she wants me to watch and join but I'm scared it will hurt our marriage
2006-09-25 06:17:53 · 25 answers · asked by june71969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO! bad idea! it'll hurt the relationship when she sees your penis in that other woman!
2006-09-25 06:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by missangelica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are right -- it will indeed affect your marriage. Marriage is Admiration Respect, Passion and Trust. Does she know that?????And if she thinks that these elements will be there afterward, she is a dreamer, and in your place think I'd be asking her, "What ARE you thinking???????????"
Fantasy is fantasy, and nothing wrong with that. But to make something like that a reality, and then to have to live with it as an experience for the rest of your life, uuuuhhhhh no. Lots of women fantasize about being raped by some strong huge massive sexy guy. But it is not anything any women would wish to experience in the real world.
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2006-09-25 13:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are much worse things that can happen to break up your marriage. Wouldn't it suck if you turned down this gracious offer only to have your wife leave you for another man/woman?
If you decide to plunge ahead, just make sure not to totally concentrate on the other woman. That will not go over well. Focus on your wife, and slightly neglect the other woman (no long makeout sessions, etc.) and you should be fine. Talk about what happened immediately afterwards, so the idea of what just happened does not fester and mutate into something bad.
2006-09-25 13:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, take the plunge if both of you have a strong bond and trust with each other. I've done it before with my partner, many times. And it is fun and exciting, but don't ever let the scene (swinging) consume you. And make sure both of you look at every avenue, like jealousy and see if there is any possible issues.
2006-09-25 13:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt do it because I think it would ruin the marriage eventually. She will be thinking of you and the other girl then she will be asking you 1000 questions. Just dont do it, rent porn instead.
2006-09-25 13:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Love Child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never done it, but I would suggest NOT doing it. Come on... You know it will more than likely cause problems down the road!
2006-09-25 13:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get that in writing before you do anything!!!!!!!!! Is she the one that suggested it in the beginning?If so,then do it. That may be one of her fantasies also.You never know until you try.
2006-09-25 13:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will hurt your marriage! tell her how you feel, this just may be her way of really wanting to experiment on her own and she feels that involving you;she want be cheating but either way it is wrong.
2006-09-25 13:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by scott's wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT! You will never get another opportunity to fullfill my....um your fantasy! For Pete's sake, DO IT!
2006-09-25 13:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone brother. Think in the long-run, when the arguement is that she did it with you and another woman, why can't you do it w/her another man.
Leave it alone..
2006-09-25 13:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋