A very good friend of mine was in a VERY serious relationship up until a year ago, when her guy broke the relationship off, and left her heart in pieces. She was in a deep depression for awhile, but then decided she wasn't going to let this guy get her down. She went back into the dating scene - problem is, she is now having a very tough time finding anyone. From my observations, and from what she tells me.... They all just end up using her, saying they only want to be friends, or altogether don't call her back. She is confused to why this is. But - I've seen firsthand why this might be! She meets a guy, keeps calling and calling, texts non-stop, and is extremely over-bearing. It without a doubt would make most men run for the nearest exit, in my opinion. Now to my question - Should I offer my thoughts on this to her? Should I tell her that this over-bearing activity could be scaring men away? And if so, how do you say it in a nice way without insulting her?
2006-09-25 03:07:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
PrincessB - Great suggestions.
Sukis_mom - Thanks! I like it too. LOL
Goldie - Problem is, she's barely into 'girlfriend' mode, hardly knows the guy and still does this. So that makes it all the more frightening to men, doesn't it?
2006-09-25 03:25:21 · update #1
Oops! Sorry Goldie, I re-read your reply and realized I was reading it wrong. Thanks for your answer. :-)
2006-09-25 05:22:11 · update #2
More than likely at some point she will talk to you and complain/mention that shes having problems with guys then you say well I did notice that you called the last guy a lot and many guys don't like that, guys like a chase maybe you should take up a hobby so that you are too busy for him.
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Take her somewhere and get her involved in a class or group activity, then next time she gets with a guy shes already involved with something that takes away some of her time and if she still wants to call him while you are around her get her attention away from the phone... "Oh yeah did I tell you about..." "Hey you'll see him soon enough right now I'm here and I have to go before long, call him later" etc.
2006-09-25 03:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by PrincessB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell her. Try to sit her down and say it as nicely as you said it here. That you might have a suggestion on the way she dates. Don't make it sound like you know it all. Just tell her like a good friend would do. I thing guys call the way she acts being to clingy. It would scare anyone away. Maybe you could just ask her to read your post and the answers. Then maybe she would understand. Good Luck.
2006-09-25 04:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to tell you that your avatar is very funny. A helmet with a flower on it, hilarious. You made my day. By the way, regarding your question, yes, you should talk to your friend. Sometimes one needs that wake up call.
2006-09-25 03:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her, she is still in girlfriend mode......she is treating these guys as if they are her boyfriends when they aren't. it is hard to make that transition from serious to single again. tell her just like it is.
2006-09-25 03:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by goldie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea tell her
2006-09-25 03:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get her the book called "the rules".
2006-09-25 03:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Rock On I 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell her to engage her brain first and then her mouth after, it should work
2006-09-25 03:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋