I got invited by one of my good friends to go to a theme park for Halloween weekend. It's going to be me, her and 2 of her guy friends. I have a boyfriend and he's great. I love him very much and we've been together for a year and a half. I really want to go on this trip, but I don't want him to get mad at me. I've already asked if he cared if I went and he's ok with it, but I didn't tell him that the other 2 guys are going to be there. I have no interest in the other guys,because I love my boyfriend.....he can go but I know he won't because he doesn't like one of the guys that's going. I don't know what to do.......
2006-09-25 07:16:20 · 15 answers · asked by Amber R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ouch that's really tough i can see why you asked this question.
OK well you have to tell him about the other guys but do it in a sneaky way
tell him you just found out these two other guys wanted to come to and your friend invited them and you didn't know about it until just then and you wanted to tell him cus you love him and you wouldn't ever want to hurt him or keep something from him.
that way he feels like you are loyal to him and that will soften him up a little
and then tell him you want to go really to be with your friend and you don't want to flake on her but you wanted to talk to him about it first
this always works with my boyfriend and it helps soften the blow for him
good luck and have fun
2006-09-25 07:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask him to go with you and if he doesn't want to then you better be telling him about the other boys before he finds out some other way and you guys break up over a stupid halloween theme park ? will it be worth it ? and if you don't want to tell him maybe you feel like he will ask u not to go .. better decide what is more important .
2006-09-25 14:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do (I would if it were me) is to be totally honest about the trip with your bf. I would be willing to bet that you withheld certain information from him because you knew he wouldn't approve and you are putting your own wants before the needs of your relationship.
When I say "the needs of your relationship" I am referring to the fact that all relationships need honesty and trust in order to last. By withholding this information you are violating both and that will not be good for your relationship.
Personally I can't see any trip worth losing the trust my bf has in me.
2006-09-25 14:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that the two other guys will be going and ask him if it's still alright with him or not! If he knows you're not going to betray him he should let you go, or he could go with you, for safety's sake. Tell him how you love him and don't even care about the other guys, then just listen to what he says.
If you love him, you'll respect his wishes.
2006-09-25 14:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lacking Daisies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's clear that you love your man. So this trip would be totally harmless with a group of friends - nothing more. You know you won't give into temptation, so what've you got to lose? Go out with your pals, it'll be fun!
2006-09-25 14:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant hide things from you guy, it will just make it more suspicious if he finds out, which he will. Tell him the truth, that way he knows u genuinely just want to go to the trip. If he gets mad oh well, you can talk to him about it and fix things.
you two negotiate it out.
good luck.
2006-09-25 14:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF U REALLY LIKE THIS DUDE AND HE REALLY LIKES U SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD THING AND IF SOMEHOW HE FINDS OUT U WENT WITH THESE 2 GUYS .I DONT THINK HE'S GONNA FEEL VERY GOOD SOOOO...........I WOULD BE P1SSED IF MY CHICK WENT ON A TRIP WITH A DUDE , AN A DUDE I DIDNT LIKE WOULD MAKE IT WAY WORSE ... SO IF U REALLY LIKE THE DUDE THEN DONT GO CUS ITS DISRESPECTFUL EVEN IF IT DOESNT COME TO LIGHT ...AN IF IT DOES THEN HE MIGHT TAKE IT AS A MAJOR BREACH OF TRUST ...AS I WOULD ..................
2006-09-25 14:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with him and tell him everyone who's going because when you come back you just may let it slip and then watch out, especially if he doesn't like one of the guys going.
2006-09-25 14:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave the trip....ur guy is more important than the trip. u can go to the trip anytime but its very difficult to find such a gr8 bf like him
2006-09-25 14:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by broken_heart 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
join the trip, but ask your friend that you will take your boyfriend with you.
2006-09-25 14:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by ahhhlain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋