Should my husband and I find out the gender of our baby? Some people say yes (for practical purposes) and others say no because it spoils the element of surprise. We are supposed to find out around Christmas, if we do. Advice/Opinions are appreciated.
2006-09-25 03:11:53 · 20 answers · asked by behind_hazel_eyes22 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
With our daughter we went in and had the scan, we had the doctor write down what we were having inside a card that said it's a boy/girl. He did not tell us at that time what we were having. We wrapped the card in wrapping paper for 1 week until we had a mini get together with all of our family. At that time we all watched the tape of the ultrasound and tried to guess what we thought it was. At the end we opened up the card and read it at the same time... It's a girl the card said. We all found out at once, just as if we had her. It was a lot of fun..
2006-09-25 03:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't wait to find out what we were having. I wanted to do the nursery and buy the clothes. I find it much easier when knowing because you don't have to rush around after the baby is born to get the stuff you need. Yes you can buy yellow or green but how much more cuter is it when you have a cute little pink dress or blue suit.
And the element of surprise is still there...not with the gender... but what about does it have hair, what color is the hair, who does the baby look like, how big is baby...gender isn't everything..
2006-09-25 10:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it's really your decision. I am a single mom of 2 young children, I was 16 when I had my first child and I found the gender out. I figured that since I didn't have the money to buy both girl and boy clothes that I would be saving money by knowing the sex of my child. It's not a bad thing. Some people like the surprise and some people don't like surprises. It really depends on you.
2006-09-25 10:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really is amatter of personal preference. You have to do what is right for you. You really can prepare just fine in a neutral form without knowing and it makes it fun when you call to announce the birth to give a gender. But if you have a more profound desire to make the nursery very gender styled you may want to know early. I have 2 kids one boy and one girl and I have done both. Personally for me I enjoied not knowing more.
But finding out near Christmas could be fun. You could tell everyone in there Christmas cards or gifts, or you could not find out and in the cards an leave it one present will be left unopened until the due date and what a surprise it will be.
Or you could find out on Christmas morning if you want to make it fun for yourself. Have the Dr. write the sex down in a Christmas card, and seal it, then you open it on Christmas if you want if you change your mind toss the card on the burning yule log and wait.
What ever you choose have fun and Congrats.
2006-09-25 10:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ann D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out with both of my girls. It helps to know what type of clothes to buy, what color to decorate the bedroom in and all those things. Neutral colors are ok, but I had so many problems with that (still do) If I dress my baby girl (a year old now) in blue or eutral colors, I still get people saying "what a handsome baby boy" It gets aggravating.
Sometimes though, they technician doing the scan can't be 100% sure on if its a boy or girl. At times like that, it is sometimes possible to get a second scan later on down the road to be sure.
One thing that helped us in knowing is with my oldest (2 1/2 at the time) We were able to call the baby "Baby Mya" since that si what we were naming her, and when she was born, Zoe (now 3) was able to identify her as baby Mya. Sometimes, that helps parents to be in bonding with their baby before its even born. Having a name for both sexes is good, and after the scan you can call your baby by the name you decide on instead of "the baby" all the time.
Congrats and good luck
2006-09-25 11:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find out so you're prepared. My baby came 7 wks early - I had nothing for him & my baby shower wasn't until the next week. This way you can buy some things you'll need early & have them on hand in case you have an unexpected early birth. Plus, it makes it easier to know what to buy for the baby for yourself & others, & you'll have a better idea of what the name will be so you're not still pondering over it at after he/she is born. You can be prepared w/o knowing the sex, but I think it just makes things easier. Besides that, knowing the sex makes it easier to bond, the baby will seem more real to you.
2006-09-25 10:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care about decorations or stuffing gender roles down your kid's throat, I'd say wait and be surprised. I might find out my baby's gender, but if I do, I'm not telling many people. I don't want all pink or all blue at my shower! If you want to find out for curiousity sake, I'd suggest keeping the news a secret.
I also don't want a bunch or yellow, so I'm going to discretely mention colors that we like and will be decorating the baby's rm with on the shower invites, so we get a variety. Congrats!
2006-09-25 10:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for my first three children i didn't want to know ahead of time... but i was DEVISTATED when i had my third son... i was SO CERTAIN he was a girl. when i got pregnant with our fourth child i INSISTED on knowing ahead of time... because if it was another boy i knew i needed time to adjust to the thought BEFORE the birth! the fourth was a girl though. i am now pregnant again throught the miracle of IVF and i want to know the gender again... i want to know because child #4 & #5 are about 8.5 years apart... so i need to buy EVERYTHING and since this will be my last child i want a pink stroller if it's a girl... etc... etc...
finding out the gender of your child is a personal choice. just think about why you WANT to know or why you WANT to be surprised. i will tell you that it was VERY exciting to be surprised with my first two... i always knew i wanted a big family so the importance of knowing the gender was not even an issue until i knew i was getting close to my last chance to have a daughter.
best of luck and CONGRATS to you!
2006-09-25 10:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its nice to hear that other couples are having to make the same decision as us!!!! we have debated should we shouldn't we find out and have decide yes we are going to find out.
i feel i will bond with the baby before it arrives coz he/she will have an identity i never found out with my last 4 babies but I'm very excited bout this 1. ( in 12 days )
i feel that you and your husband should do this if its what you both want. i have heard all horror stories that you get told the wrong sex etc but i feel for the money you pay nowadays and the equipment they use this would be hard to get wrong now ....boys have bits on show... girls dont!!!! i wish you all the luck with this decision. let us know the outcome x x x
2006-09-25 10:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't wait with any of mine, so I found out, but I always wished I could have waited.
On another note my oldest is a girl and I was told she was a boy, twice, so keep that in mind as well, they are not 100% accurate, lol. I went around for months buying stuff, decorating, etc. Had an U/S to check on her about two weeks before she got here to be told "SHE" was fine. SHE???? I never returned so much so fast in my life, lol.
2006-09-25 10:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by channielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋