please help with an arguement i am having with a mate. if you flirt with someone on-line (and its unlikely that you will meet them in real life) is it still cheating?
also, if you don't consider it cheating, at what point does it become cheating? if you meet for a drink? if you think about that person alot? if you kiss?
i'm really interested in everyones opinion.
thankyou to all that anwer.
2006-09-25 02:04:48 · 31 answers · asked by rubytuesday. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just so everyone knows this is not a personal question about my situation....i had a really interesting conversation with a friend about it and just wondered what other opinions were.
2006-09-25 02:11:56 · update #1
There is more than one way to "cheat" on a partner. If it is harmless chatting to fill time or just to have someone to talk to, then I say it's fine. But if you go on-line just to talk to this person, spend a good deal of time talking to them and think about them frequently then you are getting into a grey area. If you actually have 'feelings' for them and are seeking out affection, even if only over the computer or are having explicit conversations, then I think you could consider it an 'emotional affair'. If you actually meet the person then there is no doubt it is an affair.
2006-09-25 02:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is an integral part of human behavour, you do it unintentionally all the time when you deal with people.
You might just be ordering a Big Mac, or buying clothes, or paying a bill, you flirt to some extent almost everywhere.
You can stand in a club talking to someone about something quite innocent, yet to outsides who are not part of the conversation it might look like takings things past flirting.
I think meeting someone and kissing is not flirting, it is the next step on and shouldn't be confused or used as an excuse.
The line of what is and what isn't acceptable in a relationship can only be decided by the two people involved.
Some couples are quite happy for their partner to chat and kiss in a night club, some are happy to let them have sex and others go absolutely mental is they hear they were talking to someone else.
I don't see a difference if it is online or in person, just ask yourself this question:
If you found your partner having exactly the same conversation you have had with your online friend, (word for word), would you be ok with it?
And that's how you start to find out where the line is drawn.
2006-09-25 09:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about this question a while and I don't think it is cheating to a certain extent.
It depends on the level of flirting. I mean some married couples even flirt in front of each other but it doesn't mean anything. But if its a matter of you are flirting because you like this person but realize that you can't be togetehr, that I don't think is acceptable. Flirting just for flirting is fine. But once you start to develop some feelings for the person, then its crossing the cheating boundary. If you meet for a drink and kiss that person, then it is definitely cheating.
2006-09-25 09:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by CJ B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't cheating as such, though i would consider the kissing cheating. If i found out my bf was talking to other girls online and flirting i would not be very happy at all. Well if he flirted with a girl at any time i would not be very happy. I know people say what is wrong with a bit of "harmless flirting" but if that flirting is hurting the other person in that relationship then it is bad and shouldn't do it. I don't understand why some people feel the need to do it.
2006-09-25 09:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Carole T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Well I did the same and flirted with someone on line never ever intending to meet them or know anything else about them. Of course you stop up later to chat or hide it when they walk in the room.
Well my husband found the conversations on the computer history and went BALISTIK!!!. After much shouting at me and threatening divorce etc etc., he finally calmed down.
He saw it as being unfaithful, I didn't but I could see his point of view so promised never ever to do it again, which I haven't.
So I guess the answer is, if you have to ask the question do you think it is being unfaithful, and judging my my husband's reaction, then yes it is - so keep well away and stop doing it.
2006-09-25 09:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by muffymermaid 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, to a certain extent. And that is if it becomes more than flirting such as meeting, thinking about the person where it interfers with your current relationship, and most definitely kissing is a no-no.
Remember, that's how love relationships start -- just by flirting.
2006-09-25 09:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by luv2shop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you meet them for any reason it would be considered cheating,,,It may even be considered cheating by some if you just flirt over the net. But if you are just friends then that would be all right.
2006-09-25 09:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting to read some of these answers, because I am doing it with a married woman ( I am Single) and never thought of it as cheating.
Wrong but not cheating.There is a 400 mile distance so we will never meet up. But some of the calls have got very raunchy and more !
2006-09-25 12:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by iain xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's cheating when it would bother you if your partner did the same thing you are doing. I've actually tested this theory and found it quite effective in breaking bad habits. If my partner does something I don't like (ie flirting), and we discuss the matter and they continue the behavior, then I'll do it. You'd be amazed how quickly they come about.
2006-09-25 14:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good rule of thumb would probably be: if you wouldn't want your partner to see what you're typing back, it's probably cheating whether or not you're ever meet them.
And kissing someone other than a friendly peck on the cheek is cheating.
2006-09-25 09:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋