my bf and i are on this break. he tells me to be nice to him so he will come back. why would i be nice when he is having doubts about even getting back together with me at all?
he said he is tired of fighting with me when we are together and thats what he's afraid of. i told him to trust me and that we wouldn't fight anymore but he keeps blowing me off. he said he loves everything about me besides the fighting. what is his deal?!?!?
2006-09-25 07:19:24 · 3 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're arguing you should seriously rethink getting together again. Do you want to argue with someone you love so much? Is that the way you want to spend your time with him? If you really love him and want to make the relationship work you should think about counseling.
And as to your last question, it's not just him that has a problem.
2006-09-25 07:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lacking Daisies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, what is it that you fight about?
Arguments and fights are natural occurrences, if either person is willing to share their opinions and thoughts about certain subjects.
Also, fighting takes two people...if you are just yelling and being hysterical without reason then if he would just walk away, until you are ready to discuss then there would be no fighting...however, if its out of sheer frustration for whatever reason, and he is not willing to talk about it calmly then he is also guilty in creating the fights.
Really think about what you want...someone blaming you for things that they also help in creating or someone who is willing to work as hard on a relationship as you are.
2006-09-25 14:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont' suck up to him so that "maybe" he'll come back to you! that's just ridiculous. if he can't for sure say that he wants you then that's his loss and you need to move on and find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!!!
2006-09-25 14:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋