My husband and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. Been married for 2 1/2 of theose. We have had hard times like all. We moved to Ohio and My Ex dicided to get a court order to keep me from relocating our som with my family. So I came back with our daughter to keep my son while my husband worked. He came out here a few days ago to be with the famliy for a visit. He said he has lost himself and don't know where we stand so I gave him space. We slept together everything the only thing different is it was quiet. He walked out last night without a word to me or the childern. He loves them more then anything. He left a note that said he was sorry he couldn't be himself here. What do I do I love him more then anything. I don't want to lose him.
2006-09-25 01:46:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you feel when you know its the end of a relationship? Could this be why he's distancing himself from you and the children? Space is one thing but to just walk out is another. Try couples counselling or let him be on his way.
2006-09-25 01:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get someone to watch the children for a few days and go find out what is going on with your husband. Tell him that you wanted to see what he was really like since he couldn't be himself in the home the two of you have. Talk to him and don't forget to lesson. Then see what happens. Just go expecting nothing. This way if things get better the great but if things get no where then you are not worse off.
2006-09-25 09:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he feels you are growing apart. You both need to talk and you also need to get a hold of the court, your ex cannot keep you from moving as long as you can make sure he gets his visitation with his son when he is supposed too. Talk to the courts and weigh your options, your ex having your son or you having a happy marriage and family with your husband.
2006-09-25 08:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels like you are chosing your ex husband and probably is even thinking you are sleeping with him. Since you had already moved, you should have stayed moved and gone. My ex husband tried the same thing but I moved anyway and was glad I did. My son stayed with me after spending $3000 for a custody battle. I refuse to let an ex control my life and it is silly that so many women will let their ex do the same. Let your ex have the child in question and he will see how hard it will be. Why are you there making it easy for him? That is crazy.
2006-09-25 08:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there have been times when court orders have been revoked. if you can show how your husband has taken care of you and your son and that the order is preventing you from improving your lives there is a chance it can be removed. unless your ex has some kind of abuse issues i don't see why there was a problem. as long as he is able to have visitation with his son you should be able to move anywhere. you and your husband need to see if there is some kind of way out of this order because it's not fair to your daughter to be kept away from her father nor is it fair to your husband to be kept away from his family. obviously he loves all of you but he needs his family together not in another state. your ex should be willing to compromise unless he is still trying to hold on to you.talk to a lawyer that is familiar with these kind of cases, hopefully you can get this problem resolved
2006-09-25 08:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. I dont think he feels the same way for you,as you do for him. Why whould you have sex with him knowing you werent sure where the realtionship was going? So he got his cake and then walked out on you and your children??? Why would you wanto to be with a man who doesnt know if he wants to be with his family? He got issues and he needs to take care of them before he can be a good husband or dad. Or maybe he just dont want to take on any responsibilty at all. Let him alone and tell him he needs to make up his mind,,,does he want a family or not? If not then let him go. You deserve to be happy and so does your children. Its not fair to none of you.
2006-09-25 08:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a man want a wife that doesn't live with him? It makes no sense. You need to figure out a solution to your either being able to move back with him, or end the relationship. I would check with an attorney to find out your options about taking the children with you.
2006-09-25 09:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did your divorce paper say about custody of your son
my x trying doing the same think with me but instead end up losing any right that he had
your x want this marriage to fail
so you need to play him have your son stay with him so you can visit your husband from time to time
2006-09-25 08:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he had his trial sex again. Apparently it wasn't good for him. Get the divorce . If he finds himself let him date youas a new person would. Make sure he is paying support.
2006-09-25 08:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess have to hear more like why can't you relocate with son? others do? sounds like your marriage may go cause of this . can't you talk to your ex? i know others that have
2006-09-25 09:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋