Why is that men aren't as romantic as they used to be when you were first together? Why does it have to stop or becomes less and less. Me and my husband have been together for 2 years and he used to do such romantic things and now they have become less and less. I know he loves me very much still but I feel that the romance should continue not just be there in the beginning and then once your comfortable in a relationship it should just stop or happen on special occasions. Am I wrong for thinking this or feeling like this?
2006-09-25 07:00:17 · 14 answers · asked by babieshay27 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you aren't wrong for thinking this or wanting this. When the relationship first begins there is alot of chemistry going on and the romance flows more freely. As we get used to each other, that tapers off. but for women the romance will always be an important ingredient in the relationship becuse to her it spells L.O.V.E. Men just need to be reminded how important it is and once they realise how much happier their wife is when they are feeling loved then they will make the extra effort and time to do those special things. We speak different languages in the love department and they just need us to translate for them every once in a while.
2006-09-25 07:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could tell him. As couples settle down, those things can happen. Some guys will read about this, and should they have forgotten, this will remind them that most women care about such attentions. But it depends to much on the woman. My wife couldn't care less about flowers, so for quite a few years I would bring flowers "for nothing", just like this, thinking it was a romantic idea, and she barely ever thanked me. But my girl friend before that would always love it. Go figure.
Communication is vital!
2006-09-25 07:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a lot of work. if he knows that you love him it isnt some thing that he thinks that he needs to do. I am not suggesting that you pretend you dont love him so he starts being romantic. but maybe you should tell him that you miss him being romantic every once in a while and he will make an effort. Communication is pretty important, and nobody else can express your feelings to some one as well as you can.
2006-09-25 07:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by yelowcow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does happen. It's kind of like a game, once you win, there is no more reason to play. Doesn't make it right though. Express your disappointment to him. Because if he is holding romance/emotions back, I'm sure you in turn are holding something back as well. And by discussing this, you two will be on an open dialouge to mend the regrets.
2006-09-25 07:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you would rather have the superficial "romantic" things than the true love and committment that your husband offers you? There are many more ways for a man to show he loves a woman other than bringing her a token dozen roses every week. I don't know about other women, but I'm thankful to know that my husband comes home to me every night, treats me respectfully, gives his time to me freely, enjoys my company, and takes care of a million things that need to be taken care of in the family. I'm glad he doesn't waste his time on superficialities - this leaves us more time for the important stuff.
2006-09-25 07:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Funny you should ask this as I had teh talk with my man. He said men are always on their best behavior in the beginning to get the woman and once they got her..he stop trying to please her. Kind of like a bait and switch thing to me. I think overtime they take women for granted and figure they don't have to do anything to keep you or keep you happy. They do everythinga nd everything becasue in teh beginning the rewards is new and exciting sex and over time, it is not as new or exciting as it used to be.They get bored. They get sloppy. ANd they just stop trying because, why bother ?
2006-09-25 07:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by misfit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right. I don't understand why they have to change either. For me, when I met my man I wanted to do romantic things for him, but now I want to even more because I feel more for him and love him more than I did in the beginning. For me, my feelings have escalated so I want to do more nice things for him. He, however, thinks because we now see each other every day that he doesn't have to do little romantic things any more.
It's a shame as it's part of the relationship that I used to love...
2006-09-25 07:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's the classic lion chasing the prey. If you watch a lion in the wild chasing it's prey, they are intense on capturing it. Once they have captured the prey, they are looking around for their next victim. Once they capture the prey, they lose interest. When you buy a new car, it is exciting until the new models arrive. Life is strange like that. We are never satisfied.
2006-09-25 07:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to express this to him, he may not be aware that you want him to continue expressing himself romantically. This happened to me and I just needed to tell him that I want him to be more romantic and he is. Also, you should be doing romantic things for him as well, it's a two way street.
2006-09-25 07:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you giving him reasons to be romantic or are you just expecting it? and I don't mean reasons related to your needs, but to his needs?
When you were first together you got dressed up for him, flirted with him, complimented him, admired him, made him feel loved, desired, strong...
Are you still doing the same things you used to do?
2006-09-25 07:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋