She had fun but says she is glad to be home. Should I bring up the subject of what they did sexually this weekend or just let it be unless she brings it up?
2006-09-25 02:44:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You haven't stated such, but it appears you're in an open marriage.
Did you discuss what rules the two of you would have between each other before either of you allowed for this to begin?
It couldn't hurt to ask her how the weekend went and if she had fun. It is your tone of voice and your body language that are most important. If you appear accusatory or negative in any way, then that conveys the message to her that you are displeased with what just occured.
(If it is true) Tell her that hearing the details interest you and the thought turns you on. That might prompt her to tell you because she thinks it will please you.
If the two of you have plans for something like this to occure again in the future, you might want to set down some ground rules for the communication between you afterwards. This way you won't have any confusion.
2006-09-25 02:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by eedoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had posted on here before she went on the w/e, didn't you? Well, here is some more advice.I assume that you have decided to have an open marriage since you are still calling her your wife. In that case, you both decided that you could do what you wanted with who you wanted, within reason, correct? If you agreed at that time that it would be ok to ask questions, then go for it. If not, then you are allowing your curiosity (and jealousy) to surface. I know that the idea sounded like an good one when it was discussed (I hope it was discussed) to have your cake and eat it too, but the thing is that if you aren't comfortable with this, then you should say something now. Otherwise, I believe you know what will happen. You will start to feel that this has gone from something that you found sensual at the time to feeling a resentment that you won't be able to come back from. It will no longer be what it was. There is no going back, and even the strongest of marriages can't handle trysts where you are both involved for the most part, much less having b/f's or g/f's involved. If you love your wife, and you are feeling that this isn't ok, tell her now. don't wait, because it will be you who is left behind. Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-25 10:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you know & let her do this ? Well I think there is nothing more to say. You opened the door & pushed her out of it so why do you need to know anything else. No offense but if you are into your wife sleeping with other men you should went & watched if you wanted to know. If she talks about it I wish the best of luck if she says that he was a better lover than you. good luck !
2006-09-25 09:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? What kind of boyfriend is this? Do you know they are sexually active or is it just a friend? If it is a friend and you think they did something sexually then I would ask. If you know they did something sexually and are curious what you they did, then let it go!
2006-09-25 09:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get some divorce papers buddy. You know your wife is having sex with other men and you fine with this? WAKE UP DUDE! Look at your situation very carefully. You like to live like this? Go find a good woman who wants to commit to you and only you.
2006-09-25 10:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends If you are the type of guy that gets off on your spouse fooling around on you then ask her. If you don't want to know dont ask and find a divorce attorney.
2006-09-25 09:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you freaking kidding me?Your WIFE went on a weekend getaway with her boyfriend?And you dont care?Are you a complete dumb a s s? If you know shes cheating on you get her out of your life and find someone that will love and respect you and be faithful to you.And please get some counceling
2006-09-25 09:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah go for it, get all the details, what he tasted like, did she do the anal thing, how far did she go, knock yourself out . You are obviously a spinless jellyfish who is going to get cuckolded and walked over. As her to bring him back and watch so you can torture yourself over it, then go online and get people to tell you what a worthless piece you are.
2006-09-25 09:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it her boyfriend are you guys polyigamists? If you are then I wouldnt worry about it and dont ask her...but if your arent then I wouldnt allow her to have a boyfriend and i would walk away if I were you
2006-09-25 09:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by tinker143 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused! What kind of so called marriage is this? WE are indeed living in the last days.
2006-09-25 09:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by BlkBeauty24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋