my wife is pregnantand wont talk to me about the baby and i dont know if she wants the baby i do but if she does not i am fine with that too cos i love her and if she dont i will support her advice would be good on this please
2006-09-25 06:32:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
thanks to everyone for helping and you comments and support your all great
2006-09-25 08:17:45 · update #1
1st of all you need to calm down! You wife is just pissed that she's pregnant. She growing out of shape and she probably can't see her feet and she feels fat. It's normal! She needs to be glad that she has a good man like you around. A man that cares about her and the baby! Put her butt on this website so that she can read my message to her. And the message is: Pregnancy is not permanent. When you have that bundle of joy it's going to be the best feeling in your life. Better then a wedding, better then your favorite foods. I have 2 children who are all grown up and I swear I wish they were babies again! You get your head straight and if you need medication after you have the baby then you get it! But don't make your husband feel bad and he's there for you to hold your hand and he cares about you? If you need further assistance, just click on my sign-on name, I'll be more then happy to help. You 2 take care!
2006-09-25 06:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair for people to judge you on getting your wife pregnant and comments about unwanted children are uncalled for! How rude. At the end of the day it's a life and weather it's wanted or not, it's here and you have to make the decision together. Why don't you try telling her that you are happy but understand it is a huge shock and that you love her and will stand by her no matter what. Life is too short to not talk or worry about things like this. You got married because you love and trust each other and something this serious can't be swept under the carpet until you'r 'ready' to talk about it. If your wife doesn't want this baby, which she probably does but she's just worried, I know I was, then you need to do something now. The later you leave it the harder it will be. Good luck! x
2006-09-25 15:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by t11omo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going though a "transition" stage right now. Finding all this out at once and how her life is about to change completely can be scary. Some women shut down for the first month or so because they are having "mixed feelings". She will come around in due time. Just let her know everything will be fine and you are there for her no matter what. Offer counseling...she may want to consider that...it would be good for both of you so you could understand it better. I'm happy that you are concerned so keep being supportive and everything will turn out for the best. She's just scared for right now.
I know this from experience.
Good Luck
2006-09-25 13:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one to give advice on, but your best bet is to let her know how you feel about it. If you really want the baby then tell her and show her you do. Whatever is decided it needs to be mutual between the two of you, look at the pros and cons of both alternatives and go from there. Find a way to connect with her about this so you're not shut out. It may not be easy, but don't give up, and don't not tell her how you feel about it.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-25 13:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you are being supportive of your wife, talk to her and ask her what's wrong. Chances are she is scared, it is scary having a baby and your body goes through so many changes. Maybe her hormones are going all wacko right now, all you can do is ask her what she wants to do and how she feels. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-25 13:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wife. She will tell you if she does not want a baby. If you want to keep the baby then great. But you will need to be very supportive. It is sometimes a shock. Tell her that you are happy and you love her.
2006-09-25 13:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her how she feels about having a baby. Dont state your opinion, just listen to what she has to say. Let her know you support her and love her no matter what her choice may be. If shes unsure about what she wants to do, ask her to talk to you about it....let her know you're just as scared and this is all new to you too. Good luck!
2006-09-25 13:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by little lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that if she doesn't want to tell you about the baby leave her alone.When she has the baby leave her and then she'll want you to ask you about taking care of the baby. And you should say,"Well I don't know anything about the baby so the answer is no."Then she'll try to tell you about the baby needs.Then you should say,"You should have told me when I asked you when you were pregnant,"
2006-09-25 14:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could also be scared about carrying and giving birth , about the future about everything that has to do with a baby . take her out to dinner ask her all the questions u want but try it in public i mean some where she cant get away or speak loudly try it it might work
2006-09-25 13:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by inna357 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Try to get her to open up to you about it, without being to pushy. She needs to understand its your baby to. And even if she wont talk try to get her to listen and tell her you will support her no matter what her decision is. Good Luck.
2006-09-25 13:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋