My boyfriend and I got into an argument. (I will keep the subject of the argument confidential).I questioned something he had said and he thought I was insenuating something that I was not. (Although what he thought I was insenuating was very harsh). This made him so mad.( I could see where it would've if that had been the case). He told me to shut up and get out of his room. So, I decided I would just leave. I was picking up my clothes I had left in the floor so I could get dressed and leave. He asked what I was doing and I ignored him. I was just going to get my stuff and go. He continued to ask what I was doing. I continued to ignore him. He told me to shut-up and get out of his room right? Yes, so that was what I was doing. He grabbed and and threw me out of his room. I don't know if I should be worried about this or not. I know what he thought I was insenuating about him was awful. But I feel like he should have asked if that's what I was saying before he grabbed me. Abuse or not?
2006-09-25 02:59:44 · 5 answers · asked by Dsoftball 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has never been physically abusive before. This happened last week and he hasn't been done anything physical since. He is a very happy go lucky kind of guy. This is why I'm so confused.
2006-09-25 03:01:34 · update #1
We have been together 3 years.
2006-09-25 03:07:45 · update #2
Sounds like you guys need to be careful. When tempers flare things are said & things are done. my mom told me a long time ago that if a man ever lays hands on you once he will do it again. Well I have been hit several times after & even got a broken arm from just little arguements just like that. Can it be prevented ,yes through counseling ,Love & alot of prayers. people can change for the best & they can change for the worst. Just don't let this be cycle in your relationship. Look into signs of abuse on internet or library. This could be serious or not but do not take a chance & sit still & wait to see if it happens again. Good luck!
2006-09-25 03:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should let him know exactly what you meant, if he has no idea what youre talking about, that is why the whole argument started. I think that you should also let him know that you do not handle a situation the way he did. He should have never grabbed you and thrown you out of his room like that. I think you should possibly stop talking to him for a while until he apologizes about what he did and assure him that you wil break up with him if he treats you that way of if he lays a hand on you
2006-09-25 03:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that was abuse. And a good indicator of how he is. Get yourself another boyfriend, one that treats you with respect and is not still a abusive little boy (not a man).
It usually takes a year or so in a relationship before people start acting like themselve and not acting how they think the other likes them to be.
2006-09-25 03:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter, if a guy (regardless of what you say or think) will grab you and throw you, you need to dump him like a bad habit. He is your boyfriend and that tells me it is very early in your relationship with him. These bad and ugly traits just get magnified with time. Leave now, it is a very bad sign about what the future holds.
2006-09-25 03:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anytime anyone touches you out of anger it is abuse
if you stand for it once
he will do it again
from experience get out before you really get hurt
2006-09-25 03:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by seven242003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋