This is one of the most difficult things I have come across. I recently started to date a guy who has been my friend for years, everything is great.. he is an awesome boyfriend and he treats me well. My best friend who is also my ex (we dated two years ago and since i've always loved him and he and I would still hook up) but he told me that he is jealous of my current boyfriend and is still in love with me and wants to marry me. I do love him still, like I said i've loved him for two years. I also care very strongly about my boyfriend and I don't want to hurt him. I feel so stuck and it is hurting my ex when he sees my boyfriend and me together. In a way I want to tell him "oh well, he had every chance to be with me", but like I said, I do love him. Please help, I just need some opinions and guidance, I am not looking for someone to tell me what to do. I just need some help with this. Thanks in advance!
2006-09-25 02:31:06 · 9 answers · asked by zeppmoondreamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My boyfriend knows eveything about this, by the way. I told him and of course he was upset but then it was ok and he is actually being extremely understanding.
2006-09-25 02:45:53 · update #1
There are many ways you could resolve this delima Jessica. In my opinion, most women and men should never retain the status of friend for the same reason that your going through right now. Men and Women are designed differently. They think, act, and live almost completley opposite. for example, most men are totally logical thinkers, while women are generally emotional. Compatibility isnt really good between that combination. When a man is so interested in being friends with a woman. I find it to be a signal that he has more than friendship in mind and just has a round-a-bout way of going about it. But as far as your desision goes you have to realize you are going to hurt someone. This guy your with, seems like a great guy with what can be said in a few sentances. Your ex-boyfriend/ current friend says he is jealous, but you are right, he is an "ex" and that didn't come for no reason, am I right? I don't know why you two split but one thing I have learned over time is people by-in-large do not change. So if the reason you dumped him was bad, chances are, he will do it again. Hope that helps..
2006-09-25 02:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have found myself in a similar position before, torn between two people I care for deeply. I do not know your religious/spiritual beliefs, however, I can tell you that I would pray for God to show me the way I should go. Ask for a sign to help you resolve this conflict within yourself and so that you can be at peace with your choice. Be honest with both about your feelings and the situation and give it time. At some point, you will realize, without a doubt, what the right choice for you is. Remember, this will not be easy. It will in the end hurt someone, but if you don't make the choice that is right for you, you will end up hurting yourself. Best wishes!!
2006-09-25 09:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you think is best. But you are right about the ex. He had his chance and didn't take it. He sees how happy you and him could have been together, now that's what he wants. You also need to keep in mind that he might be trying to break you guys up just to hurt you. You know saying that he wants to get back with you and all that, he really may not want to, he might just be saying that.
What ever you choose I wish you the best of luck. Be happy and careful!
2006-09-25 09:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. Or did you try to tell your boyfriend about your feelings i am sure its hard for you. I can only pray for you and tell you to just follow your heart but make sure you don't leave the nice guy for your past. think twice because your ex is your past and you need to move on if you guys were in so much in love at the first time why still you guys are not together and he is your ex. Be honest and practical.
2006-09-25 09:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are currently in a relationship so unless you plan to immediately end it, that should be where your focus is. Your ex is your ex for a reason so you might want to think about that. Your right he had his chance and it didn't work out. It's certainly unfair that your thinking about your ex while dating this other dude.
2006-09-25 09:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all think about why you broke up with your ex boyfriend and weight this out against your boyfriend before you make a decide. it's nice being love by two
2006-09-25 09:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say pick the one you love the most. Your ex could have been with you when he had the chance.
2006-09-25 09:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Toki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try both of them... see you is more skilled in bed... if you still can't decide, try a threesome and get experience both of them at the same time.
2006-09-25 09:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a threesome...you may find out that you like getting DP'd.
2006-09-25 09:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by wade b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋