im an idiot...may be...but real problem is that i cant get a girl....i tried everyway..but i usually fail...mzy be coz im afraid when im talking or another thing....can someone hlp me...how to begin speach with a girl to be my friend
2006-09-25 02:57:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off stop being so shy.Sounds like you have a real self confidence issue.You talk to a girl the same way you talk to a guy in a sence.If you see a pretty girl just walk up to her and introduce yourself and look for something that you can have a conversation with her about such as maybe a book shes carrying or a song shes listening to something as an ice breaker.Women are not as scary and complex as you men seem to think lol.Things will get easier for you.Im assuming that you are a young man thats why you are having alot of troubles.If you have any guy friends watch there actions around girls as well you will learn by practicing good luck to ya
2006-09-25 03:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna jump in here....not because I know the answer....but because you need to realize something.
There isn't a magic formula for getting girls...it's just the built-in cool factor that does it. You've either got it or not. Now, that being said, there is someone for everyone. Stop trying so hard and just relax. That someone will come along when you least expect it. Trying too hard often scares prospects away.
Also....a tried and true method is to get a puppy....the cutest puppy you can find. Put the puppy on a leash and walk it in the areas where girls hang out. The puppy will bring the girls by the dozens. Then, it's up to you to snag them. Again, don't try to hard....relax, be gentle, be yourself. KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN for little signs that she might like you or want to walk the puppy with you sometime (if you know what I mean...<
2006-09-25 10:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mada,
There is an exercise that is centuries old to help people feel more comfortable talking to other people. This is not funny, but you stand in front of a mirror and start a conversation with yourself. This will help you get comfortable with yourself. It will also help you to gain confidence. I also suggest that you read a book by Louise Hay, called How to heal your own life. This is a great way to build confidence also. Lastly, stop trying so hard. Women can sense that and it usually comes across to them as needy. I know that that is not what you want them to sense.
Good Luck honey and God Bless
2006-09-25 10:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, bud! You are trying TOO hard! Try to just have fun in a girl's company first. Joke around a bit (no off-color, or sexual stuff) to see if you get a reaction, then see if she is interested in going out for a coffee to talk, or discuss the latest movie, or music. Things usually branch out pretty naturally after that. Good luck!
You are putting way too much pressure on yourself. Be yourself! Girls can sense that desperation in a guy's voice and it sends them the opposite direction right away.
2006-09-25 10:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself & say hi I am whoever & wanted to know if you would like to get together sometime. If you can't handle rejection easy You may need to see a doctor for help with this issue. If not just be you & I'm sure the ladies will love it. Believe in yourself 1st cause that is where it starts. If a lady see's that you have no confedience that is a turn off.
2006-09-25 10:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying too hard and probably throwing yourself at them. Just relax and be yourself. Ask a girl you like to go to a nice dinner with you and start out just talking. You must be a friend to them to get any kind of relationship going. Just start out talking about them and not yourself. A compliment is a good way to start a conversation.
2006-09-25 10:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. No one else can really tell you what to say or do. Stop trying to find a girlfriend and put your thoughts into something more worth your time and the girl of your dreams will show up. I promise. Great things happen when you least expect it. So just be patient and stop worrying about it and your problem will solve itself. Good luck:)
2006-09-25 10:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there mate, and see what other chaps are doing, and or just scrape the guts together and start talking to any girl you fancy, you might not strike gold the first time, but that's OK, keep on trying, and you will possibly find its easier than you thought
2006-09-25 10:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by african lion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with a girl is overrated anyway. I've been in a wheel chair for 15 years now, and can only meet women to be my "friend" I just want some sex.
2006-09-25 10:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. Maybe it's the things you are saying.... Maybe they can sense you are nervous.. Don't be nervous.. Just be yourself! Don't try to think of crazy/witty "take her breathe away" conversations... Try not to seem to eager.. Just strike up a conversation about something stupid.. and then give it a rest, don't go on and on and on...
2006-09-25 10:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by SassySista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋