Am I Being Bullied?

Question

You'd think you'd know if you're being bullied but to be honest im not too sure. I’m in college, started with a new group few weeks back. The group is mixed girls and boys, all 16. However, I'm in my 20's, the oldest there.

The boys are all fine with me, but the girls (I realise we are naturally bitchy sometimes!), there is a silence when I walk over, a few looks, rolling eyes, giggling. Stuff that I thought wouldn't bother me as I am more mature and can see past it. At the end of the day I really want to learn and get good grades and I realise they are only kids and may grow out of it. But is it actually bullying? And the answer is always 'tell and adult, tell a teacher'. But is that actually the right thing to do? I feel a bit silly as im the older one and officially an adult.

The comments aren't obvious, they are to me but they're not obvious enough for me to ask them ‘do you have a problem with me’. It's only been going on for about 5 days but it’s still quite off putting.

Sorry to write an essay for you all. I have quite a bit of knowledge in the subject I am studying, more than the others, im always asking and answering questions, could this be why??

can i just add I HAVE TO be with these kids, in the UK we start college at 16. i started late after takin some yrs out to travel. so really i have no choice, but i do get the point 'why'...

Answer 1

sounds like they are probably all talking about YOU before you walk over, hence the silence and giggles. they are also probably jealous if the guys like you. their just kids, notthing you can do about it.

Answer 2

Is that a real Burger Mr. Just Julie I feel Hungary ................. Bullying you can get bullied For Supporting a different team in the same notion Gain more Friends because they Support the Same thing I cannot say I have been Bullied for Being Ugly Everything Else yes Allthough an old girlfried said I have a Pigs Nose

Answer 3

omg the same exactly thing happens for me!I'll tell you whats going on...they are flat out jealous from you for some reason,so they want to make YOU sad too.so just like everybody said...ignore them.Make friends else where and hang out with them near the 16 year olds and show them who's boss.Don't feel bullied...they are freakin FOUR years younger than you!Use your brain to defeat them and protect the poor and the innocent.And I am sure there are more people in this college..so why don't make those your friends AS WELL?

Answer 4

Why are you hanging out with a bunch of 16 year olds? Kids will be kids so what is the big deal about their reaction? That is the standard reaction for 16 year olds...Only advise is to find an older and more mature group to hang out with.

Answer 5

I wouldn't call that bullying. But that sounds like they are teasing you. But don't let them get to you. You are older and wiser and smarter and you don't need them making fun of you so say something to them besides "Do you have a problem with me?" Hey their only sixteen, their idiots.

Answer 6

well...i think first off its the mentality level..because..16..and 20ish is a huge gap of knowledge..we all know that.
so. yeah just say something....it could be that they dont understand why someone your age is hanging out with people their age.
since you cant ignore it , just say something..dont be rude but be direct...remeber its not what you say but how you say it.
but what ever you do dont let them know it bothers you..cause that is what gets people going!

Answer 7

Listen Sister, You need to put your foot down and ask those little hating Bit*ches what the hell is their problem...Girl, you have too much patient for me, but you need to kick someone's as*s.... Be a bit*ch right back..Don't let yourself, because if you do they will never stop..