I've been with my gf for 1.5 yrs. I luv her, but sexually I'm bored. I posted this problem before, months ago, and have tried new things that most of the answers suggested. I have pushed the kinkiness to the max. After all of this I'm still bored. I've been searching other women on a sex match website. I've never cheated but the temptation is becoming overwhelming. Do you think a discrete sexual relationship with others is wrong? Can a lovelife and sexlife can be compartementalized-seperating them making all of this ok? Also, any responses from people who have tried these online sex matches or have had secretive affairs would be appreciated! Thanks for any thoughs.
2006-09-25 07:11:18 · 17 answers · asked by 46&2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dude, If your bored, move on. Cheating just makes you a lousy person and you still have the same problem.
2006-09-25 07:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think cheating is wrong and will ony create more problems than it solves. Even though this is not what you want to hear please keep reading.
Where are your priorities in life? Maybe it's not really your sex life that you are bored with but life in general and you are just looking for sex to fill a void that could probably be filled with something more positive and won't hurt the one you claim to love.
You may consider looking at other areas in your life. I bet you will find ways to improve your life, like maybe taking on a productive hobby, or going back to college, or taking dance lessons.... something you enjoy that will improve your life because I guarantee you that having kinky sex (or any kind of sex) with strangers will just bring you problems and still won't fill the void you are feeling.
You will always want more and different. This is normal in life some people just need more but the best way to deal with this is to find ways to improve yourself that won't be detrimental to your relationship, your health, and to your life.
2006-09-25 14:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that "love" life and "sex" life can be separated for a long period of time. Pardon my French, but at some point it will most likely turn around and bite you in the @$$. I don't know how old you are, or what kind of expectations you or your g/f have of this relationship. Are you planning on a long-term committment? If so, you might want to reconsider. It'll be hell to have to always try to get something "on the side". There's no harm in maintaining several non-committal relationships at the same time, as long as it is clear to all parties that they remain non-committal. There's a good chance that quantity will turn into quality one day.
2006-09-25 14:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and mine have been having a few of the same problems. We have been together for 5 years and it hit an all time low in the sex department. We have been trying new sexual experiences. Try rediscovering each other it might help. Good luck.
2006-09-25 14:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Freedom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ur a stuped *** arent u. First of all that is cheating no matter what . and secound of all it sounds to me like u love ur self more then u love her because if u did love her u wouldent want to hurt her. If ur so bored that ur thinking about cheating then its always going to be that way for u guys and u should just leave her now be4 u cause the pain of sleeping with other people so that she can move on.
2006-09-25 14:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by mermaid 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can have the affair if 1) you talk about it with her and she's okay with it or 2) you are prepared to lose her for being a lying cheating SOB. b/c sooner or later she WILL catch you.
I'm not kidding, either. If you and she have tried to satisfy your desires and you can't do it by staying with her, you COULD get your release from another woman. Your relationship is whatever you two want to make of it. (As long as you're okay with her doing the same thing!)
But if you do it behind her back it is wrong, no doubt about it.
2006-09-25 14:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by Trips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not to sure why you would stay with someone whom you are not compatible with. Whether is be sexual or not. You need to find someone to be with on ALL levels. I would either talk to your girlfriend and let her know that is this a very big issue for you and see if things can get better you also need to let her know that if things do NOT get any better then you will have to let her go. It sounds very mean but in the long run all of us deserve someone who is going to be faithful and love us completely and if you cant do that to her then she also deserves another who can.
2006-09-25 15:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is wrong for any reason! If you cheat, you are a jerk!!!! Sorry, I'm not trying to insult you, but it's true. I am of the firm belief that there is never a good reason to cheat. It cannot be justified. Even if she were cheating on you. The best thing to do is move on and let her do the same!
2006-09-25 14:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a sex addict and you need to get into a support group to evercome your addiction. From a womans point of view, your girlfriend is going to feel hurt and used if after all she has done and complied with still doesn't satify you. She is going to feel like you don't love her and you are insensitive to her as a person. Do you really want her to feel like this? Think about the consequenses of your actions.
2006-09-25 14:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to get bored at points in your relationship. It's typically a sign there is something else wrong in the relationship. It's up to you to figure out what it is. If you start cheating, you're only feeding the problem. It will get worse.
2006-09-25 14:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋