Him and I met at a club the other night and he said that he was gay and that nobody knew that he was, he hadn't come out yet. . He was cute and we got a long quite well, we made out and **** and he wanted to meet up another night. We walked, held hands, and his two girl friends both thought we looked cute together. So I called him the day that we wanted to meet up and left him some texts and never heard anything from him. I got a message from him this morning saying that he is straight and told me that he only messes around when he is drunk and if he gets drunk again he'd give me a call. What kind of straight dude likes to mess around with a guy when he is drunk? I don't know what I should say back to him im just fücking confused.
2006-09-25 03:13:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Honey, my suggestion to you and through the experience I have had with meeting guys in a club is that they arent looking for love there. They are there to screw around and have some fun. I wouldnt take it to seriously. If he is confusing you as much as you are saying, then let it go. The guy is a fool. And I totally agree with what you said...that is very confusing. and weird? I think he may be rejecting you and you know what? Who cares...Look for your soulmnate anywhere else but a club because it's just not the best place to search for one. And I'm sure your worth more than that.....Good Luck! Have a nice Monday!
2006-09-25 03:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him nothing and walk away. It is obvious he is questioning and confused about his sexuality. He is not ready for anything more than a one night stand. He is not out so you probably can not even hope for a good stable friendship from him because he would be afraid other would percieve him as gay and he is not even going to let that happen.
You can meet him again for another one night, heck that might become a regular thing, but don't expect anythign out of him emotionally. He's not ready. if you attept to try to get more from him you most likely will only end up on an everlasting roller coaster ride. Eventually you will get sick of it and get off of it. Good luck, and sorry this happened to ya
2006-09-25 04:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy said he was gay but hadn't come out of the closet yet, it sounds almost like a pick up line to me.I think it would be in your best interest to forget him it's only a one night stand.He may be lying about only when he gets drunk and has a steady.If your looking for a full time relationship I suggest you be more careful and take your time to get to know someone to help prevent from being confused and hurt.
2006-09-25 03:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men do this. I read about it in some magazine, just can't remember which one.
This is supposedly called keeping on the "DL", and by that, I don't mean disabled list. These guys go to gay bars and clubs, trying out the lifestyle before committing. Women do this, too. Anyway, it sounds like he's unsure of himself sober, so the way to be sure is to get drunk. Good luck, and I hope it works out for you.
2006-09-25 03:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is the confused one, not you.
In reality he is most probably at least bisexual but he's not even out to himself yet. Personally I think this guy needs some kind of wake-up call, like getting an STD from one of his gay encounters.
Certain classes of dr*gs would almost certainly have the same effect on him as alcohol, but would allow him to think more clearly about his situation.
Don't fall in love with this guy, unless you really want to nurse him through his coming out, and the risk of him going back into the closet tout de suite.
2006-09-25 04:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds like the obvious, he is in the closet.
He might have a girlfriend.
I know more than one guy like this.
I am sorry to say sweetie but it sounds as if you catch feelings way too easy.
Don't become a fatal attraction or you will never get a chance to get that *** again.
Be safe and do not fall into the vicious cycle of being used by this one.
To have a few encounters is one thing but it sounds to me like you may want a more steady thing and this guy has made it clear that he is not that type.
I'm sorry to say it but it is the truth.
Be young and have fun.
2006-09-26 07:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by crystlizm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what u mean by the **** thing but I'll guess it was sex. I've been told most "str8" guys who get drunk and like to mess with other guys have latent homosexual tendencies and the liquor just brings those out. I'd tell him thanks and then just drop it. No point making an issue. I'd forget about him unless u like being messed with! I've had a few "quickies" with drunks as "parking lot partners" and they don't want to hang around, and except for STDs, they have no baggage to deal with! Just depends on what U want!
2006-09-25 03:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. Getting drunk makes you do things that you fantasized about but were too afraid to do when you were sober.
Maybe he's a closet gay? Maybe not. It sounds like it's just a sexual fetish for him.
Forget about developing a relationship with him. Whatever he his, he hasn't figured it out yet.
2006-09-25 09:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me..he is bisexual. He only goes gay when he wants to have a guy. You probably need to get checked if no protection was used...this ridiculous,he used you and thinks that he will do it again when he gets drunk..Let it go and move on.
2006-09-25 03:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is gay, he just doesn't want to face it. So, when he's drunk his true personality comes out, tell him 2 b mature and grow up.
2006-09-25 05:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋