my 6 and half year old son doesnt want ot see his fatehr and every body blame me, I dont know what to do?

Question

I want to go back to my home country but because the court and other people blame me they wont go, the child is living with me and he really love to go to our home country and i cand see he is getting upset and deprss so do I and I am worried if they carry on like that either they take away my son from me or I end up to hospital.

Answer 1

He is not old enough to make the decision he needs both parents.

Answer 2

Your SON needs his father!!! You have no right to take that child to another country. How would you feel if his father tried to do that to you? You are being extremely selfish. At 6 years old, that child is only doing what he thinks you want him to do. If he is saying that he doesn't want to see his dad, it is because you are making him think that his dad is a bad guy.

This may sound cruel--but everyone should be blaming you. You are so caught up in what you want, you aren't looking at what your child needs.

Try to form a friendship with the father of your child. Allow him to play a part in your sons life. Your child will thank you for it someday, and maybe you will find peace if you can form a friendship with this man. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't know what you are asking but I think you should go talk to someone. A lot of parents can not take their kids out of the country. He is 6 why not concentrate on your son and making sure you both have fun and stay healthy. If you want to go home that badly you may have to let your son live with the dad and you come and visit. Sounds like you have a lot of soul searching to do and again seek help with that.

Answer 4

Your son needs to talk to a judge. The courts decide which parent is better off for him at this age. Once he is of a certain age then he can decide on his own. But just because you want to go "home" doesn't mean you get to take him with you. The father has rights too! And if your son is getting upset and sick over this, I'm sure it is because you are doing the same and showing him how to act.

Answer 5

Every child no matter how old needs both parents in there life. He isnt old enough to decided for himself in the eyes of the law..... The way you have to look at it is by putting the shoe on the other foot....... How would you feel if your son was with his father and his father said he doesnt want to see you and he wanted to take him out the country. You would be distrout, just like the father of your son is feeling right now.

Answer 6

do what u feel is right, who cares about everyone else focus on u & your sons needs. i also have a 6 year old son & his father lives out of state, i forced him 2 go there last summer & it made things worse. he called me every day, some times more than once crying, so i ended up having 2 go pick him up. he tells me all the time that he hates jeremy(his real dad) & that my husband is his daddy no matter what. so do what is best 4 your child. hope this helps.

Answer 7

You do what is best for you and your son and dont worry about anyone else. My 2 sons wont have anything to do with their dad and like you I am being blamed. As long as you and your son are happy that is all that matters. Don't let them get you down.

Answer 8

This is difficult, be strong but loving, don't be weak about this at 6 he can understand a few things try and reach him when he is calm not upset.

Answer 9

probably you know the reasons he doesn't want to see his dad,it could be your influence or his dad's personality,either way it will damage your child welfare,don't care about people what they say,just focus on your son,maybe you could ask his father's help if you are in a healthy touch,safar be kheir!

Answer 10

You need to see a therapist and possibly a lawyer. Good Luck!