What's the best form of birth control?

Question

DON'T TELL ME ABSTIENCE-I'M GETTING MARRIED AND I WILL HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND! I just don't want kids for a while! I am not very good at taking pills, but haven't ruled them out. I don't trust the patch or the ring....know to many people who it didn't work for! have any of you had success with them? What about IUDs? I'm considering those....but how much do they cost?...I have insurance but I'm not sure if it covers them. I'm open so tell me about anything that has worked for you (past condoms and pulling out please!) IF YOU ARE GOING TO SAY ABSTIENCE, PLEASE DON'T WASTE MY TIME!

Answer 1

IUDs are great. A lot of doctors won't put them in unless you already have a child, so be prepared for the possibility of that answer. The reasoning behind this is that an IUD can cause scaring in the uterus, particularly if you get an std (the infection will go into the uterus).

Another reason they won't put the iud in for women without children is it hurts like hell. After you've had one baby vaginally, the cervix has opened and it makes insertion easier. They try insert iuds during your period, because the cervix is softer and very slightly opened.

I have one. I have no kids, and I didn't have my period when they put it in. It hurt. As though someone had shot me. But it takes less than ten minutes to put in. You have cramping for a few days, and it just takes a while to get used to it. You feel kind of different. I had ovarian cysts (I had been on the pill for 12 years, and my doc said I would have probably had them my whole life if I hadn't been on the pill) and those were uncomfortable.

I love the IUD. It's easy. I never had to think about it, and it never bothers me. I have the mirena iud. It's good for 5 years, and you can have it removed at any time and start trying to get pregnant right away. Usually doesn't take any longer than it does coming off the pill, actually less time normally. I think they're about $300-$500. The pill is about $30 a month, so it doesn't take too long to get your moneys worth. It just depends on your insurance.

Answer 2

Uh... well, you pretty much ruled out all birth control right there in your question, honey.

The best form would be a combination of birth control pills and condoms. That way, if one fails, the other will keep you from getting pregnant. BCP has a 1% chance of failure when used alone, and condoms have a 2% chance of failure when used alone. When used together, they would pretty much give you a 100% chance of *not* getting pregnant. If you're afraid you'll forget a pill, just put the pack beside your toothbrush so you can take it when you brush your teeth in the morning or before bed.

IUDs aren't usually prescribed for a woman who hasn't carried at least one pregnancy to full term because the uterus is smaller, and a smaller uterus poses greater risk for irritation from the device. IUDs also have a 2% failure rate. Many doctors don't recommend it if you plan on having children at all (I'm not really sure why this is, but that in itself would keep me from getting one, personally).

Honestly, you need to make an appointment with your ob/gyn and talk to them about it. They could help you weigh the pros and cons to come to a good decision on what kind of birth control would be right for you.

Answer 3

My wife and I used condoms at the beginning of our relationship until she heard about the contraceptive injection. She takes it every few months and it has worked out great. She even has the added benefit of not getting periods (which is normal for some people with the shot). We have been told by her doctor that she can't be on it forever so we will need to pick something new. Her doctor suggests an IUD.

Answer 4

I'm not real great at remembering to take pills either, but I am now on Seasonnel and I seem to remember better. You take it 3 months straight and then have a period. Only 4 periods a year! I have never had a problem with it. If you are REALLY bad a remembering to take pills, look into the shot. Depo-Provera. It's the same deal, but you just have to get a shot every month. I tried that too, but hated the side effects. Just do your research and talk to your gyno. Enjoy!

Answer 5

I use the ring and I love it. The patch made me very sick, as did the pill, but I don't have any problems with the ring. It's super easy to use, it's not uncomfortable. It's also nice to not have to worry about it every day or week. Also, with IUD's it usually takes awhile to get pregnant after you take it out, sometimes even more than a year, if that's a consideration for you. The ring doesn't have that problem.

Answer 6

As no form of birth control in 100% I recommend that you try Depo Provera it is 97-99.7% effective as birth control.....note that there are pro's and cons.......
Advantages
Private.
Effective after 24 hours.
Does not require regular attention.
Does not interrupt sex play.
Has no estrogen.
May decrease risk for ovarian and uterine cancers.
Women can start Depo Provera 6 weeks after giving birth.
Disadvantages
Causes loss of bone density and risk of osteoporosis.
Does not protect against sexually transmitted infections, including HIV/AIDS.
Requires injections every 3 months.
Delay of return to fertility.
Irregular bleeding.
Most women experience weight gain

also have your husband wear a condom. Better safe than Sorry!
When condoms are used properly, they are about 95% effective in the prevention of pregnancy. When condoms are used with spermicidal foam, their effectiveness rate is nearly 100%.

Congratulations on your engagement....Good Luck!

Answer 7

My friend uses nuvaring and she said that her boyfriend can feel it some times but NOT during sex. It has worked for her so far. I am on Yasmin- the nex pill and i hate it because it makes me spot. My doctor mentioned the shot that you get sometime while you are on your period and you have to get it ever three months. I have heard that it makes you gain weight. I saw a new ad in a magazine for this thing you insert into your arm and it works for a few years. I would consult your doctor and see waht they recommend.

Congratulations on getting married.

Answer 8

Seriously try the good old fashioned pill, I've heard horror stories about everything else. I get the generic ortho tri cyclen pill for five bucks a month with my insurance.

Answer 9

I used a cervical cap with spermicidal jelly for many years. With a little planning is it completely effective. In fact the only time this method fails is when the woman forgets to put the product in.

Answer 10

try the withdrawal method then since u r so anti everythin else.....or the rhythm method....(ie at the end of ur menstrual ycle u can have sex until the 11th day ad then avoid till the 22nd day)...yep IUD s are a good option too....or you can have ur tubes tied temporarily...but that wud be an extreme...

pills are good....