I have been with this guy (strictly a booty call and we both know it) for two years now. He is married so we both agreed not to say anything to ANYONE. But just in the last couple of months he started telling me that he "loves me" and he has also told 3 or 4 of his buddies about it too. We have had a couple heart to heart talks about how we feel about each other and stuff but I have always told him that I didn't want to be the "reason why he leaves" and I was fine with just being a booty call. But I don't understand why he is telling him buddies now... is he trying to get caught to sabotage his marriage... is he bragging... is he trying to sabotage what we have between us... or is he just so happy he has to tell some one?
P.S. This is not a moral or ethical question... I know half of you will tell me I'm a bad person for even being in this situation... well guess what "You aren't in the situation so don't judge me"... so please save my and your time if your just going to be rude!!
2006-09-25 01:41:54 · 19 answers · asked by kssunflower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not here to judge, Lord knows we all have DRAMA in our lives!
Two years is a long time, it's pretty simple if you ask me.
Does it really matter if he is bragging to his friends or wants to sabotage his marriage??
The question is, are you ready to commit if he wants more then just a "booty call" from you.
2006-09-25 01:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, we don't have to judge you -- God will in the long run.
Do you honestly think that a man cheating on his wife is worth anything? Please tell me you don't. If you do, you need to take the blinders off. So what if he's telling his buddies. There could be a number of reasons why: bragging about he's the MAN, letting them know how good you are in bed, how he got you wrapped around his fingers, et cetera, et cetera.
Do you get the drift? And if he does want to leave his marriage, and does leave his marriage to be with you -- whether you think it's for the reason or not because it will be because of you -- do you really think he's going to be faithful to you? Or do you think you're the "special" one? And him telling you he "loves" you is what's in his pants talking, not him. He probably "loved" his wife when they were having wonderful sex before marriage.
You need to find a single man. Remember what goes around comes around.
Oh, also, whether you want this to be a moral or ethical question is of no consequence. It is what it is.
2006-09-25 02:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by luv2shop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AM in this situation and I will judge you if I want. This is coming from a woman who just found out her husband of 17 years has had a long term sexual relationship with a woman several years younger than him.
The wife of my husbands "buddy", told me 2 days ago about it. He apparently told him...he told her, (made her swear to secrecy) and she told me anyway. I have to tell you, it hurts like hell. I haven't confronted him yet because we have not been alone with out our children around...but he knows something is wrong. I just don't know what to do. Apparently she has known the entire relationship he was married with a family. I just could never do that to another person. I could never crush an entire family, especially children, just to get my rocks off. It takes a (2 headed) monster to cause such agony.
I looked back over your other questions, oddly, my husbands lover is around 24 years old and lives in Kansas, (what, do they breed $luts in Kansas?) I also see that you have absolutely no remorse for your actions. I just pray that you have any amount of decency to move on and find a booty you can call your own. God have mercy on you.
2006-09-25 10:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand you completely I think he does have feelings for you. You know how hard it is for a man to say those words. BUT don't get caught up girlfriend, don't let your heart go there,BECAUSE HE is married. Hell, let him stay married.Sex ain't no good after you get married and plus 'y'all relationship is hot as apple pie sooo why mess it up? If he can't understand maybe you need to tell him to back up a little before things get out of control.
Do you think you'd want him full-time? Some booty calls are better if they're just part-time. And something else to think about, what he's doing to her, he might do it to you.Hope this helps.
2006-09-25 02:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by thinkaboutit2day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't judge because i am not GOD. This guy is just using u for bragging purpose because if he really loved he would not have is wife and u. Don't think about going into anything with this guy because he will do the same to you. Walk away Also if he loves you, you would be the only thing that matters to him and in most cases these guys do not leave their wives and guess who gets hurt. Find someone that will love you and only you and also be careful as he could have more than just you and diseases and pregnancy you have to think about. Good luck
2006-09-25 01:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by antionette_jazzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know, if you feel thats all you want then maybe you should break it off, before he jeopordizes his marriage. It sounds like you don't have the same feelings. If he's falling in love with you then his marriage will go south I'm sure, and you will probably be found out somehow. If you want to be with him when all the cards fall then keep going. If your just getting a thrill out of being with a married man, then I'd end it now.
2006-09-25 01:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by Needstoknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's risky for him to go around telling his buddies that he's in love with you. But I would agree that he is just so happy to be in love with you, he has to voice it. It's a risky choice on his behalf, but still I think it says something great about how he really feels about you. I don't think he's purposely trying to sabotage you guys relationship, he's in love and apparently is not thinking rationally. Just confront him and ask him to cool out on the "bragging" thing because you think it's just too risky for him to be putting his feelings on display in front of his friends. Explain to him that you are worried/concerned that the word might eventually spread around to his wife and you would hate for that to happen.
2006-09-25 01:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he is doing tht because he loves you as you've been together for 2 years now and you may as well have strong feelings for him.
You always say it out tht you are in love coz it makes you feel happy and different in a special way.
And you won't be the reason he would leave, LOVE would be the main reason...So its totally not your or his fault, you guyz just fell in love which is not a crime.
You can never help falling in love, it naturally happens !!
As you've been together for 2 years I guess you could give it a new start by ( maybe getting married) ... I am sure tht some1 who could be together for 2 years can as well give it a try for more years !!! Stay happy and GOOD LUCK !! =]
2006-09-25 02:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok 1st off im not going to judge you for being in that situation, ain nun wrong wit gettin a nut here and there but in my opinion i would look at this as a simple sex relation when you can get it and nothing more.....why?.......hes married so 9 out of 10 your relationship with him wont change, just stay friends
2006-09-25 01:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tyronne M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not judge you, however, god will. In his eyes you are a sinner. I feel bad that you must go to hell because of this. I think you could be redeemed if you gave me that booty call every once in a while.
2006-09-25 01:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋