2006-09-25 05:11:01 · 31 answers · asked by Tangula G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he's tired. Take a look at what your man does each day. Is he working at physical labor....then no wonder.....it's all he can do to earn the paycheck. Take notice of what it is/was that you admired in this man. Tell him..." I remember thinking how great it was when you..."
" Your ____ really turns me on, hon." Pay attention to what he is doing without you....is it the game? Do sit down and cuddle with him while the game is on. Who cares if you don't know anything about it. Eventually he will want to share his wealth of knowledge with you. Let him teach you....it will make him feel important. Give him a chance to say the things that are on his mind....maybe right now all he can see is getting the car paid off....ask what you can do to make his burden easier.....Try to create an hour or two before bed when the house is quiet. Leave him alone, unless the game is on, of course. Let him have the chance to come to you. He'll notice that you got in the tub and put a little make-up on. Light the candles and entertain yourself while he unwinds. Relax.. He will come to you. Remember that your relationship includes being his best friend. Have you treated him with the same respect you would give a friend? Don't slam him to other people, let him hear you tell your sister, friend, mom, what it is that makes him wonderful. When he's in a better frame of mind then you can ask him to stroll the beach, or wander the flea market, and share his down time. He'll be more receptive if he believes that he isn't sacrificing that all important nothing time for making an effort with you. And then it won't be an effort, it will be his pleasure.
2006-09-25 05:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to talk to him now!! I am in the same situation after six years of marriage. The longer you put off talking to him, the longer you will be unhappy. And it just gets worse. You may not believe in cheating, but after a while, some man will come along that gives you everything your hubby isn't. Then you will really feel like your life is upside down. Trust me. I know. Talk to him now. If it doesn't work now, it won't ever change.
2006-09-25 13:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what else is going on and what has changed. Has he acquired some bad habits or does he just prefer to do his own thing without you. I'd assess the situation and give him some choices and an ultimatum if he's not willing to act like he loves you and be the husband you deserve.
2006-09-25 12:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! Get out before you are there too long. I am married 23 years and have had that relation ship for probably 20 of those years. I kept waiting and waiting for it to get better but it never does . I have tried EVERYTHING! Don't waist the rest of your life "settling"!!!!!!!!!!!! Go out and grab who or what you want by the balls and enjoy life!
2006-09-25 12:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that, I am very happily married, I could never imagine my life without my wife.
I would suggest marriage counsling, or just have sit down honest talk with your husband, and find out what the problem is.
2006-09-25 12:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he do anything before you married him? If he didn't and you did not know the difference then don't bother to leave him for another since you will just malke the same mistake again.
If he did, then talk to him and see what he thinks has caused him to change and try to do something about it.
2006-09-25 12:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club
2006-09-25 12:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, really I feel for your situation. Men are dumb when it comes to relationships. We honestly have to be taught. We think you women just understand us, and know that we love you... so leave us alone and let us be men! The truth is, we are sort of dumb. We don't think about how this effects your feelings, we are totally blind.
A good women can make a man great!
2006-09-25 12:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I say "Love you're self dress you're self up any where you go no matter if its just to the grocery store around the block. Tell him you're going to go shopping at the mall believe me once he sees you looking hot and strutting you're stuff he will want to tag along. When you're with him walk with you're head held high and swing them curves. When he sees other guys look at you he will not let you out of his sight. My point is tell him you are going to take you're self out and you'll be back home latter " He will take one look at you and tag along cause he knows you look good and he will not want to let you go all alone.
2006-09-25 12:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the married life. Just talk to him and let him know that it is becoming a major problem in your marriage. If he loves you he'll work on it. If he doesn't then there is your answer. Thank God my husband changed. Very little but he's improving. Good luck.
2006-09-25 12:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋