specify few factors that you feel directly responsible for personality devlopment?

Answer 1

Let me take a back door approach to your question. I've been at a number of home births and have always been in awe how babies are born with a complete personality. I don't know how that's possible or where it comes from. But it is some sort of miracle.

So I don't feel so much that personality development is needed as that we have to understand what blocks our nature from being expressed as we grow up.

As far as I can tell, conditioning is the problem. Reward and punishment, like trained animals. We've learned to suppress our natural selves for the sake of social approval. Our essential selves are sensitive and curious.

So, rather than developing our personalities, I think we need to get back who we really are. This works for me by doing things for their own sake, rather than to gain or avoid some outcome.

Don't know if you'll feel this answers your question, but it's what I have to offer on the subject.

Answer 2

I raised a family of 4 children. They all turned out great! Now before you give me the credit, I need to tell you that it was because I gave them a solid Christain upbringing and their peer group was who kept them on the strait and narrow. I was active in Church and that gave them a good example to follow at home. I lived my religion. We prayed together.

I gave them chores a small allowence and let them earn more from doing other chores. They all turned out great!

Disapline was a good talking to. And if they did something bad on purpose knowing what they were doing, I smacked them three times on the bottom with my hand until they were 8yrs. old. I told them it was just a reminder of the wrong they did. I actually never had much problems with discipline!

I talked to them as a parent. I was their friend, but most of all I was their Dad. We talked openly about drugs and sex, life, any problems, and their friends. We knew who their friends were and they knew if we liked them or not and why we did or didn't. We had lots of teenage parties at our home with us there.

I tought them respect for us their parents. And respect for themselves and others.

They had rules they had to obey or they were grounded...but here I let them off ground if they did something to make up for it! Usually our children were only grounded for a day before they came to ask what they could do to get off being grounded.

When they started HighSchool I kept asking them "What are you going to do for a living?" This prepared them for the future. They realized that they were going to have to become independent of us one day.

When they were old enough they all went on Church Missions and came back mature adults.

One went to college. One went to Trade/Career school. One became a Computer Programer and travels all over the world. And the last and only girl, married a medical student. They all are doing great and have no marriage problems.

I tried to be at all their activities as they grew up. I paid attention to them and was never to busy to be their Father. I knew their friends and even helped them pick out mates! We had great family fun...and suddenly they were gone...sigh...

I hope you can gleen what you need from this...

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Answer 3

The environment where one grows up.

Answer 4

self respect, self awareness and empathy