009 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, it sounds like she has made her choices, and has been responsible about it. She can always take courses online or through correspondance courses. Sometimes you just have to work around your family life to get your education.
2006-09-25 07:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by S. O. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is really sweet that you want to help your cousin, but she has obviously made a choice that will undoubtedly affect the rest of her life.
She can go to school while she is pregnant. It will be soooo difficult, but if her husband takes 1/2 the work taking care of the baby, and is supportive, she will do fine. She might have to wait a few years to go to school, and just get a job for a few years.
It is very expensive to raise a child. I pay $150 per week for my babysitter. We spend about 100 for formula and diapers every month, and then there are doctor bills for vaccinations. The baby crying in the middle of the night, and arguments about who will take care of the baby are enough to test any strong relationship, so it is important that she is in a good marriage.
The only way you can help is to offer to run errands for your sister, maybe watch the baby every day for an hour so she can get some sleep or get out of the house for a little bit. You can cook for her after she has the baby. You can show all the love you can to the baby....children need positive role models who are not just mom & dad. They need to grow up knowing that there are other adults in their lives that are caring and gentle.
I hope this helps. It is really much more complex than this, but I speak from experience.
2006-09-25 15:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby at 17, I was not with the daddy, I am now 24 I got my GED while I was pregnant, and went back to school and I finished last year, there is no race to the finish line!! Her father never tried to help, I waited tables and lived in a small town that had apartments based on your income, so I only paid what I could afford, I found baby sitter from school friends and people at church. I got married and I am now expecting my 2 child in 3 weeks and everything I went through at that young age helped me. Pray for her and try to be someone she can share all her thought and feeling with, without judgement.
2006-09-25 15:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer Dalpe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to you friend and encourage her not to give up on her education. Presumably she's already finished high school, but a college education or job training will make a huge difference in both her life and the child's.
Ask her what her plans are for child care, school, and finances. Work with her to discuss different ideas and possibilities. Offer to contact, on her behalf, local churches, community groups, etc to find out what sort of resources they offer. Encourage her to set long-range goals now so she can have something to focus and work towards... a tentative "I'll decide that later" or "I'll go back to school someday" means nothing will ever happen.
Even if you can't help directly by baby-sitting or whatever, you can be a big help by offering emotional support and helping her set goals.
2006-09-25 15:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're concerned, but you're going to have to let her live her life on her own. She wants to have a baby and get married at 18, fine. If she wants to go back to school, she'll do it. Maybe not now, but if that's what she really wants to do, she'll eventually do it. It's all about drive. I have friends who were young moms as early as 15. Don't get me wrong, they've all went through their struggles, but they eventually worked it out (with or without the father).
2006-09-25 14:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what...she did it now she has to live with it. There are alot of young parents out in this world including myself. There are also lots of programs to help young parents finish school and go on to college. She wont have the "normal" college life in a dorm and everything but her life will be so much better because she has that baby. I have no idea who or what I would be without my children...they are my life!
2006-09-25 14:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really don't have to do anything. There are tons of people out there that have gone to school, and had kids. If they are getting married, that that is good for them, and he can help her out too. She really should have thought about all of this before she had unprotected sex before she was ready for a baby any way. There is not much you can do but show your support...
2006-09-25 14:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a niece that has been in the same situation.
Just be there for her to give moral support and listen. If she asks for help, give it if you are willing and able. She will have to figure this out on her own.
2006-09-25 14:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is for her to figure out. I know you want to be supportive, but its her life. Even though you dont think she should be pregnant at this time, maybe its perfectly okay with her. Everyone is diff. and dont nec. see it your way. Hope it works out well.
2006-09-25 14:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to do but look i will tell you a joke
Q: Why did the boy eat his homework?
A: Because the teacher said it was a piece of cake!
2006-09-25 15:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mysterious-Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋