I was under the impression that one of the people I worked with was really my friend. But she has been ignoring me lately and what not. I get hurt by it becuase it hurts when you think somebody is your friend and then you find out that not. What do you think is the best way to get over something like this.
2006-09-25 06:21:40 · 11 answers · asked by indiradelmar57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People will do that to you all throughout your life. I know it hurts, almost like a breakup with a guy. When you have a friend you care about them, you believe they care about you. The only thing you can do is be friendly to her when you have to speak to her and just ignore her when you don't have to speak to her. Don't let her see that it bothers you. You will feel better soon.
2006-09-25 06:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on and consider it a lession learned. In the work place it could mean things like they after ur job,they find u a threat,Dont use ur job for friend finding,join the general table and dont bring up anything personal,I found introducing general topics such as make up clothes, travel etc. works. Really place urself in ur group mentally and step back ,view what is really going on and where u r in that group. I wouldnt worry just do ur job ,impress ur bossBut most of all never get involved in gossip. Good luck Curious 2006
2006-09-25 13:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Curious 2006 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I have found out after 32 years is that there a few friends and a lot of acquaintances. I have alot of people that call me friend when it's convenient for their situation, but really the biggest back stabbers I have ever seen. I think may significant other and my children are the closest thing to friend that I have in my life. Good luck.
2006-09-25 13:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by Freedom 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. Co-worker does not always equal friend.
Also, think about the things you talked about with this person. If most of them were very personal, maybe this person has suddenly decided they can't stand this much drama. I've worked with people who I told personal things, and they became very jealous of me and talked about me behind my back. When I could see this was going on, I began to ignore them and go my own way. It's easy to get sucked down the drama hole - but once you get out of it, the relief is amazing.
2006-09-25 13:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very difficult. I know from experience. The passing of time is the only remedy I know of. Every time I think that I should just forget about what she did because I miss her friendship, I remind myself of everything she did to me and how she hasn't changed in the 10 years I've known her and she never will. I remind myself that if I let her back into my life, I deserve her deceit and will be hurt again, because I know the kind of person she really is. I'm sorry this happened to you. Be strong. No one is worth your self worth. (except your children, maybe)
2006-09-25 13:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a great friend I appreciate it. Hey there are 2 ways. Try to ignore her too or just try to be in the way she wants you to be by finding it by another or get some one else!
2006-09-25 13:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i do understand what you are going through that has to be hard but hard for me as well. when you think they are your friends and they do that it sucks and it hurts. I on the other hand just say to myself that i need to move on ... they weren't true friends after all more like not real friends .I to have that problem as well just wanted to tell you your not alone on that one ...
2006-09-25 15:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by juleslovesbears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do, do not let them see that you care... That will prob. only make things worse for you... Keep on talking top them as usual... if they speak to you of course if not, just let it go... Trust me things like this happen alot...
2006-09-25 13:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First never date anyone at work. Second find someone else.
2006-09-25 13:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make new friends
2006-09-25 13:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋