My boyfriend is trying to get married soon with another girl who is a nurse by profession, wealthy and more beautiful. he is searching for his partner and next yr he told me he is getting married, i will never have this pain if i didnt loose my biggest asset in my life(my virginity). at first he was not like this but from few months back he is interested to marry another..Iam very loving, affectionate and not a short tempered person. He call me everday but i wonder wht for? he is saying he will never be mine.. I am so sad that when he told me we will never see again in our life, (he is living in another country met him through online, same religion, tounge and all) he told me last yr i came to see u, this yr i am not going to come but next yr i will come formy (his)marriage. He and his family are searching for girls. but for me i cant just imagine another man his place, loved him with all my heart..he is not seeing my love for him, All he needs to marry a beautiful wealthy nurse
2006-09-25 07:06:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have seen him only 5 days but its a long relationship love? I wonder why do i need to marry another man? just tell me do i need to die or to remain single? I had a dream about a good family life with a loving husband and kids.. but i dont deserve a good guy.. coz i did a big mistake and i pray to god i am a sinner and forgive.. when i think of another man i feel no i cant its cheating i feel so sad abt him... but i always wish for a family life, i need some one to be there for me.. but my lover will never back to me coz i know him.. he never loved with his heart yes may be for a physical relationship. i was a foool to believe him but he was tortuering my innocence.. my lover always ask to me ohhhh who is going to marry you and making fun of me when he see my worries.... wht i have to do my friends just feel free to talk
2006-09-25 07:11:04 · update #1
you deserve a man who will not use you. you loved him so much because you thought he deserved to receive you're most valuable asset. in truth, he was just a jerk. don't talk to him anymore. he calls you because you being in love with him makes him feel cool. it means nothing more to him.
2006-09-25 07:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a two faced bum, and is obviously not looking for love, but money and looks. (shallow bastard) He said before that he loved you, no? And now he's chasing another. How much you wanna bet he will be cheating on her within the first year of his marriage? Do yourself a favor sweetheart, I know it'll be painful, but FORGET HIM! Try living with someone for at least 6 months before you even think of marriage. That's usually enough time to find the skeletons in the closet, and to see if there are any annoying habits they have that drive you BONKERS. If theres another that you are attracted to, start dating them seriously. And if by any chance you want to express your affection sexually but still hold on to your virginity, there are many other activities besides intercourse that can be pursued.(by the way, I'm available LOL) Hope I've been of some help
2006-09-25 14:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your virginity is not your biggest asset. Your biggest asset is YOUR PERSON- you are kind, generous and good hearted, if he does not see that he does not deserve you. Wait and see, someday a man that will appreciate you will come along and love you for who you are, but if you are not yet ready for a relationship then take the time to grow in this experience as a person. True love accepts the other without conditions and loves the other inspite of. Let him go and if he is meant for you then he will come back but if he is not, consider what you have as a relationship wherein you got hurt but emerge stronger and better.
2006-09-25 14:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by mariezernalynpalmares 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. Please do not accept his calls or emails or have any contact with him at all. Don't let him mistreat you one more day, okay?
I am glad you found out he could be mean before you married him. That's the one good thing about this. He is a selfish jerk and doesn't deserve you.
Let yourself grieve. A NICE man will come along of your religion, who speaks your language that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
Be kind to yourself. Go play and have fun. Do not sit around crying over this man any more days. You deserve happiness. Go find it, okay?
2006-09-25 14:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's definitely not interested in you. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I don't think there's anything you can do to change his mind (and why would you want to, after he's shown you what an uncaring person he can be to someone who gave him the most special gift possible).
You are best to just forget him as much as you can, and move on.
Be careful in the future who you have sex with. You should make sure the person really loves you, so that you can avoid this type of hurt again.
Good luck. ((hugs))
2006-09-25 14:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by I ♥ AUG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I am really sorry this happened to you because he really doesn't seem considerate to me. Why the hell did he ahd to play all this game just to marry someone else...And after all this would you still want to be with him. You obviously don't and shouldn't trust him. I know it's really hard to get over your first but just don't waste your time on him. Move on and you'll find better definitely.
Good luck! Life is short and we are dead for a very long time so live it up!
2006-09-25 14:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by anesziere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foget about him, keep him in your heart, but not i your life. He doesnt appreciate you at all. Your obviusly the better choice for him as far as partners go, but he just refuses to see it. Wealth and beauty,they're both superficial. The most important thing to have is someone who loves you, for YOU. Be careful next time. By the way...It sounds like he's Muslim...is he?(I am, so I had to ask.)
2006-09-25 14:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ronijn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably yeah i mean he wants to get married to som eone else so you dont have much help in this. He is only out for the money and looks go for some one who cares about you. I mean you made a misteak giving him your virginity but every one makes misteaks so you have just made one. Go find some one else that apriciates you. dont waste your time with this guy
2006-09-25 14:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Options:
1. Propose to him
2. Confess that you'll just be beside yourself if he marry's another.
3. Ask him to stop calling so that you can move on and move away from him. Then begin to really move on
Good luck!
2006-09-25 14:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY this happened. YOUR a good person. TRUST ME YOU Will find another. Best thing here is to separate from him so you can heal, and move on.
2006-09-25 14:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋