Okay I'm married, he's married. I'm somewhat love my husband and had flings before. But I've never felt like this before. He's had an affair before and left his wife once not for the other woman just because he didn't love his wife. He wet back to his wife out of obligation. I know it just about sex, right? I know nothing can become of us we both have famlies. But why do feel so depressed and out of it when he's not around? Why do I feel like my heart is falling out of my chest when I leave him? And all it takes is just on text from him and i feel like i can do anything. How can I keep this just as sex and move on?
2006-09-25 04:37:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
STOP...What your doing!!!!
Sex is designed by God to make a husband and wife closer; so when you have it with another man ...it makes your mind want to be close to him!!
If you love your husband, you can get the same feelings back, but it will take some time to clear your mind from the affair!
2006-09-25 04:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you may not have either of them in the end. Especially when your husband finds out and believe me, one way or another he will. Not only will you loose him, but you WILL loose your lover as well. He has no intention on leaving his wife for you or anyone else. He has proved that already in the past. Why, why why, would you do this to your life and to your husband. If you just want sex, then set your husband free first. Don't hurt him. Then you can go and have all the sex with whoever you want to have sex with. I'm telling you, you will forever regret the decisions you have made in your life. One day soon, you will wake up and realize what you have been doing. You will feel like the scum of the earth and you will feel guilt like you have never felt before. It will eat you alive. It may not happen in a week or two weeks, but when it does, you will feel pain like you have never felt in your life for what you have done to your husband. This other man is nothing but lust. Your destroying all you have in your life for lust. Big mistake!
2006-09-25 05:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, when My ex wife and I not working out and I had to end 8 months of marriage and didn't work out at all. Not because of cheating or anything. I had to divorce better than cheating with someone and be still married to my ex wife. but I end it, in a better way. and remarried and now 9 years in oct 06 was the best thing in the world. 2 kids and 3rd on the way. Yes my wife and I have bad fight and good life. and you know, I rather to work it out and no matter how big it is and you know it was worth to be with her and my kids. and Cheating I done that in high school and learned that Not going to be solve any plm. so That why I work it out.
It sad that you and other guy cheating eachother over yoru and his. I do hope that you learn something from what happen. Hope you won't do it again with someone you truly in love. What if that other guy you had sex. you will be with you and you with him how would you know that he wouldn't do that to you? so that big thing KARMA will always get back to you. make sure not happen smile.
2006-09-25 04:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your family should be more important than just a little piece of sex on the side. You should be ashamed of yourself because when you married your husband you gave vows and obviously that doesn't mean anything to you. If you don't love your husband you need to talk to him about it and maybe the both of you need to get some help. You should stop being so stubborn and think about your kids and your husband. So many people think the grass on the other side is greener but the reality of ut all is that it is really not.
2006-09-25 04:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by loveable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By divorcing your husband so you are free to pursue this other man, assuming he also divorces his wife. Then you can love him, have casual sex, or marry him if you want to. Anything you want if he agrees and you're *both* free.
Maybe what you should be feeling is a bit guilty. It's bad enough that you are married, but he is married, too. How many people are you both going to hurt for your own selfish pleasures? Because if it was really love you had for each other, you'd both be divorced. And you know it.
2006-09-25 04:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too late for that.
Sounds like you have fallen for him.
What a tangled web.
How does he feel.
Tell yourself its just sex and supress the feelings if youa rent going to leave your husband.
one thing though, as long as you are having sex with other people, you will never be able to truly give yourself over to your spouse.
Thats how I was anyway.
I would rather be monogamous with someone I love than f*cking around with a bunch of guys and be in an unhappy relationship.
I think you are in trouble and you either gotta be in or out.
2006-09-25 04:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a husband, don't counton your lover to make you happy. He is cheating on his wife, he will cheat on you. It sounds like you are not happy with your marriage and anyone can give you these feelings in this situation. Give your husband a break and leave him then you will be free to live your life as you like and that honey is what will make you feel like you can do anything 24/7.
2006-09-25 04:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a whore!! you are married and should be thinking of your husband. He is who you married. If he is only with his wife for obligation, then why would you want such a weak man. He is married. What you are feeling is low self esteem. You should be ashamed of yourself. Why would you ruin his family WITH KIDS for your own pleasure. Leave your husband and find a single man. You should be ashamed of yourself. You are a sad example of a wife/woman. I really feel sorry for what God has instore for you. Are you realizing how much you are hurting his wife. Well, you will best believe God will make sure you endure 10x worse. Get ready!!
2006-09-25 04:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What about the commitment to your husband and your family? If you don't love your husband and your feelings are stronger for this other man; then have faith in your convictions.
Simply tell your husband everything and file for divorce. Tell your boyfriend what you initiated and you wish for him to do the same.
When you come to realize that he is NEVER going to leave his wife, then perhaps that will help you see what you're doing is no more than what you're doing...
2006-09-25 04:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've fallen in love with the fantasy that life will be better with him.
You need to get your head on straight, and either leave your marriage first, or stick with it.
If you and your boyfriend were with each other, then you would get into the day-to-day living aspect of each other, and the romance would fade.
you love him, but part of it is a fantasy. Ask yourself if you're in love with hope? Hope that he could be the one for you that you've always dreamed of?
Then, deal with reality first.
2006-09-25 04:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋