FORGET IF SOMEONE IS WAITING FOR MARRIAGE OR NOT....
I just assume, once you enter your late 20s/early 30s, and you still havent experienced the most intimate of experiences ($ex), it would reaaally effect your mentally and emotionally. I mean, its in are human nature, so, its almost like denying human nature in a way!
I would appreciate answers from experts, professionals, or anyone with life experience, thnx
2006-09-25 06:32:06 · 16 answers · asked by woah 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
But what if you didnt plan on waiting that long, again, im saying, forget the reasons behind it!
2006-09-25 06:38:19 · update #1
I have life experience and shamefully agreeing because if I was around that age and still one I'd be devastated.
Edit: Hey! why did I get a thumbs down when I gave you a thumbs up? big meanie!
2006-09-25 06:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't miss what you've never had. This smacks of the sexist notion that a lot of "_itchy" women "just need a good lay." I hope that is not what you are driving at here. That's a bit silly. In fact, if anything, I'd say being a virgin would save a person of any age from the possible emotional deficits that sharing yourself with someone who is insensitive or emotionally unavailable bring. A virgin certainly doesn't have to worry about STD's or acquiring HIV from sex. So, seems the benefits are greater on that side, doesn't it?
There is more to sex than just jumping up and down in bed and screaming and hollering. At some point you have to get up and interact with a person. This is where sexual relationships often lead to disappointment. So, again, my vote is for the virgins.
2006-09-25 06:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your logic about human nature is flawed. Human nature is sinful and self-gratifying. Human nature is to only look out for yourself. If we all followed only our inherent nature, the world would be more miserable than it is. Denying human nature is what keeps us semi-civilized beings. Arguing that you are "denying human nature" sounds like a 16 year old boy trying to get you into bed.
What will really negatively effect you mentally and emotionally is if you followed your sexual instincts whenever they surfaced. Saving those feelings and acts for the love of your life (marriage)is the most satisfying experience you will ever have no matter when it comes. To be able to look your spouse in the eye and tell them you waited to share the experience with them is special. Also, calling it one of the most intimate experiences in life is flawed. The physical act of sex is not the intimate part, it's the emotional part that creates a bond. Waiting until you are married will make it the greatest bond ever.
2006-09-25 06:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Reddy492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt is 44 and is still a virgin. I'm 26 and she thinks that i am one, but i lost mine at 21 (or 24... had sex twice at 21, but i actually bled when i started back at 24) anyway, she is okay mentally. She is fiercely devoted to God, and I think that not being with a man has her focused on other things. I think that if you can remain a virgin that long, then you'd be focusing on other things, and you won't miss it. However, if it is that someone is masturbating and watching porn all the time and just waiting for someone to come around, then I think it would really affect them negatively. It all depends on your focus in life. If it is that your focus is towards getting in a relationship and getting laid, then being a virgin would take its toll on you. However, if it is that you're focused like on religion, or maybe even your job or studies to such an extent, then sex would not be nearly as much of an issue.
2006-09-25 06:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and a virgin.
Intimacy is obtained in ways besides just sex. yes it can be a good source, but who says that sex --> intimacy? It is not guaranteed.
its better to learn true inner, emotional and spiritual intimacy, since sex merely 'resembles' this.
When sex is gone, what have you left?
When true intimacy doesnt exist, what will sex get you?
I dont believe I am 'affected' mentally and emotionally.
What I desire is a true relationship, and I am willing to build it first, without letting up the rights I have to owning my body.
I dont see sex as a way to get intimacy; I see them as two separate things, which just happen to have a common ingredient of intimacy. there are many ways to express and experience it....
My attitude is, whats the rush? Either a relationship is right or its not. Sex has no bearing on a right or wrong relaationship- really!!!! it will not help either of you if you are incompatible.
It wont kill you both either, if you decide to wait until later, or, if you just dont want to- for whatever reason- have sex. Whats the big deal?
Really, i dont see the fuss.
But again, i am a Virgo.... maybe there's a connection lol
Oh dont get em wrong I am passionate and I do have desires, his and los, but NO I am NOT suffering.
I think people who 'suffer' without it are somewhere messed up in the head because I personally dont see anytying bad in not engaging in sex. I have to ask them: "Whats YOUR problem??" Must have their dynamics arranged very differently from mine....
2006-09-25 06:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Yentl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought it would, I put too much pressure on myself and went for it. Now I'm not saying it was bad - far from it, but equally it did not change as much as I thought it would.
Having sex so you arent a virgin anymore - having sex that one time - will not change your life. It doesnt really make you feel any better. Perhaps it makes you feel a little more confident next time you go into a relationship, but ultimately nothing changes inside are out. If you are lonely, you still will be. If you are shy sexually you still will be. You only gain confidence and happiness from wanting to do it, and being happy with the other person. Its about being with someone you love - cheesy but its true. Otherwise loosing your virginity doesnt actually change much inwardly.
2006-09-25 06:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it will only effect you mentally if you let it. I don't think sex is THAT big of a deal, but after having it, I can say that I don't feel different. Society pressures everyone to have sex early and the few people who hold onto it for one reason or another are people I look up to in a way.
2006-09-25 06:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way you're wrong. Nuns, priests and others who have made a personal decision to remain celebate are not necessarily mentally ill. But yes, sex is part of nature, which is why we have nature in the first place. But it isn't just human nature that has the market cornered on sex--all of nature does.
2006-09-25 07:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she hasnt had sex ever, inspite of you and your suspicious shes dishonest or something, sure. yet its no longer a blood try, shed actually ought to flow to a healthcare professional and get regarded at down there so both way shed locate out what you're doing.
2016-11-23 20:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it will not affect you mentally. Not sex itself. Lack of a meaningful relationship will. That's where human nature comes in. This is a guy's perspective....
2006-09-25 06:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋