2006-09-25 06:51:04 · 10 answers · asked by ♥♥ lou lou ♥♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What does he want to do? Tell him what you're worried about. If it's safety, health, etc. he should find a way to ease your fears. If you just don't think you'll enjoy it, I would say try it (GENTLY) and see what you think.
Everybody seems to think he wants to go in the back way. How can I put this clinically... You will probably not get much pleasure from it at first, so have him (or do it yourself) rub you so you will feel good. Sometimes in marriage (esp. in sex) what is good for one persion is not so great for the other. If this turns out to be good for him but not for you, find something else that you like. (If you don't have any ideas let him try!)
You know how some parents make you take one bite of something before you refuse to eat it? Well, try this twice before you refuse. (The second time will let you and he fix anything that went wrong the first time.)
Oh, and DON'T allow contact between the back and the front, k? Sure way to get a yeast infection. "Clean between," as they say.
2006-09-25 07:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Trips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...there are many ways to spice up one's sex life that's for sure. As far as anal sex goes, make sure he washes his member and his hands after contact there before contact anywhere else due to e.coli infection possibility. If you go ahead with the anal sex, have a drink first, use a ton of lubricant, and consider using a vibrator first to loosen it up. If its not fun, then do some other fun things. Tell him you are not a porno star so he needs to be gentle and slow and let you guide the pace. Ever tie each other up? Best of luck. Not the most comfortable topic.
2006-09-25 14:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried sweety. When there's a will there's always a way. My girl was scared so much that she used to stop having orgasms if she realized I tried anal. This is what I did: Bought a water-based lubricant, and while in doggy-style, used both my hands to play with her clit. Doggy style + clit make her moan. When she's in that state of mind, I removed one had from her clit, put some lube on my forefinger and rub her anal hole for a few minutes. She didn't care!!! I slowly inserted my finger, always making sure my thrusts are powerful and I'm playing with her clit with my other hand.
Slowly explores her anal hole inside with just one finger. Then insert the middle finger. So now there's the forefinger and the middle finger. After it's comfortable with the 2, then insert the ring finger. And finally the pinky. I know it sound like "Oh my god are you f**king crazy" but guess what, This process takes about 20 minutes. can you imagine? 5 mins for each finger to get comfortable.
The mistake couples make when trying anal is when they just lie down and try to insert the finger. But that's Eww! You have to feel the passion, get turned on when you'r clitoris is brushed, licked and touched, while a cock is thrusting inside you. You go through the feelings and then if you try anal, you wouldn't care
One more thing: When the first finger goes in, obviously you feel it's presence. Learn to relax the ring muscles around your anal hole. Very important. For your hubby: He must use as much lubricant as needed. Finish the whole damn thing if he has to. Cuz after the first time, it's relatively easy.
By the way, if you want to know wat's next after 4 fingers, it's his cock.
All the best.
P.s: Pls let me know only if you and your hubby has successfully used my knowledge. It will mean a lot to me. Thanks
2006-09-25 14:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by R. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would highly advise against it. It really does hurt like hell. The only time I have even been able to do it is if I was plastered on tequila...but the next morning...ouch The first couple bowel movements REALLY hurt. Also, Never have anal and then vaginal. There is tons of yeast and bacteria in the anus. You can get one hell of a vaginal yeast infection this way. Also, doing it often can result in hemorrhoids, and prolapsed rectal sphincter, (a common gay mans disease) Your rectum muscle will not close tightly and you will literally drip fecal matter. Just remember the anus was designed exclusively for one way traffic.
2006-09-25 14:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should not force you into anal sex if you do not want it. Anal sex is injurious,unhygenic and risky. Anus does not have flexibility like vagina. There are many other ways to enjoy the sex then why anal sex? To me it is a perverted type sex. If you are not ready for it (and you should be not) be upfront and tell him. Instead go for oral sex (less risky) or Tantrik sex (creative). Try different sex positions,sex toys and keep the flame on. You can do some exercise to tighten your vagina muscles naturally which will give him lots of pleasure like anal sex. Good luck.
2006-09-25 14:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anal sex is awsome if you guy knows what he is doing. Have him do a little research and buy some lube.
2006-09-25 14:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure he understands that he needs to go slow and use plenty of lubrication. You may find out you really like it! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
2006-09-25 14:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Baby, if he ain't satified with the front door, what makes you think the back will be any better?
It's your body. Do what YOU'RE comfortable with.
2006-09-26 12:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is a...sex-ohhhh! i got it -so buy lubrication and try it that's a way to spice it up--
2006-09-25 14:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a .... sex ???!!!
2006-09-25 14:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by i luv penguins =0p 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋