When enough is enough?

Question

I have only known him for about 8 months and we fell for each other right away. He's a great man, and Godly. BUT, we argue about stupid things. We constantly take things personal. What should I do? He says "I ain't beat" (I know what that means.... therefore, I think it's pretty messed up. He isn't working right now, so I want him to help to cook for me and my toddler when I get home and this is now an issue. Now he's mad at me because I got upset w/him because of an unnecessary comment he made. WTF?! Tired of this, but I do still care for him and want to be w/him. But when is enough?

Answer 1

I'm probably not going to tell you what you want to hear, but you asked. If you can't seem to talk things out calmly, you may want to tell him you need some space for awhile.
It will give "you" time to rethink about what you truely want,
and it will give "him" time to rethink about what he is and is not contributing to this relationship. Sometimes when two people are apart, they can see the picture clearer.
This doesn't have to be permanant, but if you don't do something rational soon, and you continue to stay in this "as" it is, it isn't just you it will effect, you have a child to consider. Sometimes we stay in a relationship because there may be "one" or two things we like about this person. But if you are honest with "yourself," and you realize the bad differences outweigh the couple of "good" things, you'll do the right thing.Good luck.

Answer 2

You know the answer to this is very clear, but you are being influenced by your heart it seems like. These situations really never seem to get better, and usually the bickering over small issues stem from another source. Maybe he doesn't want to be with you right now - and he doesn't know how to say it so he just stays there unhappily. Maybe he feels really down on himself right now and he's just being very defensive/aggressive.

You need to talk about these things. I do agree with you about helping out with the household chores. No matter really who, or what sex, or any circumstance - it's so much nicer and easier to get through when people help each other out. Maybe you could try incorporating him into helping out around the house with you, then maybe when you are not around he'll take it upon himself to do some of the chores himself. I know I always love to cook with somebody, even cleaning with my girlfriend or whoever at the time isn't bad.

I don't think you are wrong in being tired of his attitude, and you sound like you are young eneough that you could really do better. Never settle for good eneough! I don't know what "I ain't beat" means, but if I'm sitting at home all day and you are out making money, well you are beat if you can't get off your *** and get something done.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

He isn't working right now? How is he contributing to your household? Is he cleaning, doing laundry, shopping, cooking meals, babysitting? Actively looking for another job?
I can understand how someone can get depressed about being without work, especially a guy who traditionally has been seen as the family breadwinner and may take much of his self-worth from paid work. It sounds as if he's terribly frustrated hence the angry outbursts and arguments over stupid things. BUT...
It sounds as if you're handling just about everything. Some women are O.K. with that (I'm not one of them!). Relationships are give and take (on BOTH sides; not you give, give, give and he takes, takes, takes). As much as you care for him, is this aggravation really worth it? Only you can know.
I wish you luck!
P.S. If he ever threatens violence (don't wait until he does something!), then that is precisely WHEN it's enough. Don't hesitate to show him the door!

Answer 4

Let me guess....he believe a woman's place is in the home taking care of the home stuff. He won't accept when your opinions differ from his, he demands his way and when you stand up for yourself he lets you know you are out of line "you need to learn your role"

I know this type very well and you are best to get out now.

He expects you to be this perfect God fearing wife type yet he can't seem to do his part of the bargain at all.

He will never see himself for what he is... NEVER

So enough is enough when you finally get tired of it and leave.

What he is is far from Godly. He may even be able to quote the Bible word for word but if he can't live it but expects you to live it perfectly in his twisted way of how he interprets the whole passage of how the woman must obey the man. I can't think now where that is but it's in the old testament and if you read the whole passage you will understand why I say he is far from Godly. You deserve better. Even the ground he walks on deserves better.

Answer 5

enough is enough when he aint gonna stand up to the plate and be a team player. a relationship is a team effort if he aint gonna work at home then he needs to grow up and get a job outside the house.. if not then he should be old news and move on with your life.. you already have a toddler you dont need to raise a adult also.. your not wonder woman

Answer 6

Enough is now. If he is living with you without a job, and cant help around the house that is a whole nother problem. He has no right to complain until he mans up!

Answer 7

You already know the answer to your question, because only You can know when enough is enough. Whatever your decision, make safe choices and make damned sure you and your child are safe at all times. Good luck!!

Answer 8

Enough is enough when a person sponges off of you while you are trying to make a living for your toddler. Enough said.

Answer 9

Enough is enough right now. Blow him off before he gets more controlling with you and your kid.

Answer 10

if you think its worth it talk to him but you need to follow your heart,if your not happy now think about how it will be later on and think about you child before anything!good luck