i not the skinnest girl in the world(im not fat either) and i've only been with one guy so its hard for me to "know what to do". well my hubby says that he is bored with our sex life because i dont initiate anything(im scared that ill look dumb) i dont exactly know what guys like and need tips that will maybe help. GIRLS-what do you do to get youre guy turned on?What was it like the first time you initiated sex?what did you do?
GUYS- what would yo say is one thing that youre "other" does to make things more intersting in bed...
i really want to do this but im so scared and i dont really know y im this scared.
2006-09-25 07:41:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok maybe i should have put this earliar....porn makes me cry because the girls are way prettiar and skinny..im not fat but i just had a baby a month ago and i havnt lost alot of the weight,..i weight 128 but used to weigh 107 before i got prego
2006-09-25 07:46:46 · update #1
Well do certain things that make him want to initiate "the nasty" with you. Dress sexy, and do little things like touch him more during conversation; say things that require him to interact with you. Teasing a guy is what women specialize in. Look hot and tease him and chances are, something might happen.
Challenge his manhood when you look good. Tell him he wouldn't know what to do with all of this (you & your body).
Never lose focus and keep him hynotised. Whisper in his ear or just get very close, such as brushing his lips with your neck. Most guys cannot resist a girl's neck.
Whatever you do, timing is crucial. Do not attempt this while he is watching Monday Night football and has a beer in one hand and popcorn in another hand. Find out which hours of the day he likes to have sex. Some guys like it late at night; others first thing in the morning, and others during the lunch break in his office underneath his desk.
Find out what he really likes and then from there experiment.
One final tip, chemistry is very important. Bounce off the things he says as if you nearly knew what he was going to say or as if you already knew the answer to what he was thinking. This instinctive psychic -like ability establishes a certain physical trust.
As you both are married, that trust is already there so it's just a matter of exercising it and being aware of it.
2006-09-25 07:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
I have always had the most fun with the sluttiest women. I can't help it but it is very exciting. And what exactly is wrong with being a slut? Nothing!!! All is fair in the bedroom. Find a woman who is successful in the bedroom. There are many that are proud of their talents. Ask for their advise. You would be amazed at what some people come up with.
Watching pornos is a good idea but they are generally all the same. Real life is far more exciting.
Take care
2006-09-25 07:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Radioactive1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you need to liven up the sex life like get some choc. and strawberries and rub it all over ya's body and thin lick it off that is one way if not choc. that Carmel or if you have a water bed then use baby oil all over ya's body or just rub his back and stuff you know after a hard days work a man is tensed up so he may not feel like it but there is books out there that can teach you more
you can take a shower together and wash each others body but start making out in the shower that will get a man every time i liked it when my wife did that to me
you can go to a sex store and get some toys and games or movies man loves it when the woman watches porno's with them as far as the toys let him use it on you any way he wants
i hope i helped you out
2006-09-25 07:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by kingkong9274 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is how you can initiate sex without "looking dumb:"
Get into some lingerie and get into bed before hubby is in the room and turn out the lights. When he turns on the lights, throw back the covers so he can see what you're wearing, give him a wicked grin and hide under the covers.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 07:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you mentioned was your figure...obviously it has something to do with your ability to be comfortable enough to feel incredibly confident and sexy.
Once you get all dressed up, in sexy lingerie maybe you can practice the sexiest things that you have seen done in front of the mirror...also, don't know if you have ever tried this...but porn is not only for men ;)
You can get a lot of ideas from there...trust me...You might also start really enjoying your sex life, and i bet soon enough he will beg you to let him initiate!
When i first initiated, it was awesome, made HIM yell my name out, it was so great!...until that point i had never been fully able to express myself sexually.
2006-09-25 07:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my boyfriend 3 yeards ago I had only been with on other person, and I didnt know what to do, I was scared but I thought to my self I love this man and he love me i shouldnt feel dumb if I am the one who want to make love first I just let my feelings roll. basiclly I climb on top and just start by kissing him and keep going from there let you heart and sexually arousement take control. also I had a baby 6 months ago and I had a c-section and I am not shamed of my weight no scar and if you man loves you he wont be worried about no scar or extra weight either
2006-09-25 07:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that is a simple question to answer!!! I'll tell you as a guy --- to initiate sex with a man all you have to do is the same things that he does to turn you on!!!! Fondle, kiss, dress sexy etc etc!!! You could also ask him as you try various things if he likes this or that ---does whatever your doing excite him and yes talk dirty to him!!!! A man likes a LADY when out on the town but loves a WHORE in the bedroom!!!
2006-09-25 07:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by xxx69forall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yowwwzers!
Here's my credo "Give strange or they'll get strange"
Keep that in mind.. Men and women are CONSTANTLY faced with temptations.. If you can't open up and try something new.. Like say, Whip off your clothes and say I've been waiting for you all day.... then when someone else starts showing them interest/attention.. they are going to go for it...
Soooo.. either you think of something different to do to spice things up.. and honestly, you don't need to be creative, cuz obviously if you're scared to do anything then your sex life must be rather boring....or he's gonna find strange.. your choice.
Good Luck
2006-09-25 07:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by SassySista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tease my man through out the day. A little touch here and caress there. It helps build the suspense. ( I cant spell) I found doing that helps you because each time you can become more bold on your approach. It helps with the nerves too. I was so scared the first time and sometimes still get that way.
2006-09-25 07:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by bitch_kitty_jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about self confidence. Don't worry you hubby loves you. Why don't you try something simple and then work your way up to different things. Try putting on a sexy night gown and be waiting for him on the bed. Put sexy notes in his lunch or car. It's the simple things that my Honey loves. Good luck sweetie you can do it. Your a sexy woman so let it out.
2006-09-25 07:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋