There are some aspects of my marriage I wish were different, but I have always been willing to accept things as they are. We are millionares now, we started humbly. I love my wife deeply, I wouldn't ask this if I didn't. If nothing comes of this young girl, no harm done, but If she makes more advances, a part of me as a man will feel regret if I spurn her.. My youth was so volatile, I needed warmth and guidance, my parents were not there in this sense. My wife was. We are still intimate, she was there when needed most. We aren't needing now, she will still hurt if I tell her, but I might be bitter later if I let this young girl away, despite the fact it really isn't my wife's fault I feel this way. Wife's pregnant 4 months. Naturally, I won't do anything to my marriage during pregnancy, my fear is the girl will wait for this time to pass SHE IS 16 YRS MY JUNIOR NOT 16 YRS OLD !!! I'M NOT LOOKING TO CHEAT IF I DID I WOULDN'T ASK I'M A NORMAL MAN I SEE CONSEQUENCES I DESERVE HAPPINESS TO
2006-09-25 05:06:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then what are you looking for in this girl 16 years your junior?
Friendship?
Compassion?
Pen pal?
What do you have in common with this young lady? And you state you deserve happiness... your wife, your marriage, the upcoming birth of your child doesn't bring you happiness?
Being NORMAL and a MAN... you would see the point that everyone is trying to get across to you. A normal man that's IN LOVE with his wife would not even think, or consider, what you're trying to rationalize.
2006-09-25 05:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's do the math. If your wife is pregnant, how old is she? If she is say at least 41, which is almost at the limit of getting pregnant age, and she is 8 yrs older than you, then that makes you what 33 yrs old. So if the "hot" girl is 16 yrs younger than you, that leaves her about 18, wow, a big difference than 16. You can play with the numbers and bring the wife up to 43, then the numbers shift to you being 35, and the "hot" chick 20 yrs old. You are nuts, and your wife is 4 months pregnant. The "hot" young chick is looking at a millionaire, well, that is really great and she thinks you are
"Hot" too, I am sure. You are going to throw away a woman that was there for you during all the bad times, and now 4 months pregnant with your child, for someone 20 yrs old or younger, you are a fool. She will drop you sooner or later, because she is too young for you. You need a brain transplant, and you deserve happiness. If I were your wife, I would kick you in your buttocks. Don't blame this on your parents either, you are a grown man now, and fixing to do the same thing to someone else, are you proud of yourself. Yeah, you will hurt later after your wife takes half of your money, and the "hot" thing takes the rest.
2006-09-25 05:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what has happened in your marriage for you to feel this way?? Think about that. Sounds to me that your wife was there for you when you needed her, now you don't need her anymore so you are "looking". No fair to her, or to you. Really, everyone looks. If they tell you they don't, they are lying. That is the human side of us. But don't act on this. Believe me, you will forever regret your decision. FOREVER. Think about this.... This hot girl, how much do you know about her? Why is she pursuing a married man? She may just want to destroy your marriage and move on. Then where would you be? My suggestion would be to put more energy into your marriage. Get back what you have lost. Get counseling if needed. Don't throw away what you have to possibly destroy your future. Your wife is expecting a child. Your child. Why would you even think of leaving her at this time in her life? Have you thought about what this will do to your child in the future if you leave? You really need to take some time to think of the cons of all of this. Really think about this. If you end up bitter in the end, you can't blame your wife. Good luck, hope you make the right decision.
2006-09-25 05:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman I really don't get it. Your wife has been there threw it all and is having your child. She has done showed you that she truly loves you and you want to throw that away cause of some young girl. A young girl that may or may not stay with you. A young girl that may just want your money. A hot girl that if got away your Johnson would regret it. What happens when this hot girl get old? Or if she wakes up thinks your old and needs to go after the hot guy that wants her? If you truly loved your wife you would of thanked the young girl and then said no thanks. You know that you have everything at home and that your Johnson is not always right.
2006-09-25 05:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see if I understand. You've been married 12 years. You consider it a success - financially and otherwise. Your wife is 8 years older than you. She's pregnant with your child.
A woman 16 years younger than you is making advances, and you want to take her up on her offer.
I understand the impulse to look, you're married not dead. However, if you feel the need to follow through on this, that it's part of you "deserving happiness," then I question just how much you love your wife. Your wife deserves better than what you're giving her.
Good luck with your choice.
2006-09-25 05:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't looking to cheat, then why ask the question over and over??
Are you asking us if you can LOOK? Sure Look.
Are you asking about a threesome? You'd better ask your wife?
ALSO, WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS TOO? You've got everything and you're being a jerk. You have a wife who has put up with you for 12 years and surely is good looking because she's PREGNANT and we're assuming the baby is yours. You're going to have to give GUIDANCE to a baby. Your child deserves to get guidence from a qualified party. Also, you've built a hell of a life together. Doesn't that mean more than a cute girl???? I mean, so what?!
Also, please stop asking this question.
-- And another thing: Can't you just ENJOY the attention you're getting without DOING anything?? That's what to do. Make sure she knows it's a game, that you're not going to do anything. You can flirt and not be sued for sexual harassment! YAY! Just don't spoil your life over it.
2006-09-25 05:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you WERE NOT looking to cheat on your PREGNANT wife, you WOULD NOT have asked the question. Seems to me you are only seeking justification to cheat. Go see a shrink! Did you ever stop to think that this young girl (floozy in my book) might just be interested in you for your money? Are you willing to risk losing your wife, child and marriage for this person? If you truly are unhappy, don't cheat. Be a man and tell your wife, talk it out, work on it. If it truly can't be fixed, then you both can part ways amicably. Don't disrespect her by cheating on her, that's as low as you can get, and she may never forgive you.
I feel for your unknowing wife. You believe you deserve happiness? So does your wife! Remember the one who has always been there for you.
2006-09-25 05:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by kingston girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A few years ago i changed from one job to another within my company.
I had a crush on my new boss, who was 13 years older than me. At the time, he was 46 and I was 33. We started innocent enough. I came onto him and he said no. It was first time pursuing a man like that. I was married also, but hated it and have since become divorced.
Eventually he capitulated because, I am hard to resist. :-)
We are still friends but I moved on after about 3 years-he was still married and I didnt want to get into a married man's life after I was divorced.
He has since moved and gotten divorced also and he was just back home this last weekend and we got together for some cocktails. He has a couple of girlfriends but nothing serious but he told me he loved me, was thankful for making him see he had alot to offer women and asked me to get back together with him.
I said no as I am in a very sexually happy relationship with a man wo makes me crazy. This level of love and lust is something I have never had so am riding it to the end.
2006-09-25 05:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you truly love your wife like you say you do, the answer is simple. You shouldnt need us telling you to be faithful. If you really want to be with the other girl, i suggest you leave your wife. Be a man, make a choice. But you will regret ruining your marriage. Your unborn child will know what a jerk you were. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-25 05:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by mml619 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say you love your wife? Think about what this would do to her emotionally if she ever found out.
That is what I do. I have had several offers and I always think about what it would do to my spouse if ever were to find out. It would break his heart, and how could I ever do that to my best friend? Those feelings will pass. Or if she is not your best friend, think of what she would do if she ever found out? Would she leave you taking your soon to be child with her? Not to mention you would probabally be set back financially, because she would be bitter and take you to the cleaners, remember you are the one who committed the betrayal.
2006-09-25 05:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by lucyinthesky111l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋