Why do so many woman think the min. they see mucus or feel the slightest thing it's time to run to the Doctor.

Question

I think why spend all these extra hours at the hosptial bored or have unnessecary pitocin or procedures because labor started 30 mins. ago. I am fine with medicated births but give yourself a chance to get started. Do others feel this way?

I have 2 children of my own. I feel women should educate themselves better about childbirth. We have a tendency to just follow along with our Dr.'s and this is wrong. Why do we ask questions on our childrens part but let ourselves be treated as a incibator instead of a patient with our own needs.

Answer 1

I know what you mean. my doctor induced my labor and i never went into labor so I had a c-section. While I was on the table I heared my doctor telling the nurse as soon as she was done with me she was going on her cruise. I belive the doctor got me out of the way early just so she could go on vacation.

Answer 2

No, I don't feel this way.

With my first son, I jumped at the slightest movement he made, freaked out the first time he got hiccups, wanted to call 911 when I had round ligament pain. This was my first pregnancy and I had NO idea what all these things were. I kept hearing, "Oh, you'll know when labor starts!" This is true ONCE you have a contraction, but how do you know what a real contraction feels like unless you've actually had one?

With my second pregnancy, I was more laid back because I knew what to expect. However, when I was 38 weeks pregnant I did "run to the doctor" for the slightest problem. My son's movements were sporadic, so I called my ob and went in for a Non-stress test. 45 minutes later, he was born via emergency c-section. When I had braxton hicks contractions, they were distressing him and causing his heart rate to plummet.

Yep, sure am glad I decided to call my ob and go to the hospital when I "felt the slightest thing" with him. Otherwise his brother would be an only child.

Give these women a break. Many of them have extenuating circumstances that you have no clue about. What if they're epileptic and the drugs they take to control seizures puts them at a higher risk for birth defects, labor problems, or miscarriage? What if they've had 6 miscarriages in the past and are (understandably) nervous? What if they're older (even though they don't look it) and are high risk simply for their age alone? What if they have a mental disorder that causes them to be naturally jumpy/nervous/easily upset people? Never judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes.

Answer 3

I think allot of it is Fear Factor. No matter how many times you give birth (3 times here) you never know what will happen, when, where, nothing. You can do your best to plan, but no one truely knows how they will feel or react when the time comes till it does.

I am all for choice, and luckily medical science has given that to us. That being said, I had to unmedicated birth, stayed home to the last second and nothing more then an IV drip with the first two, the third totally different, everything seemed to be going wrong. I paniced over things that normally I wouldn't have thought twice about but luckily I did b/c me being a freaked out experienced mom rushing to the hospital for what seemed to everyone else as no reason ended up being what saved my son's life. Instinct is everything, it is human nature, it is the only thing a pregnant women really has going for her when the time comes.

Answer 4

A little judgmental there, aren't we? I know that comment will earn me a thumbs down, but seriously, why are you criticizing something that has nothing to do with your body personally?
While I have never been pregnant nor given birth before, I can understand the fear moms-to-be must have when the "slightest" thing arises. I would rather freak out and waste hours at the hospital than ignore whatever's going on with my body and find out too late that something is wrong. Most of us aren't MDs when we conceive, so how are we supposed to know what's normal and what isn't?

I'm sorry, but researching doesn't always work for some. You can read about life experiences all day, but when something happens, it's human nature to "freak out" and you just do. It's too bad we can't all be superheros....

Answer 5

I feel the same way you do. I didnt have much of a choice but to run to the hospital though. It was either go right then or risk my husband not being there at the birth. He was on his way out of own. If my daoughter had better timing (like on a weekend) I would have stayed home way longer than I did. Believe me I wanted a very natural labor and delivery. I hate the way they always push you to take meds when you are in the hospital. LEAVE ME ALONE!!! If I want medicine I will let you know.

Answer 6

Maybe not everyone is "blessed like you" and have problems. Maybe they are scared after having problems. And hello, pitocin is for inducing labor......if your doctor orders it, you do it. Or at least smart people. Try not to be so judgemental about other people. People, especially women, have every right to go to the doctor when they feel it's needed, and not worry about people judging them. I had a friend lose a baby for waiting too long before going it, and want to know why? She was afraid it was nothing, and didn't want people to think she was stupid. Well, a dead baby is stupid because she wanted to impress stupid people.

Answer 7

Although I agree with you, I don't see this as a personal problem that women have, but an indication of a much greater social problem. The medical industry has been working extensively in the last century to take power away from women when it comes to pregnancy and birthing, resulting in a huge decrease in midwifery and births outside of hospitals. There has been a cultural fear instilled in women that they are not capable of handling these things without a medical authority overseeing them, and it is almost impossible to find insurance that will cover birthing outside of a hospital setting. It is only natural that women have recieved these messages loud and clear, and internalized this idea that they are incompetent without a doctor's oversight. It's sad, but true. If we want to empower women, we need to change the social structure of the medicalized birthing industry.

This, of course, is not to say that medicine is intruding. On the contrary, it has saved millions of lives of babies and women. I'm just saying it's not the only option for women who are healthy and are having healthy babies, and that should be recognized.

Answer 8

I can tell you why I DO is because I was in labor with my stillborn and NEVER knew it because I thought I was just having some kind of cramps ex...By the time I did decide to go to the doctors my son was dead. " A LITTLE LATE" Then with my other little boy I went into labor and by the time I got to the hospital with him is when I started delivering so I WILL NEVER take the chance again! ANY PAIN that I have I CALL or RUN to the doctors!

Answer 9

I've been to the doc a couple times already, once after losing my plug at 38 weeks and once just last week because i thought my water broke...with this being my first child i am very nervous and want the best for him...if anything is happening and i dont know whats going on, i would feel horrible if something went wrong...i think your opinion needs to be kept to yourself because most women do this only to be cautious for their new child...

Answer 10

ever have a miscarriage?worse,SEVERAL miscarriages?wouldnt u run off to the drs any time u thought something significant might be happening?the symptoms u mentioned are not just symptoms of immanant birth,they are also symptoms of imminant miscarriage(discharge of various kinds,stomache cramping,etc.) so it s a good idea to have things checked out.i guess u must have had a perfect life,untill now never having suffered any loss,felt any pain.nor would i wish that on u.but please try to grow a heart and show compassion.know any very nervous mothers-to-be?do they seem silly to u?well,all i can say is,there may be more deeply felt reasons for their anxiety than u can see,so grow some compassion.dont judge another unless u know all the facts,and have walked in their shoes.