There are some aspects of my marriage I wish were different, but I have always been willing to accept things as they are. We are millionares now, we started humbly. I love my wife deeply, I wouldn't ask this if I didn't. If nothing comes of this young girl, no harm done, but If she makes more advances, a part of me as a man will feel regret if I spurn her.. My youth was so volatile, I needed warmth and guidance, my parents were not there in this sense. My wife was. We are still intimate, she was there when needed most. We aren't needing now, she will still hurt if I tell her, but I might be bitter later if I let this young girl away, despite the fact it really isn't my wife's fault I feel this way. Wife's pregnant 4 months. Naturally, I won't do anything to my marriage during pregnancy, my fear is the girl will wait for this time to pass-Funny how same ppl that glorify J Lo, Britney, J Simpson etc. are now chastizing me-I already considered the worst-girl doesn't want to know (yet)
2006-09-25 04:55:32 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know honey that there is going to be no easy answer for this one. We could lie and tell you what you want to hear, but what is that going to prove? That as a happily, successful, married man, you still have it? We get that. I'm sure it's a great ego boost for you. But even you know that is where you should leave it. You love your wife, you are intimate with your wife, and about to bring another life into this world with her. After all these years, your wife has done nothing but stand by you through the hard times, build upon what you have now and I'm sure would be more than willing to make a few changes to keep you happy. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you have a good marriage honey, a loving wife and a baby on the way....why give that up? For a lustful feeling? Take a chance and risk it all on something may lead to nowhere but heartache? For a smart business man, this sounds rather foolish on your part. Why not take the time and spend it on better communication with your wife. Work on the things you would like to see change in the relationship and keep what you have.
I wish I could tell you what you want to hear, but I can't. I've been cheated on, and after I watched that affair destroy my family, I couldn't with good conscience, tell you to go for it. You never think your spouse will find out...but they always do honey. I hope you rethink this and make the right choice.
2006-09-25 05:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will feel like an honorable man if you stay faithful to your marriage. Cheating is something that cannot be undone. Its a permanent stain on your self-image that no amount of reasoning will undo. Its not uncommon for a man to look outward when his wife is pregnant, it is never good to follow up on it. Yes it may be true you aren't needing her as much, she was there for you when you did and a pregnant wife needs support now. That's how marriage goes, sometimes you have to give more than you get.
Nothing is as bitter as the way you will feel about yourself if you do more than fantasize about this young girl. Worrying about the part of your manhood that involves breaking your vows is more serious than the part of your manhood that involves sex with a woman who would have an affair with a married man.
What, after all is your definition of a man?
Is that the definition of father that you want your child to know?
2006-09-25 05:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong! I used to be a J.Lo fan and I have every cd and movie that Marc Anthony did BUT when he was cheating on his wife before he was divorced? I'm not a fan of either anymore. If you love your wife and value your relationship with her, then don't be a jerk and jeopardize your marriage just because some little girl thinks you're cute. Also, do you think that your wife being older than you or that the new girl is younger than you or that money really matters?? Your wife was there for you when you needed her, now she's pregnant and needs you, her husband. If you don't respect and love your wife, then let her go, nicely. If you're a dog, then you're a dog.
2006-09-25 05:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? The fact that you have to even ask shows that you are in the wrong place and shows that you don't love your wife as much as you are claiming. What should you do? You should acknowledge that you are a married man and that it was your wife that was by your side when you weren't a "millionaire" (I'm sure this has nothing to do with the young girls interest in you *sarcasm*)
I think if you are not totally happy with your marriage you set your wife free before you act on these desires you obviously have. I'm sure once the young girl is through with you, you will realize what you had and regret losing it.
I'm sure I won't get best answer since I'm being honest soooo I might as well go all out....GET OVER YOURSELF!
2006-09-25 04:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO please do not hurt your wife. You would literally be evil if you did this! Does this younger chick know you have money????
HELLLO! You built yourself up TOGETHER.. How sick would it be to give it all for someone who wasn't there? Someone who hasn't standed by your side, standed the tests of time. You would be crazy to risk losing your wife, for a glorified "boody call" Sorry to be so frank! This can only end up BAD if you stray! Remember who was there for you, and as you get older, and your plumbing doesn't work so good :) Will your wife still be there? What about if you fall ill, or when you get old, who can you see taking care of you? This other chick will throw you into a nursing home so fast and run with your money (the money you and your wife worked for) AND be fooling around on you. Don't be dumb. And your wife is pregnant? So sad for her that your contemplating leaving her while she carries your child.
2006-09-25 05:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by not my own 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I understand from this is you're considering an extramarital relationship with someone 16 years younger than you in spite of the fact that you claim that your pregnant wife has been there for you in the past, and that you state that you love your wife deeply. That already makes you a fool for considering this in spite of what you state. If you go ahead any further, then you will be a jackass and deserve BOTH women to clean you out of ALL of your fortune and you will wind up with absolutely NOTHING, at the very least.
2006-09-25 05:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Tiberius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight.. . .. you are married to a wonderful woman. . . who. . WITH YOU. . started your marriage humbly. . and WITH YOU busted her but to make YOU TWO millionaires!! Your parents WERE NOT there for you in your youth but YOUR WIFE WAS THERE TO GIVE YOU WARMTH AND GUIDANCE!! You ARE still intimate and she IS ALWAYS THERE WHEN YOU NEED HER MOST!! YOUR WIFE IS CARYING YOUR UNBORN CHILD NOW!!! And you are worried you will regret not cheating on her with some young bimbo????? YOU UNGRATEFUL SELFISH PIECE OF CRAP DOUCHEBAG!!!!! How would you feel if your wife had a torried screwfest of an affair with some young muscular stud from her workplace. . or the poolboy. . or the neighbor???? Do you think you are the first guy in the world who is successful that a young girl has come on to???? WAKE UP LOSER!!! Do you think this young girl would give you all. . . or sacrifice all. . . or stand by you the way your wife did??? Your wife busted her butt to make YOUR life and now you want to throw it away to some bimbo that wants a piece of it for free? Go ahead and screw the bimbo but do this first!! Tell your wife you are going to do this. . . let her move on. . . let her get a divorce lawyer and take you for everything you TWO worked for. Then. . . you can screw this young bimbo in the trailer you are renting. . . of course. . .without all your possesions. . . and the fact that she would be sneaking around. . . the young bimbo probably wouldn't want to screw you! Any young bimbo who wants to sleep with a married man and who doesn't respect his marriage and more importantly his wife. . is a slut, whore, tramp, and skank! Go ahead and screw her. . . but get a divorce first! Then. . . after you've given up all you have in life and your wife for this bimbo. . . and after she drops you like a bad habit for someone her own age. . . well. . .you can sit back and jerk off at night to the memmory of how great she was!!!!
2006-09-25 05:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and have some fun with the hot young woman... This is a chance of a lifetime that you will be able to remember back to with a smile many years from now... Your wife will never find out so no harm to anyone and pleasant memories for alll......
Not what I believe by a long shot, because when you mess like this someone's gonna get hurt. But it's what you really want to hear. So how bout them 10 points?
2006-09-25 05:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want someone to tell you to go for it. No offense, but just because you are considering this, in my opinion, you are in need of marriage counciling. This CHILD is only 16 years old. If you want to put your successfull marraige on the line to have sex with a little girl, then you are not mature enough to be married in the first place. I feel very bad for your wife.
I think you should never talk to this girl again. I also think that you need God in your life. Obvious moral issues like these become very clear when you have a real relationship with God. I'm not one for pushing Christianity, but you're asking for help, and this is my advice. Take it, or make a mistake.
2006-09-25 05:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by mr3dphd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are already having a mental affair and you are looking for what ??approval ???for some guys to say that you couldn't possibly pass that piece up ??? you cheat on your wife and the pain you cause will never go away and forever you will feel like the immature boy that you are. a real man respects the woman who has stood by him and keeps his word no matter what . those things make a man a man. you have no character and if you can't resist the temptation then you are just weak and selfish. lets call this mess what it is an excuse to be a cheater and a louse. once you cross the line you and your life will never be the same.
2006-09-25 05:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋