He says that he didnt come home because I was bitching. Well, I was bitching because he didnt come home. What do you think??
2006-09-25 03:54:05 · 21 answers · asked by imflexable2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have found it to be true that when someone is cheating or someone wants to cheat, they find excuses to stay away from home and they pick fights. 4 days??? He is out doin someone else and he has the balls to come home and blame you for b*tching. That is a classic case of reversing the blame to take attention of of himself.
I know,
I have been there and done that.
What do you suppose he would do if you left for 4 days?
And what would you do for 4 days?
I can think of alot of good stuff.
Be careful of unprotected sex with him though-he could br bringing something home.
2006-09-25 04:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by cici 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he went and had a wifey vacation and wants to make you feel like it was all caused by you. Yes, you should be pissed and he should be held accountable for his behavior. You are his wife and he is no longer single. There are supposed to be responsibilities that come with being married and just not coming home for 4 days is not one of them. Make him tell you in detail what he did for those 4 days, where he was, what he was doing. Then act cool and nice for a couple of days and ask him again and see if his answers change or his story gets mixed up. He probably has some answers made up already, but after he thinks he is off the hook, he will let his guard down and when you spring the questions on him again, he will not be prepared and if it is not the truth, he will slip up. If he refuses to answer or talk about it, you need to leave for four days and four more and four more and just leave him all together.
2006-09-25 04:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more hurt then pissed and his stuff would be outside in the fire pit hmm the wonders of matches and lighter fluid. If your husband didnt give warning to his leaving the home and didnt call you during his time away then yes you had every right to ***** at him
2006-09-25 04:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by wildone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....did he leave for 4 days and not call you on any of those days, or did he leave but you both kept in contact? I would be so upset if my husband left for that long and didn't tell me where he was or when he was coming home. I think you both need to have a long talk. If your marriage is worth saving, then you both will see that these big fights are not healthy. I say lay down the rules and let him know that's not acceptable. But remember, it's not always his fault either.
2006-09-25 04:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by limeallure 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do not difficulty, he will come abode quickly. he's a guy and he needs his freedom from time to time, that would not make him a foul guy. did not you adore him at the same time as he changed into loose and had acquaintances? Why would you want to take that far off from him? you shouldn't be hassling his relatives both, it really is only incorrect. It makes you look weak and him look like he's not on good of problems with his spouse like he must be. His acquaintances will lose understand if he permits you to flee with that. that ought to damage his occupation too. you're his spouse, he's common with that he would not choose you to remind him. possibly it really is why he needs a lot time at the same time with his crew, possibly you do not even enable him breathe at the same time as he's on my own? you should make certain the abode is massive and he has a sturdy warm meal waiting at each meal no matter if he's there or no longer. by no skill instruct anger to him or disrespect. Love him in each way, yet make your self accessible for that no longer pushed on him. you probable can not be counseled each little thing, in spite of the indisputable fact that it really is on your own sturdy. do not difficulty about this. only be a sturdy spouse and be there to love him at the same time as he comes round, and he will come round extra commonly.
2016-11-23 20:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pissed? I would be Irate to the point i would change the locks to all the doors! he would not be allowed back in the house!!!!!!!!!!
I think he's cheating on you, no amount of bitching in the world should keep a husband from his wife for 4 days....
2006-09-25 04:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Melia 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wife is Irish. If I were to leave for 4 days and it wasn't work related or planned ahead I would not return for fear that my life would be in grave danger. Only a jerk would pull a stunt like that no matter what the reason.
2006-09-25 04:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by jvano35 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. Don't argue about it with him, and don't bring up any reasons why. If he asks, simply just say, "You know why, and if you don't, then there is no point in discussing it." You don't have to follow through with the divorce, but you should at least pretend that you are going to. Either he'll change to keep you around, or he'll show his true colors, in which case you've already got a head start, and a stronger case for your divorce.
2006-09-25 04:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if mine didn't come home for 4 days I would assume something terrible happend (after the first night). If I came to find out otherwise, then the locks would be changed and all of his stuff would be thrown out
2006-09-25 04:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy dog lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not be happy if my husband did not come home for 4 days. I would think there was another woman
2006-09-25 03:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋