I've been heavily involved with my son in Scouts since he was 6; I'm a trained leader, have served on committee, raised money, worked my tail off, volunteered for EVERYTHING. Now he's a BOY SCOUT & I went on one campout in August - I also have an 8 year old daughter, who has served as "mascot" from the time she was 2. The mother of one of the scouts approached me & say she doesnt' want me or my daughter to go on anymore camping trips; now that they are BOY SCOUTS it's not supposed to be girls involved. Her reasoning "if my son wants to step behind a tree to take a leak, he doesn't want to have to worry about where your daughter is". (her words) I don't think that's a sufficient excuse; I supervise & help, I contribute $ & food, time & energy. My daughter stays with me, not the Scouts. She doesn't interfere or get in their stuff. So am I wrong for being upset? This woman has never gone on a camping trip, she does nothing. Do I let one woman interfere or should I back down & stay home?
2006-09-25 02:53:07 · 5 answers · asked by pumpkin 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since we stay in public places (campgrounds, air parks, etc) they can't step behind a tree to take a leak anyhow. I'm a single mom, so there's no question of me not taking my child with me; also, there've been times where if I didn't go, the adult/camper ration wouldn't have been met & the trip would have been cancelled.
2006-09-25 03:37:54 · update #1
And no, I'm not concerned about my daughter - as I said, she stays with me. I would never put her in a situation where she would be compromised in any way. Little boys might try to peek at girls, but since she is still such a small child, they don't treat her "that way" & never have. She stays with me.
2006-09-25 03:40:02 · update #2
I am a Commissioner for the BSA in Texas - I have been in scouting for 17 years - I believe in the BSA programs for our youth - You belong in Scouting ! ! !
You have every right to be with you troop and your son on any camp out or any other scout function - there are many leaders in scouting that are women and they do an outstanding job. Please do not let anyone try and make you feel bad or self consious about being an active adult in your sons troop - Most of the adults who make the accuation as you state in your question are the same ones who do nothing for the troop, but complain- I go camping with the scouts of several troops all the time - there are many women who are leaders and the scouts respect each. The scouts have no problem with a woman being in camp or leading them on camping trips. I will state again that it is very hard in scouting to find adults to activities any way- and when we find a good leader we sure do not want to turn him or her away - we want them to become a part of the scouting community -
A whole lot of parents think the BSA stands for babysitters of America - they just want to drop their boys off and let other people keep their kids for the weekend so mom and dad can have their own little get away - they trust the leaders of the BSA and will not even worry about their kids - However, they are also the first to complain because little johnny does like this or gets a little scratch. If we had more parents get involved in scouting, like yourself, then all of scouting would grow and improve.
You hang in there, stand up for yopur self, and please do not let any others discourage you in your enjoyment of being with your son and the other scouts of his troop.
Your daughter is also very welcome to attend camp outs. If the Scout Master has a problem with it he ( are She ) will address that with you. In fact in a few more years your daughter will be able to join a venture crew and then she will be able to attend all meetings and campouts as a scout.
You seem like a concerned leader and parent yourself. Just please do not let others influnce your decision to be with the scouts.
We all welcome you to the scouting program, and wish you the very best in your scouting carier.
Yours in scouting - CT
2006-09-25 04:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by craig t 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Take a poll involving the rest of the parents and see what they think. Personally I see no problem with it, and I think that maybe she should remove her son if he can not be a real man and piss behind a tree.The person who should be concerned is you . what if the boys want to sneak a peek at your daughter. Isn't that what little boys do
2006-09-25 09:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by joy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First let me thank you for be so involved in your son's life. Second don't worry about that one parent. She doesn’t seem to know much about boys for the most part they don't care were your daughter is so continue to support your son and the Scouts until you decide you’re done "for your own reasons"
2006-09-25 10:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tough question, but BSA is supposed to be a boy and mans world, not with a girl thrown in here and there.
2006-09-25 10:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rudy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ha ha ha
2006-09-25 09:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋