My wife fell in love with another guy but nothing happend. We are now separated because of it and now I have to see this guy. How should I handle it?
2006-09-25 06:33:54 · 23 answers · asked by kinreep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also he started flirting first when his marriage was on the rock. she when to his place to see what would happen and he turned her down. But she still feels like she cheated and left me.
2006-09-25 06:42:23 · update #1
Punch him in the mouth and forget it.
2006-09-25 06:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are very nieve. I seriously doubt nothing happened. His marriage was on the rocks for a reason, then he starts in on your wife. I find it hard to believe that he turned her down. She shouldn't feel that guilty to leave you if nothing happened. You wife is gone and the real truth about what happened left with her. It wouldn't make a damn bit of difference to do anything to this guy, if your relationship with your wife is over - what would it accomplish? Maybe you should ask this other guys' wife why things are bad with them - if it's because of infidelity, then you have something more to stand on.
2006-09-25 06:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by saelskies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to ask yourself what was it in this other guy that was such an attraction for her? Is it something in his character that you are lacking? Most married women don't look outside their marriage for anything if they are happy in their marriage.
I wouldn't ask this guy anything. I would talk to your wife and sincerely ask her how you can change to be the man she can be in love with. If there is something that has been a big issue for her that you are aware of you need to really look at that and ask yourself how you can change. I don't know you or the whole picture but I do know how a woman wants to feel loved and pursued even when she already has her man. The romance needs to keep on going and going. It will always be important to a woman to feel like her man is totally in love with her. If he gets too busy or neglectful, then that's when the temptation to look for someone else comes in. I'm not saying that is good, or right, but that explains the dynamics (from a woman's point of view). Hope this helps.
2006-09-25 06:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she fell in love with him. If nothing happened then what was it about him that made her stray to him and ruin your marriage. If you see him be the bigger man and walk away, arguing will only make it harder on maybe reconciling.But if deep down in your heart you know you will never be able to forgive her for looking the other way don't waste your time or hers i.It is easier to sometimes just move on and start new with someone else. It may take time to forget her but believe me you will when the time is right.
2006-09-25 06:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by rosie9977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you haven't said anything about whether you have kids or not. Either way it's time to move on to better things. Focus on your kids if you have any... for now. If you decide to get a new partner, married or not. This is your chance to find someone better. Or just focus on yourself.
Marriage is about love and commitment. If she doesn't love you and she doesn't want to honor her commitment to you. Then your relationship is over. You can't force her emotions to change. And you shouldn't waste you life energy or time waiting for this miracle. Feelings change.
Look at this as an opportunity to improve yourself, your game, and if and when you are ready. Find better woman who understands what being committed really means. But, you deserve to like anyone else to have someone in your life who will be committed to you. And not drift off to someone else for whatever reason.
She has just as much responsibility to this marriage as you do. I wouldn't trust her again. And if it was me, I'd watch my back. Remember her loyalties are not with you anymore.
2006-09-25 07:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by lavance_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go watch man on fire.... look at it like a metaphor, the guy your wife fell in love with is the kidnapper and your wife is dakota fanning and youre denzel washington... actually I should condem violence not promote it. Just be as classy as possible, but dont be fake, you know? Skip the pleasantries and dont speak with him if you dont have to.
2006-09-25 06:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by GoWhitey33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She fell in love with another man. What do you mean nothing happened? You have to make something happen for yourself now, you have to move on.
2006-09-25 06:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing left to handle.. It is all over with you split up with your wife so leave things alone.. move on with your life.
get your self a new girl..
2006-09-25 06:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She fell in love but nothing happened? She moved him in that quick?
You're a little naive.
2006-09-25 06:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you separate? did she decide to go with the other guy? how do you know nothing happened?
Ignore him unless you have to talk to him for business. other than that, completely ignore him.
2006-09-25 06:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool around the guy your so called wife is to blame not him she is the one that was suppose to be commited to you not him
2006-09-25 06:37:35 · answer #11 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋