is there such a thing as a happy marriage?

Question

do you believe it exists anymore? what makes a marriage work? how do you know you are meant to marry someone?

Answer 1

Yes there is a such thing as a happy marriage...what confuses people however, is when they think that it will always be happy. That is virtually impossible. No 2 people living under one roof will always be in harmony, it just doesn't work that way. As human beings we are made to be argumentative and confrontational and stand up for our beliefs. Even the best families go through hard times when it feels like it would be easier to quit. They know though that quitting will not make them happy. They fix the problem and move on happily until the next bump in the road. You should marry someone that holds the same values and morals that you have, this will lessen conflicts greatly throughout the rest of your lives.

Answer 2

Yes there is such a thing. Will today's couples stay married for life? Not likely.

It is way to easy to just throw in the towel and give up. Most couples don't even bother to try. Then when they split they treat their spouses like crap. The person "They were so in love with"

Marriage works if both parties are on the same page at making it work. My grandparents were married 60 years and other relatives have been married 40 - 50 years.

Answer 3

Yes there is such a thing. I see my parents and they are like mickey and minnie mouse. I have never heard my parents yell and scream they always respect each other and they ALWAYS work as a team. There is no "Yours" or "Mine" everything was "Ours" - 51 years they've been married - Obvously something worked.

I also have a few friends that have been married since high school - some going on 25 years - and you would think they were still in high school.

I think the most important rule.... be a team....and always try to do something - anything for the other person. O and a major one is kiss each other when they go out... when they come home.... be happy to see them.

But then what do I know my marriage failed... lol

Answer 4

Yes there is such thing as a happy marriage. I know cause I have one. It took some work but I have it. I have been married six years. As for what makes it work two people that love each other and want to spend there life with each other no matter what. That and not giving up. I knew shortly after I met my husband that he was the one. Something in my told me that this was the man that I was going to spend the rest of my life with and he was. It took him longer to realize it but he did. For everyone it is different but one thing is the same there heart tells them that this is it. Marriage at times isn't easy and can be so hard but then it can be the most wonderful thing. It is like learning to ride a bike. You fall and get hurt sometimes a lot and then on day no more falls. There is nothing like riding down that hill with the wind in your hair and feeling free. You know that there are times that you are going to hit a bump and get hurt but, the feeling of being free and wind in your hair makes it worth it.

Answer 5

Well I am in a happy marriage and have been for 13 years.
It is hard work at times, as are most things in life but you make a commitment and stick to it because it is worthwhile.
I knew the moment I set eyes on my hubby that I wanted to marry him (he didn't know it) and we were married within 9 months of meeting!
We have never looked back and I can honestly that he is all I ever wanted from a husband.
Too many people just give up too easily and some relationships fail becasue of extenuating circumstances, I never judge!
No-one can tell you when it's right, because only you know when the person is right for you. If you do get it right it is the bees knees but I can't imagine what it's like to get it wrong.

Answer 6

I totally believe that because I am in one! We've been together 6 years and it just gets better and better.

I think a happy marriage is one where BOTH people give 100% of themselves. They respect each other, put the other first, and are loving and caring to each other. They know how to fight fair, communicate constantly, laugh together daily, compliment each other often and always look for ways to tell the other they care and appreciate them. They tell the other that they love each other every time they see each other, hang up the phone, wake up in the morning, go to bed, and especially when they are angry with the other.

Everyone always says that marriage is hard...and sometimes it is. But at least for us, more often then not it is fun and easy being together. I wouldn't trade him for the world.

To answer your last question. We both just knew we were ment to be married together. It was something that we just understood from the beginning. I think if you really have to think about it and analyze it, there is a problem.

Answer 7

Here are some ideas to zip up your married life.

1. Saying "I Love You" works. Say it as often as you want.
2. Try a new position every month.
3. Remember, the more you give is the more you get.
4. Do not ignore yourself. Looking good for each other makes you want to be closer emotionally and physically.
5. If you are a woman and you feel like doing it, don�t be shy of suggesting.
6. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Learn to explain your angry feelings decently.
7. Exchange gifts for no reason once in a while.
8. At least once a month, do it out of the bedroom.
9. Go out alone at least once a month. If you have small kids, leave them with a friend, family or a sitter.
10. Small love gestures add a feeling of courtship. They can be serious or silly or sexy.
11. Create fun evenings, play silly games or read comics together.
12. Surprise your spouse by doing something special and unexpected.
13. Show affection and be liberal with your hugs and kisses. These small actions demonstrate the love inside you.
14. Men and Women look at sex differently. Remember sex is always on a priority list for a man.
15. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
16. Give each other a massage. Use massage oils, candlelight and soft music.
17. Never bring up issues from the past. Discuss one subject at a time.
18. Forget your ego. Don't wait for your partner to initiate something.
19. Make a ritual of going to sleep together. Snuggle for a few minutes before kissing and falling asleep.
20. Take a bubble bath together. Turn on your favorite love song CD. Then hop in together and enjoy each other�s company.
21. When you make a mistake, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
22. Try to be each other's soul mate.
23. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
24. Don't take each other for granted. Be generous with compliments like "You are great!", "good food", "Hi Handsome" etc.
25. Go to the park for long walks, hand in hand.
26. Say it! Don't imagine your partner knows how you feel. He is not a god.
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Answer 8

Yes, there is such thing as a happy marriage. My marriage is proof of that. I mean yes, it is not perfect but no marriages are. But my hubby and I have a very happy marriage and we love being married to eachother.

Answer 9

Yes, there's plenty of happy marriages. It's not going to be the Brady Bunch marriage, but there are happy marriages everywhere. Of course, there are going to be disaggreements at times, but that's all apart of life. A strong friendship and bond from the very beginning leads to a happy marriage. Gotta have trust, good communication and LOTS of honesty. There's no check off list to know if you are meant to marry someone, it's just something that you'll feel deep down in your soul.

Answer 10

Absolutely!! It took me two times, but I have NEVER been happier. Yes, it takes a lot to make any marriage work. There are times that are easy, and times that are hard as hell... you just have to appriciate what you have, love each other no matter what, take the good with the bad, and keep on moving forward! A marriage is something that you choose, it's an on-going process. It's kind of like building a house...It has to have a good foundation, and it's NEVER finished, you always have to add just one more thing.... Good luck!