hello there...i have trouble with organizing my self any help?

Question

I quit school 5 years ago...go back to take a course...
I can not remember my abilities in recalling,focusing and most of all i feel insecure and bad when i try to withdraw from people around me to study...
schedules make me nervouse about time limiting cuz i dun trust my self in how long does that page needs....
I also have trouble in learning by heart......
I burn my mind thinking about such a thing.....
I jus do not know why i act like this......I delay too much things, i do not think seriously about my own...I'm negative person who is closed to her self from people from my social phobia and getting hurt or cheated on me.
It's miserable:-(
Sometimes i do not fulfill my needs...cuz i think there not important to me...even sex. I'm frustrated about this issue.
Goona appreciate your help.

I feel like an alien tto people and to my self. and i live out of my self all the time...

Answer 1

Well this has been a problem of mine all my life...
I think some people call it procrastinate...
Putting off what can be done at a later date that you do not want to handle right now...
Yes it is easier to live like that, but I sometimes imagine dying with things left undone and those left behind do not know what to do with my things or how to take care of things once I am gone...
My solution to this was to make a list and place things in priority order...
I must accomplish this first and this second and so on...
Once you place everything on paper and in order, you will find it not so overwhelming to you...
You will look at your list and say this week or this month I will get this item accomplished...
Then you mark through it and go on to the next...
Place a limit on your own self...
Tell yourself, I must finish this project by the end of this week or by the end of this month...
Once you focus on one item and work on it and complete it, each item in your list gets easier with time...
My mother always said to me that you make time for what you want time for...
I am beginning to believe that as the years pass me by...

Answer 2

It sounds like you have a few different things going on. I commend you for going back to school. It isn't going to be easy, but it will help you in the long run. First, go talk to your school counselor. S/He may be able to direct you to classes or someone who can help you better manage your time and help you minimize your anxiety.
Next, immediately following your classes, go to the library and do your homework. That's what I did during college. I set aside the hour or two (sometimes more!) after class to get my homework done. Here are the reasons why: 1) you're more likely to be able to get your homework done immediately after class because you'll still understand what your instructor was explaining in class so you'll have to rely on your notes less, 2) you don't have to worry about ditching friends if you just say you'll be in school from whenever class starts until a couple hours after class, 3) it will give you a boost in your self esteem to complete your homework during a set study hour... you'll feel more organized and confident in your abilities to learn and do what you need to do to succeed.
Procrastination ISN'T a bad thing unless you let it rule your life. It's perfectly normal to procrastinate on writing a paper or doing housework. It becomes unhealthy when you are using it as a way of harming yourself; it leads to negative self talk and when you have a negative attitude, you only are able to draw negative energy to you--like people who are self destructive. You deserve better. See if your school offers a class or counseling to students so you can improve your self esteem.
As for your needs, write down all your needs. The big ones are: Food, Shelter, Clothing, Feeling Safe, Feeling Needed/Cherished. Sex is a secondary need (believe it or not). Do you have enough food and a safe place to live? If not, those take top priority. Next, do you have clothing suitable for your climate? The first four needs I've listed are essential to your well being and your ability to learn and feel better about yourself. Feeling needed and cherished is something that needs to begin from within. What are you doing for yourself that makes you feel worthwhile? Are you pampering yourself? Take yourself on a date once a week. This can be on the cheap. Pack yourself a picnic and take it to one of your favorite beautiful spots. Treat yourself to a movie or light candles in your bathroom and soak in a bubble bath. Make yourself a candlelight dinner. Take dance classes or join a club to learn something you've always wanted to learn. You can't expect others to trust or care for you if you don't trust and care for yourself first! Once you've built yourself up, then you can reach out to others. Hang out with the smart kids in your class. It's good for you...it encourages you to strive to be as good as they are (yes, I did this until I became one of the "smart kids"). If you start hanging out with positively motivated people and start looking outside of yourself, you WILL eventually break down the feelings of inferiority and negativity that is holding you back. Try doing something for a stranger... I've taken up charity knitting.
Once you are able to fulfill your needs by yourself, then you can allow another person into your life on a deeper, more physical level...instead of feeling like another person will fill up the holes inside of you....and trust me...another person will never, ever be able to fill up your emptiness or make you feel whole or good or anything else. That is work you need to do...and it isn't easy...but it is well worth the effort. Good luck!

Answer 3

you better get a course that you want. something you will not get bored and love for your whole life through. get over the past that made you hate life. move on. make friends. open up with parents.

Answer 4

Seems like we'll B having to take care of you, here! Listen ;have you a Scientology Org.
nearby ? They'll help you fix all damages!!!!!!

Ciao..........John-John.

Answer 5

nothing is to late where there a will there a way