I never thought like this before I was married but after 15 years of violent arguments and 10 years of no sex I am beginning to wonder if I wouldn't be happier in a same sex arrangement. That way at least my kid can have his parents together and I can get a little relief until the kid is 18 and I can divorce his mom guilt free.
Anyone else feel this way?
2006-09-25 05:58:23 · 15 answers · asked by lonelymarriedguyinbeaumont 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, a marriage can't turn someone gay, so apparently you aren't happy with a women and it took a marriage for you to realize that. So don't try to make any other excuses, just admit your gay!!
2006-09-25 06:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by leenabootie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell you what I have seeing. I knew this person that after 20 years of marriage 2 kids, they decided to get divorced because he said that she was too volatile. The thing is that he was having an affair for 2 years back then with a man. The kids, are a little affected because of that, but I least when they go out together and they speak about that with their friends, nobody notice it because he has a Italian name that sounds like a female.
I think that if your decision to go to same sex arrangement is because you like it and you always feel about that the same way, and your marriage was only a cover or something, well, ok. But because of a bad marriage you should not do it, because you will end returning to the things that you like and hurting somebody else because your confusion.
2006-09-25 13:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by success532 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so much better for your son to come from a broken home than live in one. The violent arguments are changing who he is and who he will become. Get him and you the hell out of there until you all get some help. How awful. I see your point, but gay or not gay is not really the question. The question is how do you plan to live the next 15 years? Please change this whole thing. My heart is breaking for you and your boy.
2006-09-25 13:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a great institution. It can be blissful or hateful.It is for both partners to make a success of it. You enter in to it only after good thinking and advice from your near and dear ones. The more you sacrifice and serve your partner you are bonding the relation stronger.This applies to both the partners.When children arrive it completes the purpose. It is in your hands to make success. It is a model which has kept billions happy on the face of this Earth. Running away from this institution and thinking of relationship which is not natural does not solve your problem. It will only aggravate for the worse.
2006-09-25 13:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are working and you tried with the marriage then why have guilt if you divorce? Me and my husband use to be bad too. At that time I did understand why woman become lesbians. That part is normal but you need to remember that gays like sex too.
2006-09-25 13:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the difference between a "same sex" affair and a heterosexual affair. You're cheating at both.
Get out and don't stay for the child. Children aren't stupid.
If you're having gay feelings, then maybe you are gay to begin with and are looking for a way to appease your guilty conscience, for lying to your wife.
2006-09-25 13:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but being a closet gay can make for a "bad marriage."
And using someone to run from who you always knew you were, makes you a liar and a wimp.
2006-09-25 13:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by georgia b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't since i'm not gay. Here's the thing about being gay: You either are or you're not. Nothing and no one can turn you gay. Why don't people get that?
2006-09-25 13:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Huh? You are either attracted to the same sex or you're not. A bad situation would not make me sexually attracted to a woman.
2006-09-25 13:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
noooo, i dont think so.if it was like that i be a lesbian.i do everything i can to turn my husband on and instead he says im too s l u t ty .but believe me i would never try to cheat with no woman.
2006-09-25 16:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋