What would you do if you argued with your boyfriend everyday for 2 1/2 months and during those two months he moved to his mom's house because he said he couldn't deal with the arguing. But he came back in three days. But then in another 2-3 weeks me and him have another bad argument and that night he tell me he is staying at his moms. I told him to bring me my keys and get his stuff because he is not going to run back and fourth between houses. He leaves but comes back, the arguing continues he says he is not use to arguing with someone everyday. The arguments come from him putting his friend before me and his son. He wants to be in the street all day and night with them. So finally he told me that he isn't ready for a relationship right now. He needs to get hisself together. Should I give him his space and give it time or should I call it quits all together. I think he isn't ready to be a family man because he hangs in the street everyday and I think he has some growing up do.
2006-09-25 02:21:30 · 12 answers · asked by titiyina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sounds very immature and unreliable. It also sounds as if the two of you are very "toxic" with each other in terms of how you communicate. You might want to move on from this co-dependent relationship...
2006-09-25 02:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him either to devote more time to you and his son or you are done arguing, and you are done with the relationship. Up until this point he has not had to stop hanging out in the street with his friends because you only keep arguing, and he has never received a true ultimatum. Maybe it will make him rethink what you mean to him, but maybe he just has a lot of growing up to do. If the two of you both want different things in this relationship maybe you would be better off with someone who wants to be a "family man".
2006-09-25 09:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is up to you really. I know you are looking for an answer but nobody on this site can tell you what to do, especially about a relationship.
If you do not want to try and work things out or wait for him then the only option is to break up but that doesn't say much for your relationship.
If you truly love him and are willing to wait till he works things out and can be there for him as a friend to help him with things, than I think its clear that you should give him some time and hopefully everything works out great.
i can say from personal experience after my gf and I took a break that I was there for her and she was there for me as friends and even though we took a break because she started liking someone else and we kept fighting, the more time we spent together as friends, the more we realized that we just couldn't put our feelings aside because we do love each other and we have now been back together for almost 5 months now.
2006-09-25 09:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you and I might add, you also have some growing up to do. Proceed with the "get your stuff and vacate" plan and DON"T let him come back!!! Also, go to court to get child support. A job will keep him off of the streets for a while. He's using you. Stick to your guns, honey. And don't have anymore babies before you get a husband. It works better that way. Godloveya.
2006-09-25 09:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb...since he likes hanging out on the street so much I suggest he stays there pernmanently! You need someone who inspires you to be the best you can be, someone who you can laugh and grow with. It's far too early for the aruements to be starting, this relationship is on a one way trip to nowhere. End it before it gets messy and you lose all self-respect!
2006-09-25 09:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to youre question, you need to let him go hes not ready to grow up and be a man and take care of his responsiblites, youre better than that find someone who will be willing to help , good luck
2006-09-25 09:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by kitty_pink_fur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go back to Mommy's and stay there she needs to help him grow up some more he cant keep putting you on a merry go round just to suit him
2006-09-25 09:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by poconewyorkwanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your child deserve better. This will only continue. Let him see what he's lost and then if he's willing to change his ways, maybe you can reconsider, but unless he changes, dont take him back. It will only stuff with your head.
2006-09-25 09:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's slowly breaking up so let him go
2006-09-25 09:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by louis g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't up to us to decide for you, only you can do that,
2006-09-25 09:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋