the birth mother came back in to the kids lives for a short time after 5 yrs and now again has left the kids asking qeustions "why ?" do you have any advce i could pass on to my kids ?
2006-09-25 04:24:04 · 5 answers · asked by M J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a very difficult situation for you and the kids. IT has obviously reopened lots of wounds and left everyone including you with some difficult kids.
Also its hard - if you put a positive spin on what happened you may keep the kids dreams alive of the mom comming back and if you say she is bad then it opens up another whole can of worms.
I think there are two things you can do. Reinforce how strong your relationship is with the kids and if possible demonstrate to them that they have an extended network of people who love and care for them - grannies cousins friends etc - who they can rely on completely.
say that the mom has some problems at the moment that she has to work through on her own and that she may have difficulty working through them. Its ok that you are sad or angry about this at the moment but we asa family unit will always be there for you.
They are likely to be very p"ssed off now or in a few years but demonstrating your love and security will help.
2006-09-25 04:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that it is not them. That some people can help bring children in the world but can't be parents. At least they brought them into the world cause know you both have each other and that is what counts. Some people who can't be parents need to bring children in the world so that others can be parents.
2006-09-25 04:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens when the person doesn't take responsibility for their actions. Many things can contribute to the person's lack; drugs, alcohol, low self esteem, lack of good role models, opportunities, etc.
Mommy can't take care of you right now, because she can't take care of herself and her own needs.
2006-09-25 04:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Its not the right time for you to know, please give me an excuse"
2006-09-25 04:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.
She's a loser.
2006-09-25 04:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋