Can someone please say something nice?

Question

I was wondering if someone could please say something nice about me?. I am sitting here all alone crying.
I am 45 years old. I do everything for my 51 year old boyfriend and he tells me that I am trash and dopey.Especially when he is drunk which is every night. I do not live with him.
I wash, iron, clean, garden, do his paperwork , clean his car and cook for him. I know you think I am a fool? So do I .
I suppose I just wish someone would cheer me up, Please fellow yahoo friends.

Answer 1

Hello dear friend, It is so nice to see there are sooo many caring people out there. You only have to read all these answers. Told you long ago what to do with "IT" because thats all he is...maybe now after all these beautiful people who dont even know you personally have said the same thing as me you might do what your head tells you & not your heart. Take care mate, you deserve the best xx

Answer 2

You chose the hard way to go about finding happiness. You may not realize it, but you have quite a few things going for you. You haven’t married the drunken slob, and you don’t live with him…so leaving him is an easy option.

Even better than leaving him, know that you hold his life and livelihood in your hands. You cook for him…so make him some ex-lax hot chocolate. You garden for him…cultivate thistles (the kind with pretty purple blossoms.) You clean his car…get aerosol skunk spray for the interior. You iron for him…give him a seem in his levi’s. You clean his house…but things away in a different place every time that you clean. You do his paperwork…to the words “clerical error” mean anything to you? How would he handle an IRS audit?

Most importantly, and the biggest thing that you have going for you, is that you are a good person. A horrible person would have taken him for every penny and let him drink himself to death. Still, being good does not mean that you have to suffer. It does not mean that you need to be the subject of his abuse. Isn’t it better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t respect you? Self respect is what you need, not validation from a drunken loser who can’t wipe his own behind without help.

Answer 3

You are too kind a person, you should do more for yourself, and forget about the dopehead whom does not appreciate you.

Do not let him get you down, you are an independant woman whom knows how to look after herself.

You should get dressed and go to the beauty salon, treat yourself to a makeover, or a manicure/pedicure. Nothing makes a person feel better about themselves than getting pampered.

You should tell the weirdo that if he doesn't like how you do things, he can do them his damn self. You are a much better person than you give yourself credit for.

Know that there are nicer people in the world, and there is someone who would appreciate the efforts that you make for them.

You deserve good things.

Have a great day!

Answer 4

Break up with him. Why do you think that you are that unimportant that you should be abused like that.
Believe me, you are better off alone than with someone like that.
The only way you will be able to cheer up, is, if YOU take that one big step, break it off, and get some counciling.
I see so many women who jump to the first person that comes along, just to be with someone, and it really stuns me.
If it is peer pressure, don't give in.
It is better that you find yourself, and interests, and take the time to choose someone good for you. You got to get into activities and meet new people.

Answer 5

You deserve better than that. Put yourself 1st! You can only achieve true happiness if you are happy with who YOU are first.
Your significant other should not be your cake; they should be the icing on it. This man is not worthy of you. Go out and make yourself happy. Don't live your life trying to find it by pleasing someone else. Spend the time that you have been doing things for him on yourself instead. Good Luck to you!

Answer 6

Hi! You need to get out and realize that there is more out there for you--he needs a maid -- You need a much better life. Start planning small things in your life to get you out--even if it's just to get a coffee and go to the park to sit and relax--Lousy relationships are just lousy bad habits waiting to be broken. Do something nice for yourself, starting Today!! Best Wishes

Answer 7

Thats very unfortunate, I would take anything for my stuff being cleaned, paperwork done etc. Its all about appreciation, it only takes a thankyou from your alleged partner. Just keep going and patience is a virtue or its probably time to walk. I really feel for you mam. All the best. xxx

Answer 8

HUG HUG, babes you are too good for that man.
find someone who will appreciate you and love the way that you deserve to be loved.
forget about him.

cheer up, stop crying
do your hair, put on some make-up, get all dressed up and go out for a night on the town.

Answer 9

You deserve so much better than that loser. If you don't live with him, you can totally ditch his ass. I don't think you're trash. Nobody should be told they're trash. Go out and get yourself these three things: a massage, a manicure and a pedicure. You deserve it.

♥♥♥♥♥

Answer 10

" SOMETHING NICE " I'm real bad about repeating everything I hear.... My Mom thinks it CUTE ! {Seriously} You need to get away from him he is just beating you down.... You can't help someone that won't help them self's....Your a young beautiful woman ....Your no dummy ...Your doing his work for him...Treat yourself...Go get your nails, hair done the WORKS go out to a nice dinner just for you...If you have a cell phone leave it at home..Let him feel pain & worry ..Let him get drunk ALONE, And cook ,clean,do his own paper work ....Put your foot down girl...If he needs a maid let hire one.. Show him the "Stronge" "Beautiful" woman you are....My money's on you.....Thanks