2006-09-25 05:36:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
take a xanax!
2006-09-25 05:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by MIMSTRIK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. Living with parents who are quarrelling (or - maybe worse) not communicating is dreadful. Sometimes the parents don't realise the effects they're having on their children. Are you usually able to talk to them about how you feel? I hope so. Do you have an elder sibling, or an aunt/uncle/teacher/trusted friend in whom you can confide your fears? Because it you do, that could be the place to start.
I suggest that you take yourself somewhere with pencil and paper and make some notes about what you want to say to them. It's important how you say it, so you should try for:
1. I see you doing (this, this, this ... whatever - but make it very clearly things that they'd have difficulty denying. A few firm things is better than a long list including fantasies).
2. When you do (this, this, this ...) it makes me feel (list your emotions, e.g. afraid, shut out, angry, whatever ...).
3. You used not to be like this; it started (say when, roughly ... I assume there was a time when they were OK together).
4. I wonder whether you know how this makes me feel - and can I ask you what you're going to do about it? Because in my worst moments I think that you might get divorced and I'm really afraid of that.
Don't forget to tell them that you love them. And when you've got your little speech prepared, choose a time when you know they'll be both there and not easily distracted ... and listen to what they say.
My heart goes out to you and I hope that you come through this and that your parents do also. Much love.
2006-09-25 05:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a particularly difficult time for you. If your parents are having problems, they are so stressed that they don't see the effect they are having on you. Do you have a counselor at school you can talk to? They can be a great help in finding some support for you. Your parents could use some to to help you deal with the situation. You have to remember, you in no way caused this breakup. There are teen hot lines you can call or internet sites to help you with this. I would suggest you explore some of these resources as you will need some support.
2006-09-25 05:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by insanediego 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, First of all try and stay calm and relaxed!
Why on't you ask them to attend a family meeting scheduled for when you know they will both be there?
Tell them it's of the utmost importance to you but don't tell them why until the time comes!
When they are sat down then ask them to not interrupt until you have said what you want to say.
Get it all off your chest, especially how you are feeling about it and then just sit back, relax and listen to what they have to say.
If it's not good news then don't do anything until you are sure the info has sunk in properly and then organise another meeting with them so you can ask them carefully prepared questions you have had time to think aout!
If it's good news then phew!
If you don't get any sense then tell them you need to know for your sanity!
Good luck with it.
2006-09-25 05:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the person above suggests, you must ask them if your suspicion is true. If they say yes, then unless you can persuade them to think again, you will have to think about how you are going to handle the issue.
If you are old enough to make the decision for yourself then you will have to decide with which parent you are going to live. Above all, remember that although your parents might be parting, they still love you and therefore you must still view them as Mum and Dad.
I wish you every good wish for your future.
2006-09-25 05:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by avian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them, either separately or together. Tell them how you feel. This is not something you should carry around inside you. Not knowing is ultimately more stressful than knowing the truth, no matter how unpleasant it is. Until you know what the situation is, you can't begin the process of adjusting to it. Your parents also need to know how their decisions affect you.
2006-09-25 05:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by fyrfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to calm down your mom so if they have to fight i wont be that bad just talk to her a listen to what she saya also help your sister so that she doesnt get upset. And you need to try to eat som thing because your under so much stress that you could get sick you realize you have anxiety and thats good now think that if your sick and havent eatten you cant help and ypur momther your sister need you you all need to relie on each other and maybe your parents can solve it i know you can make it through this difficult time=) just believe in your family and yourself
2016-03-27 09:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to them about your fears? Whether or not they are getting a divorce, they may be able to give you some reassurance that it is not your fault, that they love you, and that they will try to take care of you as best they can.
2006-09-25 05:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them. If they are stop stressing, people grow apart and change and need to separate to be happy. Be happy they are doing what is best and not staying together miserable and unhappy. And resentful ending up hating each other.
2006-09-25 09:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask do not be scared to and you should not be scared if they are they will make it as easy as they can for you to cope with this. Always remeber if they are getting a divorce it is not your fault.
2006-09-25 05:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to make it harder for you but some things you have no control over. Your not going to lose your mother or father.I`m thinking that they will still be there for you .Just understand that it`s not easy for them ethier.Just keep loving them any way.Try to understand their side of it . Life goes on any way.They may changetheir minds. You never know?
2006-09-25 05:46:22 · answer #11 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋